Does anyone else suffer from living in rural towns?

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Does anyone else suffer from living in rural towns?

Mia.The.Wonder.Slut Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
Seriously, the closest gay/lesbian joint is over 30 minutes away, and it's so hard to find people to date or hook up with. I am so excited to get out of this town and move to a bigger city. Does anyone else have the small town blues?
03/17/2012
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Nazaress Nazaress
Lucky! The only gay bar left is even further away than that from here and it's mostly for gay men, not women. I'm in a relationship right now (with a man, surprisingly - lol) so it doesn't matter too much but it'd be nice to go and meet other lesbians. I think I saw one the entire time I was there. I don't think I'll be going anymore. They overcharge and their drinks are small. I guess they can do whatever they want since they're the only gay bar.
03/18/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I am going to college in a small town in GA. The closest city has only one gay bar which is 21+. And the city is 45 minutes away. There are a few other gay people here, but I don't have going on.
03/18/2012
El-Jaro El-Jaro
This is one of the reasons I would never move back to my hometown unless there were no other options. Not for the gay bars, but for ANYTHING. Ever try to find good Indian food or other ethnic food in a small town...it doesn't happen.

Good luck!
03/19/2012
Mia.The.Wonder.Slut Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
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Originally posted by TheParrishism
I am going to college in a small town in GA. The closest city has only one gay bar which is 21+. And the city is 45 minutes away. There are a few other gay people here, but I don't have going on.
I live in Milledgeville in GA, so I get it. The closest gay-friendly city is Augusta, which is at leas tan hour and a half away, if not more. Atlanta is 2 and a half hours away...
03/19/2012
Tangles Tangles
I just moved out of my rinky dink little town for school, but for a college town it's still not very big. I plan on being a Portlander when all is said and done, though, so I won't have to suffer from a shortage of gay bars for much longer.
03/19/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I can't wait to get out of here. But I have to wait until after college.
04/04/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
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Originally posted by Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
I live in Milledgeville in GA, so I get it. The closest gay-friendly city is Augusta, which is at leas tan hour and a half away, if not more. Atlanta is 2 and a half hours away...
I live outside of Savannah. For people under 21, it isn't the best city.
04/04/2012
Chirple Chirple
The closest such place is also 30 minutes from me, but I don't consider that far or too far.

I suppose it's because I'm not wanting to go there every day - maybe once a week if I don't have other plans. I guess I'm not a very outgoing person, I just go with people I know - not try to meet new people, haha.

I would hesitate to call where I live rural, though I'm sure many city people would. I feel I have too many neighbours and things are too close for being a true "in the country" location. To me "in the country" is big farms where you can't see your neighbours.

They're building up the area about 10 minutes from me - there'll be a 24/7 grocery store (previously 20 minutes - and a 9 to 9 that's 7 minutes away). I like it, I guess I'm not much for the noise of a city.
04/04/2012
Positwist Positwist
Rural dweller here, but I'm not suffering!

We have enough queermos that I don't feel removed from all things gay, but we don't have enough to date without causing a crapload of drama (we do it anyway though, of course). The town is also surprisingly gay friendly. They don't exactly love us, but it's only a tiny minority that actively wants us gone.

The closest gay space (bar, club, coffee shop, bookstore, anything) is in a city about 400 miles away, but I also live in that city part-time. Dual living is awfully nice.
04/04/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
I live in a town of about ~9000 people, nearest bigger city is about 45-60 minutes away. I don't mind living in a small town, I'm partnered, happily employed and this is a surprisingly queer friendly and event filled town (having a college here helps immensely).
04/04/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
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Originally posted by Ciao.
I live in a town of about ~9000 people, nearest bigger city is about 45-60 minutes away. I don't mind living in a small town, I'm partnered, happily employed and this is a surprisingly queer friendly and event filled town (having a college ...
I live in a rural college town as well. Colleges can make a huge difference.
04/06/2012
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I have the small town, hick town blues occasionally. Mississippi isn't the most welcoming place for anything besides straight, marital, vanilla sex.
04/06/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
Is there anyone from a northern small town? I wonder if they have that same small town mentality or if they are more open-minded.
04/07/2012
Incendiaire Incendiaire
Living in a small town sucks when you're gay. It's even worse after you've left to live in a city for a few years, and the contrast is even more apparent when you return.
04/15/2012
vegweg vegweg
I would've loved to have a gay friendly area within a 30 minute drive when I still lived with my parents! I come from a town of just over 3,000 people. The closest somewhat gay friendly place is the LGBTQIA group at the local state college, but this is a school that's been in the news within the past year thanks to a professor making homophobic comments with a lesbian grad student present. It was NOT in any way an open or accepting environment.
I moved to another small town for college, but it's more accepting in general here. At least that's my perception of it. But I'm also actively involved in the campus gay club, so I could be skewed to seeing the better side of things. Not saying that things are perfect..I have friends who have been physically assaulted on campus..but better than where I grew up. There's even a couple gay bars in the closest city.
04/16/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
I live in a rural town, and there's nothing. No good places to eat, no clubs, no shopping centers, NOTHING!
04/16/2012
Sam the Man Sam the Man
I'm actually really lucky because I'm in a small town but I'm here because I'm at a liberal arts college, so there are a lot of non-heterosexual people to hang out with on campus.
04/16/2012
Susen Susen
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Originally posted by Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
Seriously, the closest gay/lesbian joint is over 30 minutes away, and it's so hard to find people to date or hook up with. I am so excited to get out of this town and move to a bigger city. Does anyone else have the small town blues?
YES..only I live on the outskirts of a major city. But our LGBT community is tiny. And "recycled." And drama. Same difference.
05/08/2012
VelvetDragon VelvetDragon
I want to move out of the suburbs to a rural area. But luckily, rural areas are close-in to Portland, OR! I need property and space to be happy.
05/08/2012
ghalik ghalik
That's why I moved to where I live now. And it seems even worse now when I go back to visit. I feel SO GAY! It's unnerving.
05/08/2012
tigertiger tigertiger
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Originally posted by Mia.The.Wonder.Slut
Seriously, the closest gay/lesbian joint is over 30 minutes away, and it's so hard to find people to date or hook up with. I am so excited to get out of this town and move to a bigger city. Does anyone else have the small town blues?
yeah i'm from a small town surrounded by a bunch of other small towns. if there are any other queer people around here they're doing a good job staying hidden
05/10/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
My hometown is super liberal and has a very cool and inclusive queer youth group, so I haven't suffered too much at home. Being part of the street band community also helps, there are a lot more wacky and open-minded people there.

However, now that I'm going to college in a larger city and being a part of my campus' queer community, I do feel a bit deprived when I'm at home. I have it pretty good here, but at school things are seriously amazing. There is an entire building for queer student events and social activities. Going back to my small town is a bit of a system shock now.
06/05/2012
iabicpl09 iabicpl09
I'm In the middle of bumfuck Iowa
06/09/2012
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