trans* and sexually confused

hatman hatman
Hey everyone
Um, I've been sort of questioning my sexuality- yet again haha- from being pan/bi to maybe being gay. Recognizing that sexuality is fluid and all that I've been trying not to get caught up in labeling myself so much, but it's still really bugging me.. So I was wondering if yall could share your experiences with it? And if you're gay or lesbian, how was it coming to terms with it? Do you find it hard navigating the partner (dating or sexual) pool?
Feb 26, 3:09 am
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RyleyRadioactive RyleyRadioactive
Well, I'm pan (sorry if this doesn't help) but I found my attraction very easy, even during questioning my gender.

Since sexuality is fluid, you technically can say pan because it encompases all without discrimination. (My train of thought)

If you feel you need a label, than I suggest looking at clothed people on the internet of both binary genders. No one in specific, you could even just look at random clothing websites because they usually have models for it).

Thinking about play could also help you decide what you label is. What do you like or dislike about genitals?

I'm kinda getting caught up in my own head here, but I hope I helped.
Mar 16, 11:04 pm
angstygoose angstygoose
i can definitely sympathize. for years i thought i was a gay woman until i realized i was actually just trans, but coming to terms with my gender actually made navigating my sexuality much freer and easier. i don't really place restraints on who i feel i'm "allowed" to be attracted to anymore, i feel more able to just crush on whoever i'm gonna crush on. i suppose the most important thing to know (and something i wish i'd known) is that there is no wrong way to define your sexuality. it is completely up to you and is no one's business but your own. best of luck to you, and enjoy the journey of discovery!
Mar 17, 6:31 pm
VAl0984 VAl0984
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Originally posted by hatman
Hey everyone
Um, I've been sort of questioning my sexuality- yet again haha- from being pan/bi to maybe being gay. Recognizing that sexuality is fluid and all that I've been trying not to get caught up in labeling myself so much, but ... More
Mar 18, 11:33 pm
eroticmutt eroticmutt
I've always been attracted exclusively to cisgender men, but after a recent experience with a transman (I am a transman myself) I have realized that it's a masculine presentation and attractive partner that I am interested in, regardless of their assigned sex.

This is very new for me and also raises questions about the types of sex acts I enjoy and how satisfied I would be with this type of partner, though from what I am aware of I would be equally pleased and perhaps enjoy it even more. I don't know as this was more of a short-term occurrence than a long term relationship, but I want something long-term only.

All in all, it opened my mind while making me confused and unsure in which direction to focus my attention. Decisions, decisions.
Mar 21, 8:42 pm
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