My sister recently had her first baby and her and her boyfriend picked the name Kali Era. Her mother thought it was great but his family is all up in arms that a name from the "family" wasn't chosen. To the point where they don't even visit the new mum.In my case I was married when I had my son and my husband picked out all family names for him...from HIS family. We were getting a divorce when I had my daughter so he wasn't around when I named her Isabella Rose. He took me to court to try and force me to change her name to...wait for it.....Violet Mae after bhis grandmothers. Thankfully he didn't win because that would have been awful. Has anyone else gone through this business of relatives sticking their noses in about what to call your child? If so how did it turn out? Did you name the child what they suggested or pick your own name...and how did they take it?
Traditional Hereditary Baby Names
At first I had a solid opinion on it, but then I started to waffle a little bit. I might compare it to something like being asked to be in a wedding party. I know it's not exactly the same thing, but in either case one "wrong" choice can result in a grudge being held for something seemingly petty. I would feel special if my brother named a daughter after me, but I wouldn't be hurt if he chose to name a daughter after my sister, or my mother instead. I think that with things like long lines of names (like you're on so and so the third) that it might be a little different. I had dated somebody who was a third and to me, it only made sense for us to name a son the fourth (if we ever reached the having kids point). Either way I think it boils down to what the parents of the child being named want. Neither of them should be guilted into a name they don't want for their child, and neither of them should be forcing it on the other. I think that the child is what matters, and their name shouldn't make a huge difference. Yes, it's nice to pass on family names, but I don't personally think it should be a make or break if both parents can't agree on a family name. To me, it should go something like "do you like this name from my side of the family? No? Well then let's come up with something else."
Boy I hope that made sense, I rambled a lot, lol.
Boy I hope that made sense, I rambled a lot, lol.
Jan 17, 12:24 pm
No I did not have any problems from anyone. They did not push out my kids I did. For their father's I did not care what they thought either. They got their last names and that is all they need. Even tho my son has his dad's first name sorta in his middle name, with a different spelling. My daughter has her great grams name on her dad's side and my mom's name as her middle name.
Jan 17, 12:45 pm
In my husband's family the first name of the father becomes the middle name of the child and I don't have a problem with that. I'm kind of against traditional family names because I feel like each new addition to the family should have their own moniker for their personality. I would never have a Jr, II, or III as a son. I think it puts too much pressure to be just as awesome or better than their father/grandfather/gre at-grandfather. No child needs that.
But, it's ridiculously moot because we aren't having children. Ever.
But, it's ridiculously moot because we aren't having children. Ever.
Jan 17, 1:25 pm
My family did not like the name we had picked our for our first son, but we ended up naming his something different anyhow. We wanted Ivan Matthew, but we ended up with David James. However it turned out to be good, since my dad is David and my Hubby is James, we call him DJ, so he has his own name and honors my dad and his own dad. Which was important too me.
My second son we got to play around with more, since there was no one else to name him after. I wanted Elliot Lucas, but was quickly shot down on that one, but we decided on Sylas Matthew.
I am happy with both names and we hope to have a girl name Raygen Jolynn.
My second son we got to play around with more, since there was no one else to name him after. I wanted Elliot Lucas, but was quickly shot down on that one, but we decided on Sylas Matthew.
I am happy with both names and we hope to have a girl name Raygen Jolynn.
Jan 17, 8:00 pm
I chose our children's names because I liked them, and I was the one to go through all the pregnancy, labor etc. We would have named a boy after his brother, who died in his teens. But, I happily agreed to that.
His father used to think the things we named our kids were "weird" and "Jewish." WTF? They are old names with a lot of history behind them, but our kids aren't named "for" anybody. The man had no manners.
On my mother's side at least 10 kids are named "Jim" or "Mike." I really think some imagination would have been nice for these poor kids with only 2 names between half a dozen or so of them.
His father used to think the things we named our kids were "weird" and "Jewish." WTF? They are old names with a lot of history behind them, but our kids aren't named "for" anybody. The man had no manners.
On my mother's side at least 10 kids are named "Jim" or "Mike." I really think some imagination would have been nice for these poor kids with only 2 names between half a dozen or so of them.
Feb 2, 5:31 pm
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Well I haven't had a child yet but I plan on maybe using one of the family middle names and a fairly unconventional first name.
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Lola Park
My sister recently had her first baby and her and her boyfriend picked the name Kali Era. Her mother thought it was great but his family is all up in arms that a name from the "family" wasn't chosen. To the point where they don't even visit the new
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My sister recently had her first baby and her and her boyfriend picked the name Kali Era. Her mother thought it was great but his family is all up in arms that a name from the "family" wasn't chosen. To the point where they don't even visit the new mum.In my case I was married when I had my son and my husband picked out all family names for him...from HIS family. We were getting a divorce when I had my daughter so he wasn't around when I named her Isabella Rose. He took me to court to try and force me to change her name to...wait for it.....Violet Mae after bhis grandmothers. Thankfully he didn't win because that would have been awful. Has anyone else gone through this business of relatives sticking their noses in about what to call your child? If so how did it turn out? Did you name the child what they suggested or pick your own name...and how did they take it?
In our family it's not too big a deal what you name your children but most of my relatives seem to favor using at least one 'family name' for example my middle name is Marie, just like the middle name of about 1/3rd of the rest of the women in our family.
Feb 3, 4:22 am
Within my family, we traditionally name the first child born after someone who'd recently passed. For example, my first name starts with the same letter as my grandmother's name, and my middle starts with the same letter as my grandfather's name.
They don't sound anything alike, but it's a more subtle way of honoring them than using an identical name.
They don't sound anything alike, but it's a more subtle way of honoring them than using an identical name.
Feb 3, 5:08 am
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