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You should have just referred to him as "he," since that's what he is. It was wrong of you to even doubt or use other fake-pronouns. He is a male, no matter what, and though his anatomy is different from biological males, he's
You should have just referred to him as "he," since that's what he is. It was wrong of you to even doubt or use other fake-pronouns. He is a male, no matter what, and though his anatomy is different from biological males, he's still a male. Refer to him as male and don't even question your pronoun use, since you shouldn't be questioning it in the first place.
I find your admonishment of me extremely offensive. It appears you have not read through the posts of this topic or you would have seen me say (in as many different posts - directly copied and pasted):
1. I deliberately choose to use "hir" and "ze" as alternative pronouns to her/she because my partner is not a woman. I also didn't want to confuse the reader by using him/he immediately following my statements that I used the toy on female anatomy.
2. I use he/him/his on a daily basis when referring to my partner.
3. As I said above, the problem is how to reconcile those male pronouns in REVIEWS with descriptions of toy use on a female body part.
4.I care so much about this person that I want to make sure that not only am I respectful of his preferred references, but also that my readers understand (even just a little bit) that it is possible for a man to have "girly parts."
5.My partner prefers masculine pronouns and, quite frankly, he is a man to me so I automatically use them. The issue that arises here when writing a review is trying to describe a male person with female anatomy...
This post was never about what he should be called. It was about how to refer to my male partner who happens to have female anatomy in relation to describing the use of sex toys in written reviews.
I've NEVER "questioned" what to call him in life. I live with him and he started coming out as transitioning after we met. His struggles with the way other people treat him are part of my daily life. This is something I support him in 100% in every single way he asks and spend hours reading the experiences of others to help me think of more than what he asks to be there for him through this. We live in a little town in East TN and are judged and treated like freaks everywhere we go, but I still introduce him with his male name. I have even gotten into an argument with my best friend because said friend didn't appear to be trying to not use feminine pronouns.
I am far from perfect, but I think that anyone who actually takes the time to read my posts on this subject should be able to see that I only have the best intentions toward him. I could have just done nothing and left him out of my reviews, but why should I have to do that? Instead I started this post which appears to have educated other EF community members.
There have been times when I have disagreed with what others have said on various topics on these forums, but I have never really gotten upset. Congrats on being the first one to really piss me off.
And to everyone ELSE that has posted on here: thank you again for your support and suggestions.