Originally posted by
Dawn (Lilac Distraction)
Does anyone else see that this book is incredibly biased? I've always agreed with the concepts of non-monogamy and polyamory, but I feel that monogamy can also be an educated choice. Every time I pick this book up and start reading it again,
Does anyone else see that this book is incredibly biased? I've always agreed with the concepts of non-monogamy and polyamory, but I feel that monogamy can also be an educated choice. Every time I pick this book up and start reading it again, I'm offended by the way the book presents monogamy as something that's a total myth and that people are brainwashed into it by society.
Overall, it's got some good information, but I really think it's more geared to those who have already made the decision to be non-monogamous.
Does anyone else think this way?
I didn't find it biased but I will say that if you find that you are offended whenever you try to read the book then it's not the resource you should be reading!!
I know I've stated this many many times but it bears repeating: Monogamy is a CHOICE, it is neither more enlightened nor less enlightened than the choice to be polyamorous or whatever permutation your relationship works best as! Any successful lovestyle takes commitment, work and lots of patience that's where the enlightenment come into play....when a tentative decision becomes a CHOICE.
When two people are content with each other and don't desire to look outside their relationship then they have made a valid, wonderful and loving choice. There is no brain washing when two people make this decision, likewise, when a couple becomes a triple (or more). When the choice is freely made it is an enlightened choice.
I think the problem comes in when reader's feel threatened by the information presented...or the author perceives the threat. Truly though, beyond pointing out the obvious (we are HAPPY this way) there doesn't need to be any justification.