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Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
I know in some cases the wives don't have a say in who they are to be married, but in this case it seems as though they are all happy and accepted this lifestyle.

I sure as hell wouldn't share my old man, scheduling times to be with him and all that. But if these people are not doing anything wrong, and no one is getting hurt then what business is it on anyones to judge.

If they don't like it, don't watch it. If they find it fascinating like I do, enjoy it with a bowl of popcorn.

The kids are said to go to a polygamy friendly school. So this whole situation wont come to them being ridiculed.
09/29/2010
Contributor: lilscorpiosweet lilscorpiosweet
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Originally posted by Chilipepper
Just read an article - the family's being investigated for bigamy. Although the police can't decide whether to call it 'bigamy' or 'making sure nothing squiffy is going on involving the kids'. The wives are more concerned ... more
Chilipepper,

I agree that as long as everyone involved are responsible and if there are kids involved they are cared for then everything should be able to be ok. I also think if and when the kids are old enough and start asking questions that the people should be able to be honest with the kids about the relationship and not necessarily give details but maintain a positive outlook on it.

Like with any other relationship they take time and work and most relationships do have problems but as long as everyone works together and keep an open communication that there is no reason that the problems couldn't be worked out.

I think its a good thing for kids to see love demonstrated in the form of loving others and it helps with problem solving as well as understanding what its like to see a relationship work.
10/03/2010
Contributor: lilscorpiosweet lilscorpiosweet
I haven't seen this show and I think it would be interesting to see how their relationship parallel's to my own.

I am in a polyamorous relationship with two guys one of which I have been married to for going on 6 years. The other guy is his best friend that he grew up with. Our relationship is a positive one and by that I mean we have open lines of communication and we agree to disagree. Our relationship isn't perfect but we are working on how it can be better.

The jealousy issue sometimes crops up but is quickly squelched as we all assure each other of the boundaries. My children are completely ok with the way the relationship is. They are never a party to anything between the adults. They see pda's in the form of hugs and kisses and human contact. They NEVER see any sexually explicit content.

We function as a multiple parent family and when we need to deal with problems we try to talk them out rationally and if we can't we agree to disagree.

The relationship is a work in progress and we are happy and content with it for now.
10/03/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by lilscorpiosweet
I haven't seen this show and I think it would be interesting to see how their relationship parallel's to my own.

I am in a polyamorous relationship with two guys one of which I have been married to for going on 6 years. The other guy ... more
It is on tonight at 10
10/03/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Alicia
Yea I agree too that it's not cheating. Actually I don't know if my husband really considers it cheating so much as he considers the man being selfish I guess.

I totally agree that the community aspect is awesome. I even told my ... more
On a tangent, My Man and I looked into Communal Living years ago. We were talking with a few other people about starting a commune, no sex sharing (at least not in the planning stages) but sharing housing, land and growing our own food etc.

It never really happened. A guy friend of ours was going to move in with us, when we bought our first house (and we certainly had "communal weekends" in My Man's first apartment, it was like a second home for about 8 or 10 people, all sharing in shopping, cooking, cleaning up and entertaining (we all played music at the time.) But, My Man was feeling that two men in the house might not work out (the other guy was like a male carbon copy of me) so, it never happened. I kind of wonder what would have happened if we had done the whole Commune Thing.

I think a full commune would have been a problem when it came to sharing income and that the child raising thing could have caused problems, too.

Switch gears, here.

On this show Sister Wives how often does he have sex with each woman? Even if he has sex every day, himself, that's only once or twice a week for each woman. Less often if he doesn't want to have sex every day. I couldn't deal with that. What does that do to Female Initiated Sex "Oh, sorry, it isn't your day." On the commercial they make it clear that he only "gets" each woman individually. I wonder how they work out the long periods with no sex while waiting for the guy to get to each woman. It's not like these women have any other man to go to, unless the two that aren't with him are getting it on with each other, which would make sense, from my POV.
10/03/2010
Contributor: ID42 ID42
I haven't seen the show from TLC yet, but am an avid fan of Big Love. I think it's totally possible for other people to live this lifestyle and it be an amazing experience to share that sort of bond with more that one other person, but I don't think I personally could live that way. As far as having a sister wife to help and share in the child rearing and cooking and errands and everything else that comes with running a household on a daily basis, I have that already. A tight knit group of sexy, intelligent, knitting, music loving, family members that I call my my ladies. So Some days or weeks I do have that sort of help with me and mine and I do the same for them. Their husbands are also our friends. My husband's best friends. It just all worked out as we grew up, that we all knew and loved each other, coupled off and stayed together. My problem would be with sharing my husband. I don't consider myself to be jealous, but after we have dealt with an affair and a few years falling apart and then coming back around, I'd like to keep my immediate family just as it is right now. Because it's working. It feels good again. We'd have to completely finish healing us before trying to undertake and create a whole new family unit. I can't wait to see an actual show about this and it not be a story-lined drama filled show. That's just good television. I'm ready to watch the real thing and see how it works in the real world.

