Is the genderless child a good or bad idea?

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Is the genderless child a good or bad idea?

Bittenflame Bittenflame
Explain your point
05/15/2012
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Peggi Peggi
I'm not really sure what that is about. Is there a link you can refer us to so we can read up on it if we aren't familiar and then give our replies?
05/15/2012
Ilovelingerie Ilovelingerie
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Originally posted by Bittenflame
Explain your point
Its a bad idea in my opinion, but one could go on for hours saying why... but since you didn't really give anyone else much to go on, they may not understand it anyway, so I shouldn't rant on about it.
05/15/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
I'm also unsure of what you're referring to. Do you mean children born intersexed where the parents make the decision which way to raise their child? If that is what you are talking about then I don't agree at all.

I think once the child ages and has a better understanding of themselves they should make the decision on their own what gender, if one at all, they identify as. I've read too many cases of the parents deciding at birth and the child growing up confused and transitioning from what was decided for them without their consent as an infant.
05/15/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I think it's a bad idea. Once the child becomes old enough to know the difference and if they feel different, then they can then decide who they want to be. That probably made no sense, lol.
05/15/2012
Ansley Ansley
Gender is just not a topic I'm educated enough to discuss. It warps my brain and makes me feel really uncomfortable. Not because I can't understand the concepts, but because I can't formulate articulate responses regarding my opinion to discuss the subject intelligently and respectfully. It gets really frustrating when my brain defaults to "because, that's why".
05/15/2012
SubmissiveFeminist SubmissiveFeminist
I feel like gender is always going to be a social institution in this country. The idea of a genderless baby is confusing to society. We need gender, as hard as that is to say. I would raise my child as the gender socially correlated to the sex of the baby, but let them create their own gender and expression. For example, I would not paint the baby's room pink/blue, I would let them choose their own toys and clothes once they can, etc. I'm not going to hide my baby's sex from people, but I expect my child's sex to not confine them into a gender-box.

I will not tell other parents what to do, but this is my own opinion. I also think people need to be more open to a child's evolving gender expression.
05/15/2012
Sam I Am Sam I Am
I think that in theory it's a good idea, but society is not at a point where it is willing to accept a child whose parents choose to keep their gender ambiguous until they are old enough to choose. Instead, I think that parents need to raise their children how they want in the home, not make a huge deal out of what sex their child is or isn't, and listen to the child when they start to divulge what their gender is.
05/15/2012
Youssii Youssii
I think it's the ideal. As a trans person I could've been spared years of hell if I'd not been gendered. I also think it'd help combat a huge number of the stereotypes we buy into.

Saying "society isn't ready" or "the child will be bullied" is the same as saying "we don't want to take responsibility for the world we live in and they way we've brought up our own kids" - it's the same argument used against gay, lesbian and trans parents. The truth of the matter is that small children don't care about each others' genders or sexes, and that the vast majority of children will decide their gender before they are school age - and if not, they should be allowed to continue to explore their identities.

Attitudes will only start changing when there is something to react to.
05/16/2012
CollegeFun2014 CollegeFun2014
I'm not for it. I believe that you can be raised a girl and still do "boy" things and vice versa. In terms of that child choosing an identity, if they start showing they prefer the other gender then it can be addressed.
05/16/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I don't think it's good, personally, for the child. You don't have to shove trucks and hunting down a boy's throat...but completely genderless will just screw them up when they get older I think.
05/17/2012
TheCleansing TheCleansing
I think it's good as a test for now. We'll have to see how it develops.
05/17/2012
Bittenflame Bittenflame
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Originally posted by Peggi
I'm not really sure what that is about. Is there a link you can refer us to so we can read up on it if we aren't familiar and then give our replies?
link
05/23/2012
ginainohio ginainohio
I dont think its a good idea at all
06/03/2012
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