If you were dating a M2F transgender woman and she was pre-op...(private poll)

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I'm not attracted to women.
03/31/2012
Voir Voir
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Originally posted by Chirple
There is no right or wrong way to express sex or gender.

If the operation isn't right for her now, or ever, that's fine.

The "average" person isn't going to understand, no. The "average" person would be ... More
I agree with this 100%

Personally it wouldn't bother me, but I'm another individual who doesn't really take genitals into account when I find someone attractive... it's usually personality and face for me xD
03/31/2012
dhig dhig
i don't fall for genitals so it wouldn't bother me
03/31/2012
Rab Rab
as long as she's a nice lady, what's between her legs doesn't matter
04/02/2012
kenny.the.dinosaur kenny.the.dinosaur
I wouldn't care if my girl had a penis
04/18/2012
TheirPet TheirPet
I wouldn't be bothered by it at all but I'm not cis and genitalia of all sorts are fine with me. I've even dated pre-op MTF and FTMs before and I honestly view them as their identifying gender even if their body doesn't match.

However, I know some people are bothered by this. It's important to remain safe and communicative with one's partners.
06/13/2012
Alura Une Alura Une
If it were me, though, I wouldn't mind as I like both sets and if I loved her, it wouldn't matter to me.

BUT, I would understand if someone didn't want to date someone like that as long as they treated her with respect on their way out--we can't all like male genitalia.
06/22/2012
meezerosity meezerosity
No. If that person identifies as a woman, she is a woman. She is just built differently than cis-gendered women. Being pre-op wouldn't bother me at all and it is no one's business about what she does or does not do with her bits.
06/23/2012
Badass Badass
Sounds like it would just be an added plus to me..
06/23/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I am dating a MAAB bigender femme who has no current plans for any sort of surgery but who definitely has a strong female identity, and I love her and her body. It doesn't bother me at all. Of course, I'm genderqueer, so I have some experience in accepting bodies that don't always click with people's identities in some ways.
06/26/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
It wouldn't bother me at all but it certainly wouldn't be easy
07/08/2012
marshmallow marshmallow
would not be bothered.
07/08/2012
HannahPanda HannahPanda
I'm dating a trans guy and his genitals don't bother me at all, so I assume in this situation that it'd be unbothersome as well.
07/08/2012
quantumspork quantumspork
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Originally posted by Owl Identified
Yup! Surgery isn't necessarily the right option for everyone. Surgery can end up diminishing the capacity for orgasm, and possibly eliminating that possibility altogether. Surgery for trans women also tends to mean life long ... More
All of this. Well said.
07/09/2012
ToyGeek ToyGeek
My opening question on first dates isn't "so what's the situation in your pants?" It's more about personality, compatible goals and interests, whether someone is kind-hearted, funny, interesting, smart, etc. The other stuff is important, but it comes later, and if you like and care about someone, I would imagine that the detail isn't big enough to cause a problem.
07/09/2012
Librarian Librarian
I don't know that it "would" bother me a little bit but it might. I've never been in that situation. I'd like to believe that I'd be open enough to be okay with whatever surprise is in the shorts...however, I might feel a bit misguided and more than surprised when it came to sex and I hadn't been told.
07/09/2012
PapaCass89 PapaCass89
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Originally posted by Peggi
I have a friend who is a M2F transgender woman, pre-op, and although she is definitely a woman on the inside, her genitals just don't match the inside! She is actually in no rush to change this, but a lot of people give her grief about it. I ... More
Honestly If I ever became single again I want to date a M2F in fact several times I have thought about asking the wife if she would mind me hooking up with one. I am into pegging so of course a trans simply makes it so that I don't have to deal with the girl putting her penis on. Honestly if I was single I would probly try to get your friends number, but I digress if your friend doesn't want to get the bottom done that is her decision and hers alone it is a huge step and not only that, but I have heard of many people losing alot of their pleasurable feeling during sex post op. And honestly if your friend looks like a woman, acts like a woman and I don't doubt is dead sexy then she is probly more woman than most women. And as far a partners go I know for a fact there are a huge amount of people that would love not just a sexual relationship with your friend, but a real lasting relationship.
07/10/2012
digit88 digit88
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Originally posted by Peggi
I have a friend who is a M2F transgender woman, pre-op, and although she is definitely a woman on the inside, her genitals just don't match the inside! She is actually in no rush to change this, but a lot of people give her grief about it. I ... More
I'd be bothered by it
07/10/2012
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I am a bi woman, and genitalia is such a small part of it that I don't think it would matter at all to me.
07/12/2012
Phosphorous Tick Phosphorous Tick
It's a HUGE decision to make and it's intimidating at that.
It wouldn't bother me at all to be honest. I don't think I would enjoy being penetrated by her but I think that would be the only stipulation. Seeing her as she is and as her body is I wouldn't mind showing my affection for her or having sexual relations with her in a way that would be fine for both of us- she's still a woman no matter what
07/12/2012
Boyqueen Boyqueen
Wouldn't bother me one bit.
07/24/2012
Roz W Roz W
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Originally posted by Silverdrop
Geez, what is wrong with these people? IF your friend is in a serious relationship, that partner has earned the right to express an opinion about the matter. But other than that, what business is it of anyone else's? It's her body, her risks, ... More
This. For serious.

This is a crap poll.

How often do you talk about your friend's genitals, if you're not in a sexual relationship with them? It would typically be considered kinda rude, no? But everybody gets to have an opinion about trans genitals. It is crap.
07/24/2012
britanny0620 britanny0620
I'm pansexual, so it wouldn't bother me at all. The only thing that would upset me (or rather, used to upset me), which is common so I understand it and therefore DON'T get upset by it, is if they refused to engage in any sexual activity because of it
07/24/2012
britanny0620 britanny0620
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Originally posted by Ryuson
It wouldn't bother me at all, but when I look at someone and consider how attractive they are I don't consider gender, anyways.
Exactly ?
07/24/2012
DeliciousB DeliciousB
It wouldn't bother me at all. I wouldn't be dating them.
07/24/2012
needapacker needapacker
It would bother me a little bit, but only because being with a trans woman would trigger my own dysphoria.
05/31/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I personally wouldn't date a transgender. :\
06/01/2013
treehugger treehugger
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Originally posted by Beautiful-Disaster
I personally wouldn't date a transgender. :\
Is there a certain reason why would wouldn't date a transgender person?
06/02/2013
lexxxmoonchild lexxxmoonchild
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Originally posted by meezerosity
No. If that person identifies as a woman, she is a woman. She is just built differently than cis-gendered women. Being pre-op wouldn't bother me at all and it is no one's business about what she does or does not do with her bits.
This is exactly how I feel.
06/17/2013
mr115393 mr115393
I think it would take a little getting used to because I really do prefer vaginas. However, above all, I am very attracted to women. And if a woman I adored happened to have male genitalia, that's something that I don't think would be that hard to adjust to.
06/30/2013
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