How do you deal with ignorance?

bog bog
Do you try to educate every schmuck who misgenders you? Sometimes I don't know what to say when people ask really direct and ignorant questions. What is your perspective?
12/03/2012
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RavenWings RavenWings
There's a difference between an honest mistake and a schmuck. Lots of people just have a "gender binary" in their brain, it's what many people are brought up with. Usually, if a person misgenders someone they are embarrassed. It's awkward all around.

If someone's an ass, then they're not worth the time.
12/03/2012
hanjonatan hanjonatan
i just try to explain the situation as simply as possible. no complicated language, no deep, overly personal stuff. i try to do it as matter-of-factly as possible.
12/05/2012
Mediumsizedman Mediumsizedman
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Originally posted by bog
Do you try to educate every schmuck who misgenders you? Sometimes I don't know what to say when people ask really direct and ignorant questions. What is your perspective?
If people misgender me now days it's either because they knew me before transition, or because they didn't get a good look at me (I have a beard, but long hair). I don't worry about it because cis guys get misgendered too. I admit it does hurt when it's someone who knew me before because they should have their act together by now but there's nothing I can do other than remind them to use correct pronouns.

When I was just starting transition I did get a lot of ignorant questions, some were ok and I answered them (things like will your voice get deeper, will you grow a beard) but others I told them the question was out of line and ignored it (will you grow a dick, how do you pee, things like that)
12/13/2012
Genderfree Genderfree
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Originally posted by Mediumsizedman
If people misgender me now days it's either because they knew me before transition, or because they didn't get a good look at me (I have a beard, but long hair). I don't worry about it because cis guys get misgendered too. I admit it ... More
I have not yet started testosterone so I get misgendered all of the time. A lot of people are super respectful, but every so often there is that one person. How I look at it is that I just see it objectively. If they really want to hurt me, all they will really do is make me stronger.
12/13/2012
GONE! GONE!
I don't even bother. I know they probably won't change their mind no matter how much I try to educate them.
12/13/2012
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