If I hear the phrase "gold star" one more time, I'm going to lose it.

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If I hear the phrase "gold star" one more time, I'm going to lose it.

SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Does this phrase really piss off anyone else? I hate it! It's seriously like saying that gay or lesbian-identifying people are somehow better versions of their identities by not having had sexual experience with the opposite sex.

What do you think about this phrase? Do you like it? Does it make you angry? Private voting, but feel free to comment.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
I hate the phrase.
13  (21%)
I am indifferent of the phrase.
40  (66%)
I like the phrase.
8  (13%)
Total votes: 61
Poll is closed
04/14/2012
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Badass Badass
I definitely thought you were talking about something else at first.

Gold star can have a few meanings in American society. I thought you meant like in school.
I ask the boyfriend how to spell something, he spells it wrong I say "Wrong answer, no gold star this time"

I was about to say "I like the phrase" Then I realized you are talking about something regarding gay or lesbian-identifying people...
I never knew the term could mean that.
04/14/2012
Katelyn Katelyn
I don't mind the phrase because it is fine for people to be proud of being a "gold star". As long as people don' pressure or judge me for not being one.

I think it is a positive way of voicing something that people are proud of. It is not necessarily putting down people that aren't gold stars.
04/14/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I have never known anyone to take it seriously.
04/14/2012
Stinkytofu10 Stinkytofu10
Quote:
Originally posted by SubmissiveFeminist
Does this phrase really piss off anyone else? I hate it! It's seriously like saying that gay or lesbian-identifying people are somehow better versions of their identities by not having had sexual experience with the opposite sex.

What do ...
I am rather indifferent about this phrase.
04/14/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
I'd never even heard it before I joined this site
04/14/2012
Ice1 Ice1
It sounds to me like you're reading into it too much. To me, it doesn't have anything to do with superiority or anything. It's just an identifier/flag that someone hasn't been with the opposite gender. Whether it's 'gold star' or some other term I'm guessing you'd probably feel the same way about it?
04/14/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
I don't mind it. It's just a term used to explain someone's experiences. Personally, I don't care what kind of star you are: gold, silver, bronze, platinum, neutron, candy, Mario power, etc. We are all stars.
04/14/2012
Mwar Mwar
It's only when I hear something a million times that it bothers me.
04/14/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
I have no idea what "gold star" means in the context of the LGBT community. Can someone please explain?
04/14/2012
DeliciousSurprise DeliciousSurprise
Quote:
Originally posted by Petite Valentine
I have no idea what "gold star" means in the context of the LGBT community. Can someone please explain?
A gold star is a person that's never been sexually involved with a member of the opposite sex, and has only been with same-gendered partners.
04/14/2012
Nazaress Nazaress
I don't particularly like the word. I think I've used it once, in one of your threads, actually. And it wasn't even to say that they are "better" but as a quick explanation so I didn't have to write out "every lesbian who has never had sex with a man". It doesn't quite have the same ring to it and it would have made my argument awkward-sounding. But I digress. Yeah, it makes other lesbians seem like they're not "lesbian" enough. I get that enough because I'm with a male partner but I don't really consider myself "bisexual" enough to BE bisexual.
04/14/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
I don't think I've ever heard the phrase used in this context. Maybe it's time to crawl out from under my rock!
04/14/2012
Thomas90 Thomas90
If im honest it doesn't bother me at all.
04/14/2012
Crystal1 Crystal1
I've never heard it.
04/14/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I would have added a "I've never heard of it" option, since this is the first I hear of it.
04/14/2012
JessCee JessCee
Quote:
Originally posted by Crystal1
I've never heard it.
Me either.
04/14/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
I'm indifferent.
04/14/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
I'm indifferent.
Me too...
04/14/2012
underHim underHim
I dont really care as long as they do not think that it makes them better than others. I think people would probably be offended however if I decided to call myself a platinum star or something because I have only been with someone of the opposite sex.
04/15/2012
Bzz Bzz
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I dont really care as long as they do not think that it makes them better than others. I think people would probably be offended however if I decided to call myself a platinum star or something because I have only been with someone of the opposite ...
Nah, I call myself a gold star because its the common term. If platinum star became a common term, I wouldn't have a big deal with it.
04/15/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
Quote:
Originally posted by underHim
I dont really care as long as they do not think that it makes them better than others. I think people would probably be offended however if I decided to call myself a platinum star or something because I have only been with someone of the opposite ...
I just feel like it's a weird term. Gold stars are, as someone said, seen as rewards for being the best. It really comes off to me like someone who has been with both sexes second-rate. I'm all for having a term for these experiences, I just think it's an odd term, is all.
04/15/2012
BlooJay BlooJay
I never heard of it until today. I'm indifferent to it.
04/15/2012
gatewoodr gatewoodr
To be honest I don't really know what it means lol.
04/15/2012
GONE! GONE!
I agree, because to me it makes it sound almost like there's something wrong with having been with people that would go against your self-identified orientation. Sexuality is fluid and there are always exceptions. There's nothing wrong with that at all!
04/15/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Never heard of it, still don't get it.
04/15/2012
spineyogurt spineyogurt
I never heard that before, Im so out of touch
04/15/2012
DiamondKoala DiamondKoala
I've never heard of this phrase either, but I guess eventually it would get to me.
04/15/2012
Love Obsessed Love Obsessed
I haven't really heard that phrase.The first time was yesterday.
04/15/2012
vegweg vegweg
I think what really bothers me about the "gold star" thing is that I view the LGBTQI spectrum as an umbrella of those who don't fit society's expectations and I think that too much differentiation (and possible fighting) within the community can lead to issues that would be detrimental for all.
04/15/2012
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