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I suppose my question was a little less informed than I meant it to be. I'm not sure if I'm asking "if" I'm trans, but more like, I know I'm having these feelings and it would be nice to be able to put a name to them. I know
I suppose my question was a little less informed than I meant it to be. I'm not sure if I'm asking "if" I'm trans, but more like, I know I'm having these feelings and it would be nice to be able to put a name to them. I know exactly what I want (breasts, a vagina AND a penis) and I know that the cravings for this part I don't have are deep enough that sometimes I even cry.
I recently heard the term "genderqueer" and wondered what it meant, but there is so much about the topic of trannsexualism and transgenderism all over the internet that it's impossible to know what's right and what's wrong, who's trolling and who actually has something to say. And maybe this questioning my gender identity is just a phase and I WILL eventually go back to being "a women who really wants a penis." But I definitely have a lot to learn first, obviously.
It does sadden and scare me that transpeople have been defined as having a disorder, I think that's a terrible misnomer
I'm going to reply in reverse, starting with the last few lines.
I can understand why it seems uncomfortable for transgenderism to be identified as a mental disorder, but I think the belief reflects, in greater part, a stigma against mental disorders in general. People would be much comfortable with a medical diagnosis than with a mental health diagnosis. There's a very widely held belief that anyone with a mental illness is responsible for their own illness and that they're weirder or stranger with people than physical illnesses.
However, having a mental disorder doesn't mean a person is crazy and having GID does not mean a person should go under psychoanalysis or cognitive behavioral therapy or be institutionalized to fix the thought processes they have. Psychologists are generally in favor of transitioning procedures through the use of social change (clothing, pronouns), hormones, and surgery.
However, the reason that GID is a disorder is, because like all disorders, it can cause significant distress and impairment on a person's functioning. Someone who feels they are male but is in the body of a female can become extremely depressed, have low self-esteem, and a number of other issues.
Transitioning can also be a time when a person could use an objective third party. The discomfort in physical changes and mood swings are something that need to be kept in check. Coming out to family and friends, as well as coping with people who are unsupportive, is also something that psychologists can help with.
I really don't know much about what it means to be "genderqueer," but I personally would avoid associating that term with you largely because I see a big distinction between gender and sex.
If you wanted to identify as a woman, have breasts, and a penis, I wouldn't say that's genderqueer, because genderqueer refers to not categorizing oneself as a man or woman in terms of gender. Things like penises and vagina refer to biological sex, something that psychologists are trying to separate from the concept of "gender."
I'm sure there's some type of label out there for you (if labeling is what you really want), but I, personally, wouldn't define you as being transgender or genderqueer, but that's just me.