Mis-Pronouning

P3ngu1n78 P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
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I politely correct them.
joja , TheParrishism , Youssii , lukas24 , shcoo , Darklyvan , SiNn , britanny0620 , marshmallow , DarthTaco
10  (20%)
I just pretend it didn't happen...
GONE! , ladychristie , Ciao. , Bbiz , Caulfield , MasonM , TransMarc , sodapin , kendra30752 , angel142stx , Terri69 , sneako , MistressDandelion , JG24FanUK , Rab , Hot'n'Bothered , Sam the Man , butts , eroticmutt , SilverMinxxx , Stinkytofu10 , Ly-Ra , DeliciousSurprise , Schattenstern , thisisadeletedaccount , finnimbrun , violets , Missmarc , Jewlickah , Phosphorous Tick , canislytherin , ghalik , viserys4king , TheirPet , aimtoplease , Andrew1992
36  (71%)
I wait for someone else to correct them.
kmilly
1  (2%)
I correct them assertively so as to assure mis-pronouning ceases.
Thomas90 , kcthedreamer , Woman China , TakeHimAway
4  (8%)
Total votes: 51
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04/06/2012
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GONE! GONE!
I'm too timid to correct people so I just sit there pissed off.
04/06/2012
kmilly kmilly
i usually just sit there pissed off too, GL. i have a sassy girlfriend who corrects everyone, like it or not. so i chose that option.
04/06/2012
ladychristie ladychristie
My mom and my step mom mispronounce things all the time so it stopped bothering me long ago. But I do make fun of my stepmom about one time when she just couldn't get it right.

Stepmom: jolene do you have any water I'm poached
Jolene: you mean parched
Stepmom: (fanning herself with her hand) yeah I'm poached do you have any water
04/06/2012
Chirple Chirple
It really depends. If it's someone who knows my situation, I may correct them.

However, my "policy" for people in general who don't know me and never well, I just act as I feel a cis-man would. I guess that's kind-of vague but it depends. I understand some people are more "out" and more comfortable with bringing it up as a trans-issue, but I'm not - at least not right now.
04/06/2012
joja joja
I am cool with almost any pronoun personally, but I do correct people when they refer to my trans friends incorrectly.
04/06/2012
Ciao. Ciao.
It really depends on who and the situation, but I'm usually pretty forgiving about these sorts of things (even if they bug me sometime), especially with friends who've known me for a long time. I'd definitely feel differently if I was presenting as female full time though.
04/06/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
as a cis-gendered female I'm not directly affected by this but I really try to just avoid using gender specific pronouns as often as I can to avoid offending others. Gender is such a grey area anyway most of the time I really don't want to force identities on anyone.
04/06/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
A lot of it depends on the context. I am more likely to sternly correct friends, more politely with teachers or ignoring them.
04/06/2012
MasonM MasonM
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
Since I currently don't pass, I cringe and move on. The only difference is with the few people I'm out to so far and even then I'm prone to letting it slide.

My husband is still dealing with the fact that I'm transitioning (he knew I was trans when we were newly together, but we assumed I would live as a female the rest of my life) and so I give him a lot of slack with it.
04/07/2012
TransMarc TransMarc
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Originally posted by Bex1331
as a cis-gendered female I'm not directly affected by this but I really try to just avoid using gender specific pronouns as often as I can to avoid offending others. Gender is such a grey area anyway most of the time I really don't want to ... More
You're a great person for doing that
Currently I don't pass, so it happens everytime I go out! It usually bothers me, but I ignore.
However, when persons are insisting to talk to me or even flirt insistingly (not going away when I tell them, show them by body language it bother me, or following me when I walk away and ask for personal information insistively) it can leads to some kind of weird dysphoria+anger thing later. (I guess I would feel the anger even if I was a woman - I mean, WTF is with people in this city? - but in a different way?)
I would feel endangered correcting people, or ashamed in some more opened settings (such as a LGBT center) like I am... failing at being seen as manly, I guess?
04/07/2012
sodapin sodapin
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
Hasn't happened recently, but usually I'll look around to the people nearest me to see if they were referring to one of them. If not, then yeah it's ignored with a confused face lol.
04/08/2012
Terri69 Terri69
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
I just let it go if it was an innocent error...
04/08/2012
sneako sneako
Quote:
Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
depends who it is. if I know them well I'll correct them. if it's an acquaintance/stranger, I'll ignore it and hope a friend/ally will correct them or just let it go.
04/08/2012
Thomas90 Thomas90
I feel like if i just politely ask, people will think im doing it for attention or something, and just forget. If i assertively tell them i am male, they just accept it and deal with it.
04/10/2012
GONE! GONE!
Quote:
Originally posted by Bex1331
as a cis-gendered female I'm not directly affected by this but I really try to just avoid using gender specific pronouns as often as I can to avoid offending others. Gender is such a grey area anyway most of the time I really don't want to ... More
You are awesome and reading this made my day.
04/10/2012
Rab Rab
I do a combo of pretending it didn't happen and hoping my fiancee will correct them for me
/wuss
04/10/2012
Hot'n'Bothered Hot'n'Bothered
Pretend it didn't happen. Or slip it into a comment correctly pronounced.
04/10/2012
lisasharrer lisasharrer
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
i look other place till said right
04/15/2012
Sam the Man Sam the Man
I usually just pretend it didn't happen because I don't want to have to deal with it. My girlfriend sometimes corrects people, which is both a huge relief and kind of embarrassing.
04/16/2012
butts butts
If someone does it, I don't usually correct them. It happens often, I only pass 50% of the time or so, it would get tiring if I corrected every person. I don't care that much honestly! I don't ever identify as a girl, but I don't really care if someone slips up/doesn't understand unless they're doing it in a situation where it's not ok (such as; in a potentially unsafe place) or would cause too much confusion. I just wanna keep things simple haha.
04/17/2012
eroticmutt eroticmutt
Yes, sometimes I would get incorrect pronouns though I don't recall that since before Easter.

I am wondering though, if perhaps I ought to correct people if it happens again, because normally I don't but it really pisses me off and I end up thinking about it for the whole rest of the day.
04/17/2012
GONE! GONE!
Oh, if people call me something like "young lady" or "little mama" I will actually get super mad and yell at them though. Lol.
04/18/2012
Woman China Woman China
It is my job.

this is where I spend most of my time correcting Chinese people. Depending on the person I am correcting, if it is someone I know I can have fun with I say something like, "When did so and so get a sex change?" or "When did he grow a vagina?" or my favourite, "Did you know you are a man/woman now???" we have a lot of fun with it in the classroom and usually makes us all laugh a little because it is such a problem with them trying to get he/she hima nd her right.
04/18/2012
Schattenstern Schattenstern
I'm not really "out" yet, so I just have to take it.
04/18/2012
TakeHimAway TakeHimAway
Quote:
Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
Correct or scowl.
05/14/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I usually put up with it without saying anything. I don't really expect my family to ever get the hang of gender-neutral pronouns, and my friends who aren't super clued in to the queer/trans* communities forget sometimes, or are also bad at using them. At this point I settle for knowing that my partners and close friends get them consistently right. =)
05/17/2012
finnimbrun finnimbrun
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
In most cases I just ignore it. If it's someone I'm close to who I've asked to use my preferred pronouns, I'll probably correct them.
05/22/2012
Darklyvan Darklyvan
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Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
Oh wait I read that as mis-pronounce.
05/23/2012
SiNn SiNn
Quote:
Originally posted by P3ngu1n78
What is your reaction when people mis-pronoun you?
I correct people alot for things like this
05/23/2012
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