If you were dating a M2F transgender woman and she was pre-op...(private poll)

Indigo Morada Indigo Morada
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Originally posted by angiogenesis
Another lesbian dating a trans woman here. I was worried at the onset... then I got her into bed and realized the genitalia themselves weren't all that big a deal. In fact, I've become kind of endeared to them because they're attached to ... More
Sadly I haven't found many people with your mindset. Most lesbians I've encountered(I found a few that are the exception) think "Penis, eww!! I want a real woman"


But glad you ladies are out there. ^_^
01/03/2012
springbaby springbaby
My partner is MTF. She only embraced this a little over a year ago and only a handful of really close friends are aware of it so she lives her life beyond our home mostly as a man. That will change once she starts transitioning, though. Anyway, honestly, I have absolutely NO issues with her penis. I know that she isn't always comfortable with it and, occasionally, that has put a damper on our sex life. We've had to go through a learning curve sexually to figure out what works for both of us since this is my first transgendered sexual relationship and we were both pretty shy right away. At first it was difficult because I was so used to straight sex and had been in a very stilted sexual relationship prior to getting together with her. Now we've experimented quite a bit and have found our groove, so to speak. I'm bisexual and, at this point, if we ever ended our relationship, I can't imagine being with a straight man again.
01/06/2012
Modern^Spank^Anthem Modern^Spank^Anthem
interesting thread
01/06/2012
Maxx Maxx
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Originally posted by Peggi
I have a friend who is a M2F transgender woman, pre-op, and although she is definitely a woman on the inside, her genitals just don't match the inside! She is actually in no rush to change this, but a lot of people give her grief about it. I ... More
It wouldnt bother me.
01/12/2012
Beck Beck
It would not bother me. I support a lovers decision to to what they wish to their body and I would expect the same from them. I am attracted to both genitalia's, but I could see how someone who is attracted to only one genitalia would not want to date that person, it is after all a factor in a relationship.
01/12/2012
Kitka Kitka
I wouldn't have a problem with it at all. I'm more concerned with the person attached to those bits than the genitalia itself.
01/12/2012
nori nori
I am currently dating a pre-op mtf woman. And I answered other, for the sole fact that it bothers /her/, And that fact bothers me. I don't mind one way or another, I love her for her mind and not just her body. But she hates it SO much, and wants the surgery; That makes me want the surgery for her; To make her happier.
01/13/2012
Oomph2687 Oomph2687
good guyes come up with interesting subjects
01/21/2012
MR Chickhabit MR Chickhabit
IF i happen to fall for a nice lady with extra dangly bits i wouldn't be concerned with their package.

i would instead be focused on the person.

when a person looks this hot, "gender" doesn't really enter into it.

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01/26/2012
butts butts
I'd be dating her because I liked HER, I don't give a shit what she does with her genitals or what she has.

If you so desperately want vagina, go date someone with a vagina, don't harass/criticize/bothe r someone who doesn't have one just because she identifies as a woman :/ That's a really asshole thing to do.
02/13/2012
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by butts
I'd be dating her because I liked HER, I don't give a shit what she does with her genitals or what she has.

If you so desperately want vagina, go date someone with a vagina, don't harass/criticize/bothe r someone who doesn't ... More
Absolutely!
02/13/2012
charletnarouh charletnarouh
I often sort of struggle with this. I am very open minded and I have many trans friends and I see them completely as the image they present. I have no difficulty calling a trans man a man or a trans woman a woman. In my heart and my mind, I can and should love the person not their genitals but sexually, I'm not satisfied unless I can fully reciprocate sex and if someone either doesn't have the body for me to do so or doesn't want that reciprocation, I'm not satisfied and I'm not interested in playing with penises. At all. As a lesbian, I would have a very hard time dating a trans man because he identifies as a man. I don't like hairy legs or faces or other parts of the body that come with being male. I like breasts and vaginas and everything that comes with women. I've dated stone butch women and it's pretty much a deal breaker to not be able to fully reciprocate sexually. For the same reason I would have difficulty dating a pre op trans woman because I couldn't fully reciprocate lesbian sex if she wasn't female bodied. I have at times found both trans men and trans women attractive but the sexual aspect in either case would be very difficult to me.
02/14/2012
MasonM MasonM
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Originally posted by Peggi
I have a friend who is a M2F transgender woman, pre-op, and although she is definitely a woman on the inside, her genitals just don't match the inside! She is actually in no rush to change this, but a lot of people give her grief about it. I ... More
I'm bi, so I'm perfectly comfortable with both male and female genitalia. And it's the person's mind that I'm more interested in when I'm dating.
03/08/2012
plaidvulva plaidvulva
Fellow MtF pre-op here to say: I wouldn't want to have sex with her (not because she's a she with some extra, but rather 'cuz I'm taken), but I'd happily build up her confidence and tell her not to worry.

