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I have just seem to many people and/or their relationships fall apart and become chaos because of stress. Since for the most part stress can not be avoided I have always thought it would be better to focus energy on the more positive aspects of life.
I have just seem to many people and/or their relationships fall apart and become chaos because of stress. Since for the most part stress can not be avoided I have always thought it would be better to focus energy on the more positive aspects of life. Home is home...work is work that is my theory. I don't bring home to work or work to home. Makes things run smoother keeping them separate.
Perhaps my outlook is what it is because I work with the elderly. Hearing them talk about things that they wish they would have done differently really is an eye opener. I know that a lot of them say that if they had life to live over they would not worry about the little things and instead spend more quality time with their loved ones.
Ah, now that definitely makes sense. I think it's wonderful that you have learned from the elderly you work with and were able to heed their message, good for you!! You always hear the one about telling people you love them, but your advice is actually a lot more helpful in the long run, I think. What's impressive, is that you've made it work for both of you. I agree with Stormy, you sound like you have it together!
As for myself, I have to do something physical to help get my body out of my fight or flight mode and some kind of exercise, even just walking around the neighborhood, helps. But talking to others &/or writing it out helps enormously, too. Then reading afterwards, or watching something that engages my mind and helps distract me while I try to relax. I agree with SaucyxGirl about housework and organization, but personally, I have to be careful to not add to my stress by starting too big an organizational project that creates a mess, lol! The pampering, is something I do after everything to try and unwind enough for the best treatment ever...sleep!! If I had to pick though, I say talking it out with someone who is sympathetic and understands (without challenging me or making it worse), is the most helpful thing for me.