Trans and poly...do you think it's harder to find new lovers?

TakeHimAway TakeHimAway
Are any of trans and poly? Do you think it is harder finding new lovers, due to being trans?
05/07/2012
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MasonM MasonM
Quote:
Originally posted by TakeHimAway
Are any of trans and poly? Do you think it is harder finding new lovers, due to being trans?
I'm not poly but I have found plenty of people that are very accepting of the ideas of sleeping with Transgenders.
05/07/2012
Youssii Youssii
I guess I fall under that radar; I'm trans and poly, although currently just casually shagging someone.

I think given that I live in an area with a large number of trans, queer and poly people (if you know where to look), it's a lot easier for me then for someone living in a medium sized town etc. I'm around trans and queer people almost all the time, even my hair dresser/ barber is one of three trans people.

I think people are more likely to be both open to trans people and open to poly than just poly, because once you've broken one societal norm it's easier to deconstruct others like the gender binary.
05/07/2012
thisisadeletedaccount thisisadeletedaccount
I'm trans/genderqueer and poly, and it's been startlingly easy. A really amazing girl fell for both me and my partner and things are going really well with both of them. We make a very cozy, very queer triad.
05/18/2012
finnimbrun finnimbrun
Quote:
Originally posted by TakeHimAway
Are any of trans and poly? Do you think it is harder finding new lovers, due to being trans?
Maybe a little bit, because it's harder to get close to people romantically without, y'know, running the risk of them not liking the fact that you're trans* when you come out to them, but in my experience it's not that hard.

Then again, I'm pretty weird, in that all three people in my poly circle at this moment are some flavor of trans*, so the whole accepting thing has never been an issue.
05/22/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
I think it depends on the area you live in. In the right community, it is no problem at all.
05/22/2012
c90 c90
I'm genderqueer and fairly new at being poly, but I haven't had any trouble because of it.
My partner is also trans and hasn't had any direct trouble that I know of, but I think he's nervous that he would get trouble and maybe isn't as outgoing because of it
05/26/2012
FabBillie FabBillie
I think it's very difficult to find partners that are open to polyamory because of the extent to which monogamy is the social norm in the United States (where I live), but I haven't known many people to have trouble finding partners willing to date them because they're trans*.
05/26/2012
TransGuy14 TransGuy14
I'm trans and poly, but haven't been out as either for long enough to have an answer for you...
11/22/2012
Innocent Mathias Innocent Mathias
my wife and I are looking but it seems hard to find some1
11/22/2012
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