There's nothing wrong with her. There's nothing to be ashamed of.

However, she should probably let anyone she's "interested" in know about this, because if they get in bed and get that surprise, it's very possible they'll flip off and the last thing we want is someone getting away with murder due to "trans panic."
03/09/2012
Interesante Interesante
It wouldn't bother me at all.
03/09/2012
Eliyahu Eliyahu
I'm pretty binary in terms of gender/body bits I'm attracted to, so while it wouldn't bother me to find out I hadn't noticed before we got naked, I'd have to sheepishly explain I don't dig penis regardless of it being attached to a woman. Interesting thread/poll...
03/09/2012
pix pix
For me, it would take some getting used to, but in the long run I would hope I'd accept and love the situation. If someone has a problem with your friend's choices about her body, that's their own problem not your friend's problem, and I hope she never feels pressured to make decisions about her body just because of what other people think.
03/10/2012
angiogenesis angiogenesis
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Originally posted by plaidvulva
Fellow MtF pre-op here to say: I wouldn't want to have sex with her (not because she's a she with some extra, but rather 'cuz I'm taken), but I'd happily build up her confidence and tell her not to worry.

There's ... More
Hi, Chie.



I'm kind of lol'ing at "she with some extra" because I love the girls with some extra... be it a big body, a big booty, or a big clit. ;3 But yeah, full disclosure is always a thing that needs to be done before anyone gets anyone into bed anyway.
03/10/2012
tA tA
It wouldn't bother me at all. I don't care what a person looks like.
03/10/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I have never really liked male or female genitalia. I don't think that my attraction to a person should be based on what is in their pants. That is like judging someone for a big penis or a little penis. That would sound silly to any person on the street.
03/17/2012
Schattenstern Schattenstern
These results may be swayed, though. A lot of the people on this site are probably more open-minded about trans* issues than the general public.
03/18/2012
Alyxx Alyxx
It wouldn't bother me one bit, be it MtF or FtM
03/20/2012
highlifegirl highlifegirl
My partner came out to me as trans in June of last year. She always seemed feminine to me, so it wasn't a huge surprise, and we worked through it together. She has been on hormone therapy for about five months now but doesn't plan on undergoing surgery any time soon - mostly for financial reasons. As she puts it, her clit is just huge. We found alternate masturbation techniques, they proved quite helpful.
03/20/2012
Lock Lock
What people do with their own bodies is their business.
03/20/2012
lustylusty lustylusty
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Originally posted by Rhinobaby
A person does NOT need to undergo surgery in order to be a "real" male or female. We are who we are, regardless of body, presentation, or other people's presumptions of us.
KIND OF THINK IT WOULD BE HOT, I know weird
03/20/2012
Positwist Positwist
I'm a big ol' queer who's no stranger to playing with transfolk, so uh, no, this definitely isn't a problem.
03/20/2012
pogoyoubounce pogoyoubounce
No problem for me. I'm a heterosexual male, not turned by the male body, face, etc. but I do find penises attractive, and I enjoy anal sex. So a MTF with a penis is great for me.

The only issue for me would be if the girl hated her penis, and didn't associate it with her or her sexuality. I couldn't date a MTF like that, because if I were to be in a relationship with a MTF I'd want to play with her "big clit" and I'd want to both bottom and top.
03/31/2012
Entropy Entropy
I vote other, and I will say no more.
03/31/2012
guro guro
Quote:
Originally posted by Peggi
I have a friend who is a M2F transgender woman, pre-op, and although she is definitely a woman on the inside, her genitals just don't match the inside! She is actually in no rush to change this, but a lot of people give her grief about it. I ... More
one of my partners is a trans woman who's non op for various reasons i can't go into! personal circumstance.

i love her very much and i don't see her any differently than i would see any other woman, no matter what any part of her looks like she's 100% female.

i hope that your friend can find someone who honors her and treats her how she wants to be treated regardless of where she stands in her own personal journey. ANYONE who gives her grief about her sexy parts isn't worth her time.
03/31/2012
guro guro
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Originally posted by Rhinobaby
A person does NOT need to undergo surgery in order to be a "real" male or female. We are who we are, regardless of body, presentation, or other people's presumptions of us.
well said!
03/31/2012
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