Would you choose an alternative wedding ring gemstone?

Would you choose an alternative wedding ring gemstone?

Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium dioxide (ZrO2"
Moissanite -- "originally referred to a rare mineral discovered by Henri Moissan having a chemical formula SiC and various crystalline polymorphs... synthesized in the laboratory and named silicon carbide (SiC)"

Would you choose an non-traditional gemstone over a diamond?

And would you try to pass it off as a diamond?

Links:
Moissanite Vs. Diamond (Squidoo)
Cubic zirconia vs Diamond (Diffen)
Moissanite vs. Diamond Nexus** (eHow)

** "...cubic zirconia that has been coated with a protective chemical substance to prevent clouding and increase durability"
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I would choose an alternative gemstone.
45
No, I would only choose a diamond.
18
Yes, I would tell someone that the stone was not a diamond.
17
No, I would instead tell someone that it is a 'diamond'.
Total votes: 80 (64 voters)
Poll is closed
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Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
I had already planned on forgoing the diamond wedding ring. My future mother-in-law gave me an old family ring with a white gold band and an emerald (my partners birthstone) so I planned on adding some stones around the emerald and using that as my wedding ring. The added stones will probably be a "fake" diamond like CZ
05/27/2013
eri86 eri86
I would love to have an single set emerald instead.
05/27/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
When my husband and I were going to get married, my mom offered me several rings. There was one that was a CZ, another was a different stone, and then there were the real diamonds. My mom pushed for the CZ, saying that it was the biggest of them all. I went with the diamonds. I grew up looking and loving the diamond ring. Also, I don't wear or buy expensive jewelry, so in my mind my wedding ring should stand out. It's the only ring I own, and the only jewelry that I wear ever day (aside from the three piercings in my upper ear cartilage).

*A ring wasn't important to me, so long as we got married. The fact that she offered me anything meant and means a great deal to me.
05/27/2013
evanescentowl evanescentowl
I'd much rather get a pearl than a diamond. I'm not sure why. I also prefer silver to gold. XD
05/27/2013
gwenevieve gwenevieve
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium ...
my wedding ring isnt a diamond, idk what it is
but it desnt even look like one
its light pink and heart shaped
with 2 small diamond-looking gems on either side
i love it
i think most diamond rings are very boring
05/27/2013
Woman China Woman China
I get mocked when I tell people that if I ever decide to marry there will be no rings. But if he insists on a ring, then I get the plain and simple band and he can wear the rock.

The two engagement rings I have been presented with in the past; one was a honking emerald, and the other was a black diamond surrounded by traditional diamonds. Always find it funny when people think I am impressed by flashy things.

Other than the Eleven it is.

By the way Lab Lady!!! Congrats!!!!
05/27/2013
TJax TJax
For something she is going to wear everyday for the rest of her life, why would I be stingy and get something that could get chipped?
05/27/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium ...
When we got married, we were both in grad school and could not afford a diamond. We knew we were going to have very good jobs one day soon, so we agreed to a nice size CZ, set in a ring she designed, and on our one year anniversary, where we were already on our career path's, we replaced the CZ with a real diamond and put that "special" CZ into a necklace she wears almost every day.We agreed on this before hand and had no intention of staying with a "fake" stone. FYI, of all those you mention, CZ looks best, and lasts longest, but must be removed before doing any work on a ring, as heat will shatter it (unlike real diamond).
05/27/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by TJax
For something she is going to wear everyday for the rest of her life, why would I be stingy and get something that could get chipped?
Real is real. Fake is fake. Diamond is the only thing here created by nature over millions of years. Even a tiny real diamond is worth many times what a huge fake CZ is. I would rather have small and "real" personally.
05/27/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by evanescentowl
I'd much rather get a pearl than a diamond. I'm not sure why. I also prefer silver to gold. XD
Rubies are also pretty in some wedding settings.
05/27/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by eri86
I would love to have an single set emerald instead.
A good emerald can cost more then diamond,by the way.
05/27/2013
dancingduo dancingduo
We did a white topaz for the engagement ring. Her idea, not mine!
05/27/2013
VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
Cubic zirconia will get cloudy and faded after awhile. I have to replace my earrings every few years because they get dull. My mom has moissanite and don't really think it looks like a real diamond, although it is pretty.

