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I agree that the lack of sex ed is disturbing, however I believe it is the responsibility of the parents or guardians of the child/teen and not the "right" of the government through schools. Sadly not all parents talk to their kids about
I agree that the lack of sex ed is disturbing, however I believe it is the responsibility of the parents or guardians of the child/teen and not the "right" of the government through schools. Sadly not all parents talk to their kids about it, and even then, not all of them are properly informed. I personally do not want my daughters learning about sex from anyone besides me, and I plan to be their source for education regarding sex. I think dumping information on kids then giving them a condom is a stupid approach to it, and I also think teaching abstinence only is stupid. However, I understand that a lot of parents don't care about the sexual health of their children because of a belief that they can control the kid forever and keep them from being sexually active through fear or lack of information.With that said, I would also like to say that with the current system, I would love to see sex toys covered in sex ed. Teens are horny, and an outlet besides rape or unsafe sex practices would be awesome. Proper education about safe sex should absolutely include masturbation with or without toys, and some basic toy safety. Teens have the desire for sex just as much or more so than adults do, a safe way to release that sexual frustration would be a huge benefit to everyone in society. Wouldn't a teen guy with a masturbation sleeve be more comfortable and relaxed than a teen guy who hides in the bathroom with the door locked skulking in shame and fear?My daughters are currently only 3 1/2 and 2, but I already know how I will talk to them and what I will teach them when the time comes. They already know the proper names for parts and have a general respect for their bodies even if it's not sexual yet. As they get older I will keep the communication open, and avoid one "sex talk" as I think it's important to have a constant open dialogue. When the time comes for them to start having sexual desires and/or questions, I will educate them to the best of my knowledge and educate myself more if needed. I already know that I will teach them about sex toys, and probably even help them pick their first toys out. If they choose to become sexually active with a real person, they will do so equipped with a cute little safe sex kit I wish every parent took sexual health and education so seriously. It is the responsibility of the parent to provide knowledge and education for the child. The schools shouldn't have to step in and do the parenting too.This is a great topic which is close to my heart, so thank you for starting the thread Greathouse2008
I agree very much with your first paragraph. I WANT kids taught about sex, but I the government isn't good at catering to individual needs of children/teens. One size does not fit all. Beyond teaching reproduction, parents need to be the ones leading their children through the complicated issue of sex and sexuality.
The children do NOT belong to the gov't. Parents are the ones who invest time, love, and money in them. The gov't doesn't have personal relationships with the children, the families do.
Good parents are the go to people for sex information because even if they don't know the answer they'll try to help you because they don't want you to be fucked up (physically or mentally).
I never needed sex-ed, just common sense. Don't do something unless you actually know what you're doing. That said, my knowledge of sex and sexuality is soley derived from my Christian sex for pre-teens (I remember it talking about wet dreams, which was cool) and the internet. I learned about my clitoris from the internet (yes, really). Viva intertoobs.
While we probably have major viewpoint issues, Bulma, I congratulate you on accepting that your kids are sexual beings and need love and support. Kids need to know the right thing to do, but they need to know that there's someone who respects and cares for them,too.
I think, at the heart of the matter, personal responsibility is the most important thing that should be stressed. Think before you do things, and be aware of the consequences. People seem to be in love with the idea that anything and it won't affect them.
I don't understand how masturbation is more taboo than sex. For me, nothing should be too taboo to talk about. Yeah, maybe you don't want to talk about it 24/7, but it's there, so why not talk about it?
*super hugs for you*