On a silly note, If one of us couples ever wins the lottery or power ball, we have all decided to build ourselves a little place out in the country. All live in our separate houses, but have one giant communal backyard like on Big Love. We've decided we'll probably be shot or invaded for being some sort of garden growing hippy fringe cult/commune but we'd do it anyway.
10/03/2010
Contributor: Alicia Alicia
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Originally posted by P'Gell
On a tangent, My Man and I looked into Communal Living years ago. We were talking with a few other people about starting a commune, no sex sharing (at least not in the planning stages) but sharing housing, land and growing our own food etc. ... more
He rotates through the three every night and doesn't get a night off. They seem to be satisfied with the frequency as they made a comment tonight about how he keeps them all satisfied. Me personally would be ok with every three nights, although there are times I want a quickie and I want it NOW and I am glad that I don't have to share or "wait my turn". And on the show he's courting a fourth wife, so that means that each wife would only get him every 4 nights now.. Thing is, the first wife tonight didn't seem so keen on the whole idea and mentioned that she only stays because she's commited and because of her daughter. That's pretty sad. She was saying how he looks at the new girl in a way he hasn't looked at her in years...and really that is so sad. I think after watching this tonight I feel a bit worse, at least for her because it's not working for her entirely and that's pretty sad.
10/03/2010
Contributor: P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Alicia
He rotates through the three every night and doesn't get a night off. They seem to be satisfied with the frequency as they made a comment tonight about how he keeps them all satisfied. Me personally would be ok with every three nights, although ... more
Hmmm. That is sad. (And not uncommon with Rogue Mormon type groups like this, from what I have read.)

So, HE get sex every day (supposedly) and each woman only gets to have sex once every 3 or 4 days? Something is fishy about this. Even My Man and I, who often have sex once or twice a day, sometimes just "don't feel like it" and either one of us can say 'no' or skip a morning or evening, if we want. Sex should be spontaneous, like what you said about your quickies. Not scheduled. Seems a bit suspect, to me.
10/04/2010
Contributor: Tart Tart
Silly me, I thought being married to different people at the same time was illegal? Maybe I don't know much about it, and don't want to really. However, I'm not going to tell someone they are wrong for doing it, or judge them. It just isn't for me.
10/29/2010
Contributor: Jobthingy Jobthingy
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Originally posted by Tart
Silly me, I thought being married to different people at the same time was illegal? Maybe I don't know much about it, and don't want to really. However, I'm not going to tell someone they are wrong for doing it, or judge them. It just isn't for me.
The first marriage is legit. All the others are spiritual ceremonies.
10/29/2010
Contributor: CandE CandE
I saw Sister Wives, it was on my rare nights off, I didn't really enjoy as much as I thought. I welcome the whole idea of plural marriage, pretty much my take is consenting adults living the life they choose to live. I am somewhat fascinated about it, the metrics of living with so many adults in a bond, a little bit too much estrogen in a home (I can't even imagine when it comes to the time of the month, and how to basically afford that lifestyle. It seems to me that the husband seems to making some really good money to afford all that and women have to have more patience than ever.
I will be the first to admit, however, its a fantasy of my husband. I think most husbands like the idea of having many wives (purely sexual reasons I know. Personally, I enjoy the idea of it, but I cant seem to get behind the metrics of plural marriage. I like the whole sisterhood of it, sharing personal life with other women so closely, and well housework should be alot easier LOL
04/19/2012