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Wow, the answers have really shocked me. I didn't realize that people wouldn't be supportive enough.
I think, I could be wrong, but I think it's not that they wouldn't be supportive. You asked if they would stay
. Changes of this magnitude, in the middle of a marriage, is likely to turn someone's world upside down. As some have said, "I'd wonder what else they were hiding." I can understand it from both sides.
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I've known I was bisexual since I was 15. I even told my husband as much when we met. BUT... in learning to deal with the aftermath of abuse, rape, infidelity, child, more infidelity, another child... I repressed my sexuality for a long time. Now that it's something that I think about again, now that it's something that is much more a part of who I am now, well, you'd think that I'd just told him that I was cheating on him or something. I'm trying to be patient while he processes, what he thinks of as, this "new information."
It's frustrating on both sides of the fence; and it takes a lot of work and commitment to stick it out. Some people are capable of that kind of work. Some people are honest and know what they can and cannot handle. Some people just simply know what they're attracted to.