We had been dating about 2 years before I came out to him. I'm a recovering drug addict and had been sober for about a year before I did it. I finally had to confront the feelings I've had my whole life over my gender that I had been hiding with pills. When I finally came to terms with it, I knew I had to tell him regardless to what it led between us. It was only fair.
It took me about a week to build up the courage to tell him. I unfortunately chose a terrible time to tell him. We were fighting over the phone (it was long distance at the time), and it was the middle of the night. I knew then I should've waited another week, when I was gonna see him
Anyway, I finally told him. His reaction: "Oh God, you really ARE the man in this relationship." I should make it clear we always make jokes to break the tension. Anyway, we discussed some stuff over what I was gonna do. It took him about a week to be ok with the whole thing. It's been about a year and a half since then and we're really happy
. He's not really bothered by me looking more masculine and the changing of pronouns. He's happy to call me his boyfriend and being gay with me. He's also relieved that I don't want to ever get pregnant xD.