Who was the hardest person in your life to come out to?

indiechick indiechick
I am a bi-sexual female and while I am out to everyone from my high school years on, it was hard to come out to family and friends. In fact as a 23 year-old some of the people I am closest to still don't "officially"" know. Has anyone else faced the same problems?
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Mother
12  (52%)
Father
2  (9%)
Best-friend
1  (4%)
Friends
1  (4%)
New people
1  (4%)
LLama--> explanation REQUIRED
6  (26%)
Total votes: 23
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SouthernBelle SouthernBelle
The worst for me is just plain friends... especially older ones from high school that I know won't agree with my lifestyle. I told my best friends, and I really have no problem letting new people know (that way if it's a problem, no love lost). My parents guessed, but I would've told them eventually. I just can't bring myself to tell my old friends that aren't super close to me (and don't love me as unconditionally).
06/03/2012
ghalik ghalik
My dad and extended family. They still don't know, though some may have guessed. My dad might disown me and I depend on him right now, so it's uncomfortable.
06/03/2012
Bittenflame Bittenflame
My mom took it the worst,and was the first and hardest I have ever had to do
06/03/2012
Kitka Kitka
It was harder coming out to my parents but they didn't really have a problem with it.
06/03/2012
marshmallow marshmallow
dad
06/03/2012
RonLee RonLee
A friend who had occasionally made homophobic comments. He remembered having done so and apologized. We are still pretty close friends.
06/03/2012
vitriolicvertigo vitriolicvertigo
My mom. It was hella traumatic.
06/04/2012
Nacht Stern Nacht Stern
Still in the closet, but I have a feeling my father and sister know. I talk with my Dad all the time using the "what if I..." scenario. I know when I finally do officially come out my mother will be the hardest.
06/04/2012
Chief Chief
I still haven't come out to my parents... I'm so scared to tell my mom.
06/05/2012
Blu Mondae Blu Mondae
My mom knew way before my dad, but my parents are divorced and I mainly lived with my mom at the time. I think I was around 15 or 16. It finally came out in counseling that I had a girlfriend and it was so much better than I expected. He gave me the whole 'I'll love you no matter what' speech, and seriously, I cried because I was so relieved. My dad's side of the family is pretty religious and it's hard to read what he's thinking a lot of the time. I'm finding out more and more that he's the rebel on that side of the family.

Only a couple people in my extended family know and they're on my mom's side of the family. They're the more relaxed side haha. My dad's side is probably the most clueless and I'm not sure if I woud prefer to keep it that way or not. They're great people, but it's still scary to think about someone hating you for any reason.

And to all of those on here that are still in the closet, I want to let you know that eventually it does get easier.
06/11/2012
skdfnsdfj skdfnsdfj
Quote:
Originally posted by indiechick
I am a bi-sexual female and while I am out to everyone from my high school years on, it was hard to come out to family and friends. In fact as a 23 year-old some of the people I am closest to still don't "officially"" know. Has ... More
I told my father in a heat of rage and he's never brought it up again. Most of my friends know but my mother still doesn't and neither do most of my family. Still not sure how to do it.
06/11/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
New people, because I'm never sure how they're going to react - most of my friends and family have been pretty relaxed and understanding about my orientation.
06/28/2012
nori nori
llama; for me? it's the extened family. aunts and uncles, grandparents, cousins. Most of the people closest to me knew, in some way or another.
06/29/2012
sexykiss sexykiss
my mom
06/29/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
My mother because she's very judgmental and a bit homophobic.
06/29/2012
einad einad
It was the hardest to come out to my mom. shes still getting used to it.
but i've actually had the most difficulty with my best friend in dealing with my queerness because my coming out process implicates her cuz we were romantically involved and shes adamantly straight
06/30/2012
einad einad
Quote:
Originally posted by nori
llama; for me? it's the extened family. aunts and uncles, grandparents, cousins. Most of the people closest to me knew, in some way or another.
how was it coming out to your llama? hahaha
06/30/2012
Sinfully Sinfully
My mom and dad probably get an idea by the way I talk at times but I never full out have said anything. I don't feel that I need to and I'm pretty sure they get the hint. If I ever get in a serious relationship with a female it may be harder then to explain things, but until then I don't feel that it's something that really needs to be told or explained. I am going to be who I'm going to be. If that bothers them then oh well. I don't go out of my way to keep it a secret but I don't have any desire to sit down and have a conversation about it, as I don't feel that is necessary.
07/01/2012
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Unique posters: 18