Transgender Sex, What difficulties do you have?

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Transgender Sex, What difficulties do you have?

XzombehxbearzX XzombehxbearzX
I have a lot of issues and just feel alone with this, anyone else feel this way?
04/11/2011
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RonLee RonLee
M2F, F2M, Post-Op, Pre-Op, Non-Op, already in a relationship, is being Trans known or a surprise to your parnter? More information is needed to give a thoughtful reply.
04/13/2011
Ilkrissha Ilkrissha
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Originally posted by XzombehxbearzX
I have a lot of issues and just feel alone with this, anyone else feel this way?
I assure you sweetie, we all feel alone sometimes. The thing to remember is: it's a feeling, and those aren't rational, and they're often wrong.

You are not alone.
05/03/2011
thebest thebest
My "difficulties" are more on a personal level not what other people think about it; that is, nine out of ten times I'm too uncomfortable with sex because of dysphoria about my body. Shit sucks.
06/28/2011
lzbncrckhead lzbncrckhead
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Originally posted by XzombehxbearzX
I have a lot of issues and just feel alone with this, anyone else feel this way?
i have issues, i just try my best to focus on what i DO like about my body.
06/30/2011
Triangles Triangles
I have trouble feeling pleasure while having strap on sex with my partner. Normally she'd give me a hummer after I made her cum with a strap on, but I wish I could feel it too. It's that dysmorphia about not having a real dick that bothers me.
08/11/2011
Indigo Morada Indigo Morada
I'm mtf and even tho I don't plan on getting srs, I have issues with keeping erections
12/28/2011
RonLee RonLee
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Originally posted by Indigo Morada
I'm mtf and even tho I don't plan on getting srs, I have issues with keeping erections
You might want to discuss that with your endocrinologist, I've heard that HRT can do that.
12/28/2011
GONE! GONE!
Finding stuff to do that pleases both my partner and me simultaneously. >.< I know there are toys like the Share and Feeldoe but very few seem to provide both realism and vibrations or internal stimulation. Ideally, I would like something made out of a material like Vixskin with vibrations.
12/31/2011
Star88 Star88
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Originally posted by XzombehxbearzX
I have a lot of issues and just feel alone with this, anyone else feel this way?
I have issues on the other side of it being a cisgendered partner of a transwoman. I sometimes feel limited in the things we are able to do that don't make her feel uncomfortable but I don't want to push her boundaries. Doesn't help there's almost nothing out there about sex tips and ideas for trans people except vague comments about figuring out what works.
01/02/2012
Rhinobaby Rhinobaby
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Originally posted by XzombehxbearzX
I have a lot of issues and just feel alone with this, anyone else feel this way?
Dysphoria sucks. Big time.
01/02/2012
nori nori
Edited: Star88; You and i may be in the same boat. Maybe this could help you two.

my girlfriend and i have made a new set of vocab to help her deal with dysphoria. It's words that make her feel more feminine, and still allow the two of us to talk sexually in our long distance relationship.

wet = hard/ anatomically excited
button = the tip of her
front = penis
entrance = her anus

I love calling attention to her hips, her ass, her collarbones, her tiny perky breasts. The parts of her anatomy that she likes (on a good day) And that seems to help with her dysphoria.
01/18/2012
Chris Corrigan Chris Corrigan
Most of the time I have problems with dysphoria. That makes sex awkward for me.

Otherwise, because I have sex with cis- men, I sometimes run into the problem of being fetishized and not being respected or fully seen as a man. If I'm fucking you then I expect you to see me as a man and treat me like any other cis- man.
01/19/2012
Jensen Jensen
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Originally posted by Rhinobaby
Dysphoria sucks. Big time.
Seconded.
02/06/2012
Jensen Jensen
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Originally posted by nori
Edited: Star88; You and i may be in the same boat. Maybe this could help you two.

my girlfriend and i have made a new set of vocab to help her deal with dysphoria. It's words that make her feel more feminine, and still allow the two of us ...
I think this is a beautiful idea.
02/06/2012
Llewey Llewey
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Originally posted by Jensen
I think this is a beautiful idea.
Seconded. You sound like a great person, nori.

I'm male-bodied and have trouble with the idea of topping or being on the receiving end of oral. I can't get aroused by the idea of these things. I don't notice how dysphoric I can be until attention is called onto one of these two things. I ... haven't thought of a solution yet, besides just stating a preference as bottom, or other more stereotypically "female" roles.
02/12/2012
Pirate Pirate
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Originally posted by nori
Edited: Star88; You and i may be in the same boat. Maybe this could help you two.

my girlfriend and i have made a new set of vocab to help her deal with dysphoria. It's words that make her feel more feminine, and still allow the two of us ...
i do the same with my ftm boyfriend, and it do help a lot!
03/06/2012
scaredlittleboy scaredlittleboy
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Originally posted by nori
Edited: Star88; You and i may be in the same boat. Maybe this could help you two.

my girlfriend and i have made a new set of vocab to help her deal with dysphoria. It's words that make her feel more feminine, and still allow the two of us ...
My girlfriend's MTF and I'm FTM. We've learned to play with language to make it better.

Wet=hard and vice versa
When we have penetrative sex (her penis, my vagina), we TALK about it like it's happening the other way around.

And we both love each others' butts.
03/06/2012
Alx Alx
I'm FTM and I find it incredibly awkward when in sexual situations. my dysphoria is the bane of my existence. alas. only really feel comfortable when talking and thinking about doing it with a fellow FTM friend of mine (which I think is somewhat normal). he feels the same way, too. his way of saying it is "it's because we're the same and understand each other's struggles" - which is true. when he and I talk sexually, I merely swap words with more genderless or male-y words, such as erection, front, crotch, entrance, abdomen, all those fun things.
03/08/2012
Lock Lock
Dysphoria just sucks. It can affect nearly every aspect of your life, or every single aspect, or only a few, depending on your personal experience. For me, it's every single aspect, and because of that, I tend to just avoid the sex issue entirely.
03/12/2012
TheParrishism TheParrishism
It does just make life very difficult. I don't know how to get past it in order to 'get it up.'
03/17/2012
Liberalqueer Liberalqueer
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Originally posted by thebest
My "difficulties" are more on a personal level not what other people think about it; that is, nine out of ten times I'm too uncomfortable with sex because of dysphoria about my body. Shit sucks.
I know what you mean. I hate not having a dick, and not being able to penetrate my partners. I don't mind bottoming, but the fact that it's terribly hard to reverse that hurts.
03/17/2012
xxjoel xxjoel
It often gets complicated. :/ You have to find a particularly patient partner.
03/18/2012
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