Is it ever okay to "out" someone?

Ansley Ansley
I am not a regular reader of Salon.com, but this article happened to catch my eye on an aggregate site and I thought it would be a good topic for the community to discuss.

Why I Outed a Christian Star

In a nutshell, famous writer meets famous Christian Evangelical, they spend the night making out and a year or so later, the writer outs the star. The article explains why he did it, but is there ever a good reason or way to out someone?

Is it really anyone's business in the first place?
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Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I am not a regular reader of Salon.com, but this article happened to catch my eye on an aggregate site and I thought it would be a good topic for the community to discuss.

Why I Outed a Christian Star

In a nutshell, famous writer meets ... More
Honestly there is never a good reason to out someone. Not even if they are lying and tearing apart their own lives...it's not your concern. The same applies to telling a person their partner is cheating. IT'S NOT YOUR BUSINESS!

Nothing good ever comes out of "outting" someone. Any superficial gain is negated by the breach of faith.
07/23/2013
mr115393 mr115393
There is no reason to out anyone. You never know what it could mean for their life or health or safety. It's not a decision you can make for anyone else.
08/14/2013
Michelleabc Michelleabc
I don't think it's okay to out someone. Even if someone has come out to me, I don't tell other people about it due to the fact that it's their business. As mr115393 said, it could definitely endanger or devastate their life, health, and/or safety. I had an extremely orthodox Catholic father, and I waited until after I had told everyone else before him. (Didn't go well, not as bad as it could have been though but that's another story)

Honestly, I understand why they did it. Someone saying homosexuality isn't God's plan while being homosexual themselves can be horribly annoying. However, that explains what he did, it certainly doesn't excuse it.
09/05/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Michelleabc
I don't think it's okay to out someone. Even if someone has come out to me, I don't tell other people about it due to the fact that it's their business. As mr115393 said, it could definitely endanger or devastate their life, health, ... More
Great answer, Michelle! It does explain why he did it, but it's never an excuse. (Though, I have to say I don't believe in excuses anyway.)
09/05/2013
xcris19x xcris19x
Simply put: never.
09/22/2013
friendswithfangs friendswithfangs
yeah, agreed: never. no. please do not.
11/10/2013
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I am not a regular reader of Salon.com, but this article happened to catch my eye on an aggregate site and I thought it would be a good topic for the community to discuss.

Why I Outed a Christian Star

In a nutshell, famous writer meets ... More
It is always wrong to out someone! It doesn't matter what a person's intent is or how they think it will 'help'. It only makes things worse and denies people's basic rights to privacy. If anything that anyone does in the bedroom is other people's business, then you can't draw the line at anything. To be quite honest, it isn't my parents' business, my friends' or neighbors' business, or anyone else's unless I want it to be.

Taking someone's right to decide if they will or will not keep that private is ignorant and hateful, and you do not know all of the ways that it could potentially impact their lives. You are not them, you do not know what will happen and you're affecting them, not yourself. It's always wrong.

If you want to do something good then be an activist or make a statement about yourself. Do not try to define other people, backstab them, or use them as 'tools' in a ploy for social advancement. Doing so only reduces how humane YOU are.
11/12/2013
CinnamonNights CinnamonNights
Even if someone's a jerk there's no reason to tell about their sexuality to everyone.
11/13/2013
starship08 starship08
There is never a good reason to out someone. You don't know their entire story. There could be a reason they haven't come out you, it's something you need to be ready to do and do be able to do on your own terms.
11/17/2013
kenny-the-trans-boy-wonder kenny-the-trans-boy-wonder
Quote:
Originally posted by Ansley
I am not a regular reader of Salon.com, but this article happened to catch my eye on an aggregate site and I thought it would be a good topic for the community to discuss.

Why I Outed a Christian Star

In a nutshell, famous writer meets ... More
Never ever out anyone without their consent
11/18/2013
icelandia icelandia
It is NEVER ok to out someone
11/29/2013
gothikstars gothikstars
Outing someone is a horrible idea, especially if you do it intentionally! I've accidentally outed a friend (he was very out at college but not at home) before and the realization of the mistake I had made felt terrible!
Jan 1, 5:37 pm
Tangerine Tangerine
Not okay. Although I do find it funny when someone who publicly bashes is finally outed.
Is it okay? NO. Did karma get them and now they have drama to deal with? Lol that's what happens when your a liar pants and your life is a lie.
I would never do it, and think it rude when people do but at the same time I don't think there is a single reason under the planet to live a lie and lie on a daily basis about who they are. Flaunting and being private are two different things. It's one thing not to go around telling people but it's a whole other situation when you are asked a direct question and flat out lie about it. You could always say " I prefer not to answer"

This doesn't just go for sexuality. It's how I feel about everything. If your a cheater say it, if your a liar and just can't stop then say that too. Just be honest about who you are and then you won't face any potential "outings" that's my own personal opinion. I feel the world would be less complicated that way.
Jan 11, 11:41 am
Graniteal Graniteal
I don't think there's ever a good reason to either. It's their business. If they aren't out, then their reasons are their own.
Jan 21, 11:15 pm
smalltalkingbit smalltalkingbit
Absolutely not okay.
Jan 26, 12:36 pm
SaucyxGirl SaucyxGirl
In my opinion it is never okay to out someone, regardless of the situation. People keep silent about their sexuality for a variety reasons. These reasons could range from not yet being comfortable with it, denial, to real fears of personal safety and community/family reprisal.
Mar 6, 12:39 pm
Glinteye Glinteye
No. As much as there may be times when one may want to, it's not your decision to make.
Mar 29, 5:19 pm
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