Should I send a gift?

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Contributor: phunkyphreak phunkyphreak
A co worker invited me to her daughter's wedding and I already declined the invitation I am going out of town. Do I still send a gift or is it in poor taste not to. I don't really know the daughter and met her fiance briefly. What do you think?
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Yes
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10  (16%)
No
DeliciousSurprise , NuclearTeapot , Ryuson , null , bayosgirl , Dusk , dezzydezire , Errant Venture , MaryExy , slynch , ThoughtsAblaze , Tori Rebel , dv8 , Ansley , I'll Miss You EF :( , Dawn (Lilac Distraction) , Misfit Momma , sarki , sasweetheart89 , Bignuf , Kdlips , haley730 , Purpleladybug , Steve of Eden , v23 , southern woman , hjtee , toysforall , Jimmy Stevenson , LovelyBeauty , snowbumbunnie , ily , Eva Schwaltz , K101 , Howells , samanthalynn , SMichelle , toxie m , Undead , Zombirella , BlooJay , MamaDivine , MissCandyland
43  (68%)
Other
married with children , wetone123 , js250 , Valentinka , Seth912 , playtimeohsofun , Breas , SexyStuff , Airen Wolf , P'Gell
10  (16%)
Total votes: 63
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Contributor: Kayla Kayla
According to the social etiquette posts I just researched, it says that you don't have to, but if you know the parents of the daughter well, you may consider sending a gift. A gift in the $25 - $50 price range would be appropriate.
07/21/2011
Contributor: married with children married with children
I would at least send a card.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Acorn Acorn
I think it would be better to send a gift but it doesn't have to be expensive.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Ryuson Ryuson
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I'd say yes a card, but no gift
07/22/2011
Contributor: null null
You don't have to, it really depends on how close you are to the coworker in this case.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Errant Venture Errant Venture
A gift isn't necessary, but a card would be acceptable.
07/22/2011
Contributor: disenchanted disenchanted
I agree with the others who say yes, but something small, or at very least a card. I would say it also depends on how close you are to the coworker. I wouldn't say you have to, but I think it would be nice.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Rain. Rain.
Like the others have said at least a card.
07/22/2011
Contributor: ThoughtsAblaze ThoughtsAblaze
I would send a card. If you know the co-worker really well and she is very dear to you, then I would send a card and a simple gift.

My mom, on the other hand, would tell you to ALWAYS send a gift.
07/22/2011
Contributor: LikeSunshineDust LikeSunshineDust
Quote:
Originally posted by Kayla
According to the social etiquette posts I just researched, it says that you don't have to, but if you know the parents of the daughter well, you may consider sending a gift. A gift in the $25 - $50 price range would be appropriate.
I agree with Kayla. A small gift would be a nice gesture, but not necessary.
07/22/2011
Contributor: wetone123 wetone123
I think a nice card would suffice.
07/22/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by phunkyphreak
A co worker invited me to her daughter's wedding and I already declined the invitation I am going out of town. Do I still send a gift or is it in poor taste not to. I don't really know the daughter and met her fiance briefly. What do you think?
An invitation that is really heart felt is nice, but a gift is ONLY "necessary" or expected if you are going to attend or if it is a CLOSE friend or relative. NO, you do not need to send a gift, but perhaps a nice card would be appropriate.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Kdlips Kdlips
nope
07/23/2011
Contributor: haley730 haley730
no
07/23/2011
Contributor: js250 js250
What is your relationship like with your co worker? If you do not send a small acknowledgement gift will it create problems or rumors in the workplace? I would send a nice card and a simple but inexpensive candle set. Use your points, get a nice decorative candle and call it good.
07/23/2011
Contributor: phunkyphreak phunkyphreak
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
What is your relationship like with your co worker? If you do not send a small acknowledgement gift will it create problems or rumors in the workplace? I would send a nice card and a simple but inexpensive candle set. Use your points, get a nice ... more
Good Idea!!! I like my co worker, Deb but I do not relly know her children. My other co worker Molls kids got married and did not invite me which was fine. I also told Deb not to invite me I was going to be out of town. I kinda feel that I do not need to send a gift as I told them not to invite me but I feel bad.
07/23/2011
Contributor: Purpleladybug Purpleladybug
I don't think you HAVE to send a gift but if it makes you feel better you could always send one because you want to!
07/23/2011
Contributor: Valentinka Valentinka
I would definitely send a card or flowers - something like that.
07/24/2011
Contributor: Seth912 Seth912
If you know her daughter and like her, maybe. But if you dont really know her, I wouldnt.
07/25/2011
Contributor: v23 v23
I suppose some think it's rude but I wouldn't send one, I do like the card idea though.
07/25/2011
Contributor: southern woman southern woman
I wouldn't send one. Thats just me tho. If you were attending or knew them well I think you should give one, but since you wont even be there and you dont really know them, they honestly wont really notice or care. I know my husband and I were so excited to be getting married I honestly didn't care who gave one or didn't or who came or didnt unless it was someone we were really close to.
07/25/2011
Contributor: southern woman southern woman
Quote:
Originally posted by v23
I suppose some think it's rude but I wouldn't send one, I do like the card idea though.
Agreed.. A card is sufficient.
07/25/2011
Contributor: playtimeohsofun playtimeohsofun
send a card and maybe 10 bucks
07/26/2011
Contributor: hjtee hjtee
If you don't really know the couple, then I don't think a gift is needed. A card would be a nice gesture though.
08/06/2011
Contributor: toysforall toysforall
Wedding invites get out of hand now a days. I say don't send one.
08/16/2011
Contributor: Jimmy Stevenson Jimmy Stevenson
Send a card maybe. But you shouldn't feel like you need to send a gift.
09/04/2011
Contributor: LovelyBeauty LovelyBeauty
I think you should send a card, but I don't think you should buy anything!
09/05/2011
Contributor: Eva Schwaltz Eva Schwaltz
Just a card maybe. I don't think they invited you just to get a gift from you.
09/05/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
Quote:
Originally posted by hjtee
If you don't really know the couple, then I don't think a gift is needed. A card would be a nice gesture though.
I agree.
09/05/2011