I'd say, find a book (or even just start small with one story) that you like that plays up that element (maybe one of the ones PassionateLover explained), and read the story to him. Let that start a conversation, say "I really liked this
about the story, wouldn't it be fun if we tried that?"
I don't know if I'll be very useful for suggestions, my tastes are a little off the beaten path, and none of these specifically feature taking control and ravishing. Nevertheless, a few of my very favorite stories with a man in control are Vertigo
in Hard Hats
(it's an MM story, so if you're not into that the book's probably not worth it for you, but the dynamic is incredibly hot), Unfinished Business
in G is for Games
, which is a story of role playing spanking, and is so well-written that it's among my favorite erotica stories of all time. The third one I'm thinking of... it might actually be in G is for Games again, but if it's not it's in Playing With Fire
, in which a girl is running away from her partner who doesn't respect her. I don't remember its title, though.
Anyway, try one of those out for inspiration, but the conversation is going to be where you'll really get your point across.