Do you like being trans*?

bison bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
03/30/2012
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butts butts
nope. There's no day that passes where I don't wish I was born cis, I admit I've learned a lot from it, but nothing I wouldn't/couldn't have learned if I was born cis anyways.
03/30/2012
TransMarc TransMarc
No, but if I really try to look on the positive side... It gives me a great insight on gender, I guess?
I feel sort of ashamed sometimes. Also, I feel scared of people getting violent if they knew, or of people not believing me if I told them. The dysphoria is the worse.
I guess one day, it'll maybe be better, but right now it's depressing, yet another problem to deal with. I like the trans* online community, still.
03/30/2012
Voir Voir
I am indifferent entirely. It is the hand I was dealt and wishing and hoping it was the other way, while it does cross my mind, plays no larger role. Just gotta work with what I've got, it's nice to have a "Name" to give to something that was bothering me (very badly) but other than that I neither enjoy or dislike it.

It's troublesome, expensive, anxiety inducing and fucking annoying having to deal with taking the long round-about road to achieve what COULD have been there at birth but that's just life and reality and I'm up to the challenge I think it'd be worth it.

I also don't go around parading patriotism like I notice a lot of uhhh trans individuals (mostly on youtube) do. I find it vaguely annoying and flamboyant but it's whatever floats their boat. I'm just not very patriotic about anything. At all... except my old college.
03/30/2012
MasonM MasonM
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Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
Much as I love my kids and my husband, much as I know that the experiences I've had are part of what made me the person I am...I still really wish I had been born physically male.
03/30/2012
Rab Rab
I enjoy finding myself more and more masculine, but do I like almost constant dysphoria and the lingering fear that someone will "find out" and want to play Beat the Freak?
no
I wish I was a normal guy
03/30/2012
Voir Voir
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Originally posted by Rab
I enjoy finding myself more and more masculine, but do I like almost constant dysphoria and the lingering fear that someone will "find out" and want to play Beat the Freak?
no
I wish I was a normal guy
Ya just gotta carry yourself with confidence :3 When you walk around (strut) like you don't give a fuck and will beat someone's ass people tend to leave you alone so long as you don't come off as arrogant "i own this shit" kinda way ...

I went to Rhodes in Memphis and I had no second thoughts about traversing the streets at any time of the day and no one ever bothered me. I got hit on several times whenever I looked more obviously female (hair down / straight and closer fit t-shirt on) but other than that no one ever messed with me. And it's supposed to be in the top 10 in the country on crime rate.
03/30/2012
u u
Quote:
Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
Yes. It's helped me see the world with open eyes. If I weren't trans, I'd be homophobic, transphobic, and racist like most of my family. Being trans has distanced me from them early on and taught me to be introspective. It has introduced me to my best friends. Also, I can't say for sure that I'd know how to be happy if I weren't trans. It's pretty hard to be trans, so all my other problems are easy to deal with in comparison and that gives me a "suffer no fools" attitude and confidence.
03/30/2012
DarthTaco DarthTaco
I could take it or leave it. I try to remember that God gave me this body for a reason, and that gives me peace of mind. Besides, there's worse about my body than being trans. For example, I'm allergic to olive oil. That means I can practically never go to Europe! D: I'm also physically handicap. I can walk, but not well, or for very long, or without a walking aid XP. At 21, it makes people stare at me :'P. So yeah, prospective helps XP.
03/31/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I would much rather be cis. I am gay, so I feel like all of the lessons would have been learned at some point. I do feel like I get to help educate others, but it was never something I asked for. I can't change it, so I try not to get to worked up about it.
04/02/2012
Caulfield Caulfield
I'm not sure. I feel like being trans has made me more aware of a lot of issues, but it still really sucks most of the time.
04/08/2012
kmilly kmilly
i hate it. i've met some very cool people because we share common wounds, but being transgendered has put me through some serious hell. i've lost most of my family to it. i was harassed at school from 6-12th grade. i've been raped to "prove that i was a girl." hard shit, and life would have been easier if i were born cis.

i don't dwell on it, though. yes, it sucks. there's nothing i can do to change the past. so much i would if i could. i would have come out sooner, gotten on blockers, absolutely fucking demanded testosterone so my body wouldn't have femmed out. all i have control of now is how i handle it. i'm choosing to overcome, not embrace it. i'll never be trans*proud or an activist. it's a personal tragedy, in my opinion. i stay positive. i don't let on that i'm miserable. i have my dysphoric days, but for the most part i just try to focus on the positives that soon this will all be over and i can be stealth. that's what pulls me through.
04/09/2012
spicyjjang spicyjjang
Honestly, I dislike it, intensely. I wish I was born cis.

