If you could change it, would it?

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If you could change it, would it?

Lock Lock
If you could completely erase the dysphoria, would you? Would you choose not to be trans at all and be comfortable in the body you were born with?

Or if there were some magical way to simply have been born in the body you feel is correct, would you choose that instead?
03/12/2012
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Idgi Idgi
I don't really get dysphoria, I never really did since my body has always been MY body, and not a 'female's'.

I would never choose not to be who I am, I could change my skin color or hair texture or pretend to be cis, but it wouldn't be healthy and I wouldn't be me.

That being said, I do think my life would've been gravely different if I were born with a penis instead. Being femme, I would've gotten the piss taken out of me at every turn, from my parents, friends, classmates. Bullying was hard enough without introducing gender and sexuality. It would've been unbearable for me, I'm not sure if I'd be alive today if I were a cis dude.

So absolutely not, I wouldn't change being trans*
03/12/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I don't know if, given a choice, I would be trans or not. But if I could no have dysphoria, I would chose to live without it, because it makes my life so difficult. I think that i would chose to just be a cisgendered gay male. My life would just be much easier that way.
03/17/2012
pestilence pestilence
My dysphoria isn't very terrible, and for me it'd be more terrifying to lose a part of myself mentally than pretty much anything changing physically, so no I wouldn't get rid of it if I had the choice. If I was born differently, I would've had many different experiences growing up, but that's still better than something about my brain being directly changed. Ideally I'd want to be born as myself but sometime in the future when body modification technology is better than it is now.
03/17/2012
lukas24 lukas24
As a FTM, if I could have a male body I would be so excited. But - I would definitely want to remember everything!
03/18/2012
Chirple Chirple
I feel like erasing the dysphoria I have would make me a very different person. I'm not defined by my gender or body, but it would put me on a very different path in life and significantly change how I relate to the world.

Not sure about the second one. I wouldn't want to lose the experiences I have. I probably wouldn't have cared so much or thought so much about sex and gender and all that - and that would also have made me a very different person.
03/18/2012
GONE! GONE!
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Originally posted by Chirple
I feel like erasing the dysphoria I have would make me a very different person. I'm not defined by my gender or body, but it would put me on a very different path in life and significantly change how I relate to the world.

Not sure about ...
This. Despite all the problems I do like the person I have become as a result a lot better than I know I would have if I wasn't trans*.
03/18/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
I think the experience of being a little more aware and fluid in the gender department is pretty cool as much as it can be a total pain sometimes, and can cause me genuine unhappiness/depression . If someone offered to take away that dysphoria, so I was just happy in my body as-is, I would probably respectfully decline. It would be a tough choice though.

As for just being born into the correct body, I would probably take that up if it was just a magical/painless/costl ess transformation, but again it would be a tough decision. Part of who I am is these particular pieces of uncertainty and internal conflict.
03/18/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
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Originally posted by GONE!
This. Despite all the problems I do like the person I have become as a result a lot better than I know I would have if I wasn't trans*.
I do feel that I have learned a lot, but I am gay as well so I feel like I could have learned a lot of it by just being gay.
03/18/2012
butts butts
YES YES YES I would, transitioning is hard on the body and the mind, if I could be happy in the body I was born in OF COURSE I'd choose that. But unfortunately I can't, nor can I rid myself of my dysphoria without physically transitioning. Though I've learned a lot because of my transsexuality, I'm pretty sure the same things would have caught my interest if I was cis. I really wish I didn't have to alter my body to be happy and comfortable in my own skin.
03/19/2012
blixa blixa
I'd love to just get rid of my dysphoria. It's actually keeping from pursuing the kind of measures that would help me pass. I would never in a million years want to be a cis guy, not speaking anatomically but in terms of how MAAB kids are raised and how cis guys are socialized, but I love the way my body and my gender fit together when I'm not depressed by thoughts of how other people wouldn't or by physical dysphoria.
03/19/2012
Rab Rab
I was just talking to my therapist about this
I absolutely wish I could be normal one way or the other
hell, I wish I could be happy just as a stone butch, but even that's too feminine for me to be comfortable
so yes, 100%, I wish I could erase everything and either be a real girl or a real boy instead of neither
03/20/2012
Lock Lock
Yes I absolutely would. Obviously being dysphoric, I'd choose the second option. If I didn't know dysphoria, however, neither would matter.
03/20/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I think there is a difference in changing dysphoria and the situation as a whole.
03/22/2012
MasonM MasonM
Quote:
Originally posted by Lock
If you could completely erase the dysphoria, would you? Would you choose not to be trans at all and be comfortable in the body you were born with?

Or if there were some magical way to simply have been born in the body you feel is correct, ...
There's times when I think 'if I could have been born in a male body, I would have it instantly'.

Then I remind myself that if that were the case, I wouldn't be me. I wouldn't have my twin sons. I wouldn't have the man that I love more than anything.

So I look at the other end of the spectrum and go 'if I could just erase the dysophoria and be a woman happily, could I?'.

But again...I wouldn't be me. This is a hard road that I'm on, a hard life I've had to live...but it shaped who I am today.
03/22/2012
Caus Caus
Sometimes, the dysphoria can be very overwhelming but no, I wouldn't change anything.
03/22/2012
Nontoxic Nontoxic
I wish I could start my medical transition, if that's sort of what you're asking xD
Otherwise, I don't mind being trans at all.
03/24/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Hell Yes, if I could have just been born in the right body and "missed out on" the depression during my younger years, self loathing and disgust with my body, I would have. And heck yeah I would want to just have everything right rather than need to take hormones to correct problems and get surgery after surgery to have a body I would want to live in.

But no, I would never just settle for living as a female. If I had the chance, I would NOT erase the dysphoria and just continue life on the traditional path- no way.
03/26/2012
Voir Voir
I don't have dysphoria but if I could've been born male I would choose that route, it would eliminate the potential health risks, discrimination, and cost of transitioning. So long as I could still be me but in the right body that's what I'd choose... but thinking like that I probably wouldn't be entirely as I am now and some things I could do without, such as anxiety but other things? Such as my personality and choices and the people I know and friends I have, I wouldn't exchange them |: Even for a biologically male body.

I wouldn't want to just accept being female, there's nothing wrong with it or negative it's just not 'me' at all and after accepting that fact and beginning gaining the courage to talk to my parents then snuffing it down only for everything to blow up and backfire with anxiety and shit. No. I wouldn't be me then... I don't feel like anyway.
03/26/2012
queergaze queergaze
I've never wanted a linear transition of any sort. Being genderqueer can both helpful and awful for dysphoria - some days I love my chest and some days I wish I could be completely flat, and I don't want to pick one or the other. Binding only sometimes helps, because it hurts and wanting to be flat has more to do with my ability to feel it myself rather than affecting how other people see me.

Honestly I'd be happiest if I could shapeshift back and forth at will.
03/29/2012
argylesocks argylesocks
I so wish I could wake up tomorrow as a cis guy.
04/01/2012
TransMarc TransMarc
I would if it means transitioning medically, othrwise it would mean erasing my early childhood and recent past... and my current self by association? What/who would I be? Maybe I'd be an asshole to people who are like me now...
04/01/2012
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