We went through Brilliant Earth to get something ethically sourced.
05/27/2013
Mrs.Hellzapoppin Mrs.Hellzapoppin
I do not like most traditional wedding rings, so I had mine made with a Herkimer Diamond (double terminated quartz). Love it.
05/27/2013
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
With the skyrocketing price of gold - not only have diamond substitutes gained in popularity - other metals have as well. I've seen 'jewelery grade stainless steel', tungsten and other metals offered.

Luckily after being married for 23+ years, I've bought all the jewelry I need to buy. It will be interesting to see what my kids opt to do when their weddings approach.
05/27/2013
Lady of the Lab Lady of the Lab
I'm looking at an alternative gemstone because although a diamond is really pretty, I was having a hard time justifying the cost against other financial goals.

Right now I have my eyes set on moissanite.

Since chipping was mentioned, here are some stats:

Mohrs hardness scale:
Diamond -- 10
Moissanite -- 9.25, 2nd hardest gem & used as a replacement for diamonds in scientific experiments
Sapphire & Ruby -- 9
Topaz & CZ -- 8
Emerald -- 7.5 to 8

@Woman China: Thanks ^.^ I'm also in the process of planning the ceremony.
05/27/2013
bettyboom bettyboom
Honestly, I want just a plain silver band.
05/28/2013
natashaanime natashaanime
I would actually want a diamond. It doesn't have to be big either, I would just want at least one really nice ring in my lifetime.
05/29/2013
sXeVegan90 sXeVegan90
I'd actually want a real diamond. Because it is a wedding band and a symbol of our undying love...well I'd rather have real than fake. If I couldn't afford a real diamond, I would just get a simple band without a stone in it at all.
05/29/2013
KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
i chose a Diamond Nexus. I liked buying a stone that wasn't impacting the human rights of a country, and wasn't going to bankrupt us as well. It felt like the smart choice for us.
05/29/2013
MissAdara MissAdara
For me, opals are better than gold and diamonds. I am just crazy over them, and would love to have an opal at least incorporated into my wedding ring.
05/29/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium ...
My ring has a sapphire in it. It's what I wanted. Now, I kind of want an upgrade...
05/29/2013
chicmichiw chicmichiw
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium ...
I actually would welcome an alternative appearance to a wedding band. Like no gem at all. As a woman, I like the look of a plain gold band. I'd prefer having something written on the inside than a big rock on top.
05/29/2013
GingerSpice GingerSpice
as long as it sparkles, i'm not picky
05/29/2013
joiedejouets joiedejouets
If it wasn't diamond I would rather get some other sort of cheaper gemstone than a fake.
05/29/2013
SecretKinksters SecretKinksters
Only diamonds for me on my wedding ring.
05/29/2013
giftdgecko giftdgecko
Quote:
Originally posted by Lady of the Lab
I've been doing some research in the process of picking a ring and I came across two popular lab-grown alternatives to diamonds, cubic zirconia and moissanite.

From Wikipedia:
Cubic zirconia -- "cubic crystalline form of zirconium ...
We went with a stone that wasn't a diamond simply because it looked nicer on the ring. It looks great and while we may get a strange look every once in a while, diamonds are a fairly recent development in society and one that is unnecessary. It's not cubic zirconia but an amythest
05/29/2013
TiffanyW TiffanyW
Quote:
Originally posted by sXeVegan90
I'd actually want a real diamond. Because it is a wedding band and a symbol of our undying love...well I'd rather have real than fake. If I couldn't afford a real diamond, I would just get a simple band without a stone in it at all.
It's all about preference. My ring was a blue sapphire. It was a genuine stone, not a lab-made. But at that point in my life (I wasn't even 18 when he proposed) I wasn't comfortable wearing a real diamond. I was afraid of losing it, or damaging the ring.

I am 22 now, and we have been talking about an upgrade. I know for a fact I won't be working anytime soon (no daycares within 45 miles) and I am more comfortable about wearing a real diamond ring.

I don't think the stone has anything to do with the meaning of the ring. The ring is for unconditional love, and I guess pronouncing it to the world. No one is going to know if it's diamond or CZ
05/30/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
C and I finally got my engagement ring about six weeks ago. It's a small diamond, got it from a pawn shop (one of the employees is a friend of mine), and it's unique. I do dream of replacing the diamond with an emerald ... but I've already developed an attachment to it as it is.

chiliring
05/31/2013
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