I need help picking out a harness, it will be my second purchase of one and I am interested in one that lasts long, is sturdy when being warn, is easy to clean and maintain... which of these is best and why?
The harness I would vote on is the SpareParts Joque Harness, which you did not list. My vote was cast for the Lucid Dream Shape No. 9 because of its low cock hole and stable frontal design. However a jock-style harness is your best bet because they are the most stable, two straps wrapping behind your thighs instead of one strap in your butt crack. Hope that helps!
Of the ones you listed, I'd go with the Curve kit. Latigo leather and nylon are both very sturdy materials, long lasting and easy to maintain, plus the two strap style gives you good stability and control, and the overall look of it is more appealing in my opinion. But it's out of stock
I like to see as much skin as possible, so the one with shorts or the ones with high waisted pieces in the front were automatically out for me. The spareparts one was also out, because although I know they make a quality product, the big wide belt and the pouch in the front just aren't asthetically pleasing to me. Plus I consider it to be way way way overpriced. For that price, you may as well go for an Aslan Leather Jag
suggestions on which would be the best harness for me and my gf, we can be rough in bed and love all positions
Id say the shorts. I have one that goes up my ass. That hurts after a while. Plus the straps itself can sometimes hurt too. I would find the shorts more comfortable.
The Grrl shorts are quite difficult to get the right size. It can be quite painful if you get it a size to small. We had to cut the elastic to get them to be a little less painful.
I haven't tried the Spareparts Theo but I've been using a SpareParts Joque Harness for some time and I absolutely love it. It's very well made and keeps the dildo very secure and in place. Also it's machine washable which is super convenient.