Lesbian, Gay, Bi friends? Does it bother you?

Of course it doesn't bother me!!! I am bisexual myself. And when I first "came out" to my best friend at the time...it was months before she would give me a real hug, and she stopped inviting me for sleepovers anymore except on her birthday; so I know from experience what it feels like to have someone you consider a close friend feeling uncomfortable about your sexuality...it's not a nice feeling. I say that love is love, no matter who you are and who you love. It's a blessing to find that right person for you to love and be loved by...any friend should just be happy for that, not bothered that both are the same gender. less

GLBT friends don't bother me at all, nor does it bother my friends, if they want to remain my friends. I tend to rid myself of intolerant people asap. If they can't tolerate someone just because of WHOM that person happens to love, they will eventually find something "wrong" with you, too. Life is too short to spend time with people who hate.

One of my closest friends brothers is gay. (I have no idea where the apostrophes need to be in that sentence.) He's a great guy and he hangs around with us whenever he's in town. She had a party last summer and some people from her church were there and there were looks and disdainful sniffs and all kinds of shit. I got upset, but the young man and I are close and we just sat in a corner and found things to laugh about for hours.

After the party she "thanked" me for "taking care" of her brother during the party. Hell, he was the most fun person there (excluding My Man, who sat with us for about an hour for fun as well.) I did ask her why she would continue relationships with people who obviously have "issues" with GLBT people and she really didn't have an answer except, "They're from my church and my husband is friends with some of them." WTF? Her husband adores her brother, but I think he's a little blind to the gay haters.

The next party she had, a few of these people were there (her brother was not) and I caught one of them making a very rude racial slur, called her on it, and she threw a hissy fit right in front of every body, pointed her little racist finger in my face and stormed out like a spoiled three year old. This is a 40 year old woman. Again, WTF? I cannot stand intolerance to "different" people. The next day I asked this woman again, why she accepts people like this in her life and what she hopes to gain from the relationship. She gave me some garbage about how her church "assigns" some shit called "Small Groups." I guess they TELL you who to be friends with. Honestly, I don't see why she tolerates this shit. The people in her "Small Group" seem to be overrun with narrow minded racists, reactionaries and GLBT haters. For some reason she thinks she can compartmentalize things so that she will only say "I try to get the best from every one. Because there is good in everyone." Gimme a fuckin' break.

Sorry, there is no "best" in racists and gay haters.

I tend to weed gay haters and racists (and they often tend to be the same people) from my real life friend list. less

I have a lot of lesbian friends, and one gay male friend. It seems to really bother people around me that I hang out with them sometimes. Especially when they bring along their significant others.



I had the girls over a few weeks ago for a little toy party (we do it once a month or so. I had never hosted one myself) and two of my lesbian friends brought their girlfriends... it REALLY freaked all the other girls out and instead of an all nighter, many of the straight girls went home. I think overall we ended up with 7 girls staying the night and it was a little upsetting to me.



Does anyone else have this problem, and how do you handle it?



I personally just tell people to stick it in their juice box and suck it, but I'm curious to know if this happens to a lot of people. less

Thanks for the answers! I just feel so hurt when people get stuck up like that. I'm having a toy party tonight and everyone who came last time was reinvited and RSVP'd for an all nighter. I really hope they end up staying because it was so much more fun the way things used to be. I love all my friends, straight, lesbian, gay, bi, whatever. That doesn't change who they are. less

I will admit it bothers me my boyfriends main friends are 2 gay guys and a mean girl who is probly a lesbian. I mean it wouldnt bother me as much if his main friends were umm how do I say this? Diffrent character and the others are ok to hang out with just not the ones to spend alot of time with. less