This poll is for the men of EF. I want to know if you participate in pegging.. due you ever feel gender confused or are you comfortable with being a straight man that enjoys p spot stimulation.
Men: Do you feel that you are gender confused because you enjoy pegging?
I am straight and not confused. I have enjoyed prostate stimulation since my teen's. Know with the wife involved using toys on me, the pleasure is so much better.
As a plus if you look up the benefits of prostate massage it becomes a win win situation.
Just got to get her into using a harness.
As a plus if you look up the benefits of prostate massage it becomes a win win situation.
Just got to get her into using a harness.
05/14/2010
Good for you dwtim. We have been pegging for a little over a year now. I am curious if men ever feel insecure. When we first started I think my partner was concerned that I would think there was something wrong with him because he liked it. Just curious if other men feel that way as well.
05/14/2010
I'm not a man (surprise!), but as a couple, we do enjoy pegging. I don't think the boy's ever been gender-confused because of it. Maybe it's just a terminology thing (and I'm operating on negative sleep here), but only a person born biologically male would have a p-spot, right? So why would enjoying p-spot stimulation cause gender confusion? I'm not saying it's impossible; it's just not something I've ever thought about before. I'm wondering if you're mixing up sexual orientation with gender identity, since they're pretty different things. Aside from my confusion, interesting thread, AKAme!
05/14/2010
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Heh, I just realized that my post could've been interpreted to mean that while p-spot fun has nothing to do with gender identity, it could totally affect sexual orientation, which is not what I meant at all. It's just that the latter is a more... common misconception, shall we say? I know there are guys who like it in the butt and get worried that it means that they're gay... but not so many guys who like it in the butt and get worried that it means they were born into the incorrect gender. Just wanted to clear up my meaning there
Originally posted by
Kynky Kytty
I agree, playing with your own body in every possible pleasurable way has nothing to do with orientation or identity.
Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of ...
Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of ...
I agree, playing with your own body in every possible pleasurable way has nothing to do with orientation or identity.
Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of any kind. Still interesting though.
Although this forum might not be the best sample to try to find people who are confused or uncomfortable about anal play of any kind. Still interesting though.
05/14/2010
I love to play and the best part of it for me is that i have partner that is turned on by it all,It started for me when i wanted to know why the woman i was with liked it so much,and i wanted to feel what she felt,but never got the pleasure until i found my partner i am with now,it started with a finger and went to a trap on 2 1/2 yrs later! got to say i love it and i am no where near confused
about it. and frankly do not care what anyone else thinks either. "DON'T KNOCK IT TILL YOU TRY IT"!
about it. and frankly do not care what anyone else thinks either. "DON'T KNOCK IT TILL YOU TRY IT"!
05/14/2010
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Totally agree!!!i love it..
Originally posted by
shepegs
It's different for everyone, but for me I am NOT gender confused. I think the idea of a woman giving you pleasure is a very sexy and powerful one. I think all guys (even if they don't admit it) find it very attractive when a woman takes charge.
05/14/2010
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups about sexuality. We have the ability and space here to show our compassion for any person that is interested in trying new things. Hopefully this kind of sharing makes people feel more assured and open minded,
05/14/2010
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This is exactly why I want to try pegging. Just about giving pleasure.
Originally posted by
shepegs
It's different for everyone, but for me I am NOT gender confused. I think the idea of a woman giving you pleasure is a very sexy and powerful one. I think all guys (even if they don't admit it) find it very attractive when a woman takes charge.
05/14/2010
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So well said!!
Originally posted by
Victoria
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups
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I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups about sexuality. We have the ability and space here to show our compassion for any person that is interested in trying new things. Hopefully this kind of sharing makes people feel more assured and open minded,
My b/f was initially totally negative on pegging but he loved to give me anal. I introduced him to anal toys, first plugs then moved on to dils. He started using a butt plug while he masturbated. We then got around to a harness but an "unrealistic" dil like the Rachel. He got into it and we moved on.... Often he will bring out a harness and a dil ready for us to play.
05/17/2010
I voted for my partner, saying yes to pegging, no to gender confusion, and yes to bisexual. I think two things about this whole dealie are a shame. One: that anyone should feel guilty for enjoying a consensual sexual act. Two: that the thought that you might be perceived as gay, confused about your gender, or presenting your gender in an unconventional way is a deterrent, as if any of that stuff is inherently negative. Shameshameshame. Oh well, we have fun nevertheless.
07/17/2010
I am hetero, not gender confused, and LOVE getting pegged. It's such an intense experience to get your p-spot hit like that, and it really caters to my submissive nature. It truly is one of my favorite bedroom activities, and I think it's a shame that more men are not open to such acts for fear of what "label" it may place on them.
07/17/2010
I'm way gender confused, but it has nothing to do with pegging and everything to do with me being trans.
I am pretty much exclusively attracted to women, and I'm male-bodied so I'm pretty much hetero as far as anyone keeping score, but I love getting pegged (and even love wearing a strapon to use on my female partner). Anal stimulation for me has nothing to do with sexuality and simply has everything to do with alternate sources of pleasure and changing roles in the bedroom.
As an aside, gender confusion might not be the right way to describe gay/straight/queer feelings about pegging, it's more of a sexuality confusion thing than gender specifically. Sorry, just my little peeve on terminology relating to gender/sex/identity.
I am pretty much exclusively attracted to women, and I'm male-bodied so I'm pretty much hetero as far as anyone keeping score, but I love getting pegged (and even love wearing a strapon to use on my female partner). Anal stimulation for me has nothing to do with sexuality and simply has everything to do with alternate sources of pleasure and changing roles in the bedroom.
As an aside, gender confusion might not be the right way to describe gay/straight/queer feelings about pegging, it's more of a sexuality confusion thing than gender specifically. Sorry, just my little peeve on terminology relating to gender/sex/identity.
07/22/2010
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I am bisexual and not gender confused. I have been fucked by both real cocks and strap ons. When I have my lover's cock or strap on in my ass I don't feel like anything other than a guy who is lucky enough to have lovers to penetrate me anally. I also enjoy anally penetrating my female lovers but have no desire to penetrate another man.. It does truly take all kinds..
Originally posted by
♥ Amanda ♥
This poll is for the men of EF. I want to know if you participate in pegging.. due you ever feel gender confused or are you comfortable with being a straight man that enjoys p spot stimulation.
01/08/2011
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props, victoria. great post, and i totally agree.
Originally posted by
Victoria
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups
...
I think guys should feel free to explore and receive pleasure however they wish. It's a shame that men still feel self-conscious about anal play because of the fear that people might make assumptions about them, or because they have hang ups about sexuality. We have the ability and space here to show our compassion for any person that is interested in trying new things. Hopefully this kind of sharing makes people feel more assured and open minded,
06/15/2011
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