On the plus side, I get to explore more about genders, something many cis people dont have the chance to do.
04/09/2012
jesseftm jesseftm
noooooooooo, not at all.
04/10/2012
Thomas90 Thomas90
I hate it. Every day waking up, having to bind my body, strain my voice trying to make it lower. The embarrassment of a high voice, and a femme figure? No thanks, i'd prefer to have been born "normal".

I suppose when i get surgery and go on testosterone things'll get better....
04/10/2012
Cal Cal
Yeah. More now that I'm on T and it feels like my body gets 'better' every day. It's who I am. It's made me so much more aware of many different parts of the world than I think I would've been as a straight cis white guy.
04/15/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Quote:
Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
I would prefer to have just been born male. No, I find nothing beneficial about the difficulties earlier in life, the fact that I will end up going through several surgeries to get things right and need injections for the rest of my life.

Still, better than living as a woman but I would cut out the excess if I could
04/16/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
Side note, I find it interesting (and cool) that the majority of trans folks here are of the ftm variety.

Anyway, mixed feelings for me.

If I had the hypothetical chance of either just "magically" becoming female, or being born a woman I would probably take that without any real question, but as-is, the costs (monetary, physical, emotional) of a full blown transition just don't outweigh the benefits for me. So I'm non-op by choice, with a supportive and pretty all-around cool partner. Which is great, but sometimes the dysphoria can be uncomfortable and a bit overwhelming.

But being trans has definitely given me a different perspective on things, opened me up to a whole community of people, and allowed me to really examine who I am and what my gender and identity are really all about.

I probably lean (just slightly) to the happy that I'm trans side of things, but there's no doubt in my mind that life could be a whole lot easier and less stressful if I didn't have to think about gender like this.
04/16/2012
Schattenstern Schattenstern
Once I get past the day to day issues of dysphoria and living an all around more difficult life, I say it's good that I'm getting this experience. I have dealt with a lot of things that many people don't even know exist, and it has helped me to be more inclusive of all people that I meet every day. I really like what this has "changed" me to be.
04/19/2012
smc3115 smc3115
Quote:
Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
I have gained a unique perspective in the world and it has helped shape me in the person that I am, but if I had a choice... heck no I wouldn't have choosen that path if I had a say in it. Life would have been much more simplier if I was born in the gender I am.
04/28/2012
Leo.boi Leo.boi
Quote:
Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
I wish I'd been born male without question, but I'm also really happy with the queer community i'm settling into and I think female socialization did shape me in a way that has positives.
05/25/2012
Youssii Youssii
I love being trans. I think I'd be trans no matter how I'd been assigned at birth (it's hard to explain but my transness seems more integral than my actual gender).

I love trans people, I love the trans community, I love all the sex and all the different bodies and the kink and the re-exploration of things I'm now old enough to fully understand.

I dislike dysphoria, but mine is somewhat mild (I have my bad days, but it doesn't crush me like it used to), and I dislike transphobes, but that's their problem not mine and I won't be cowed into the idea that I should want to be like them.

That said, I can totally understand people just wanting to be a woman or a man, and not labelled as a trans woman or trans guy, and I know just how bad the dysphoria and family issues can get. I just personally think it's worth it.
05/25/2012
Caulfield Caulfield
No but I also know I wouldn't be quite the same person if I wasn't.
05/25/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
For all the stresses it has caused me, being trans* has given me a distinct perspective on the world, and has been a factor in forming so many of the important friendships and relationships I have had in my life that I have to say I do like and appreciate it. I would be an unimaginably different person I were cisgender, and I actually don't think I would like myself quite as much because I wouldn't have thought critically about my perspectives on sexuality, gender expression, and body shame anywhere near as much as I have in my real life.
05/27/2012
canislytherin canislytherin
I don't exactly enjoy it. Constantly feeling down on myself because I was born in the wrong body. I wish I was born in the right body.
05/29/2012
lukas24 lukas24
I really wish I wasn't trans, but I suppose I have gained a new perspective on life. That however doesn't outweigh all the other crap.
05/30/2012
viserys4king viserys4king
it really depends on my mood. a lot of the time i don't.
05/30/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
Noppe, I fucking hate it.
It's like living in a cage for your entire life, occupying the same space as someone you hate but you can't leave that person because they happen to be you.
It's oppressive and trying. Especially since I can't tell my parents- it's bad enough they think I'm a lesbian and I get snide comments- I DREAD the day they find out I'm trans.
05/31/2012
sodapin sodapin
Quote:
Originally posted by bison
Simple question, really. Do you ever enjoy the perspective you gain from it, the learning experience, or do you find no positives?
It's tough. I feel like I would've missed a lot having being born cis, but then again, I know for a fact that I've already missed a lot of "typical" life experiences having being born trans. I think it gives you a greater sense of a dimension of the world that most people never have had to think about, but sometimes ignorance really is bliss.
06/07/2012
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