What is my sexuality?

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What is my sexuality?

Martiniman Martiniman
First off, please forgive me if I use a term improperly, I'm honestly not up to date with all the terms that are used to identify ones sexuality.

So this is a full disclosure statement, but I'd really like your opinion!

I'm a straight male who has always considered himself to be 100% heterosexual. I'm in no way attracted to men, never have been and I don't think I ever will be. Two things have occurred with me in the last two years that from time to time have me curious with myself. First off, my wife and I discussed having a threesome with another male. This did not happen, furthermore, we decided that the idea of a threesome is better left for fantasy. However, in our discussion my wife asked me what I was willing to do. I answered that I was willing to do whatever she wanted me to do. She then asked if I'd suck cock for her if she wanted to see it. After a moment of thought, I answered yes and I meant it. Now I'd never do it on my own, nor do I want to, but I'd do it for my wife if she asked me to.

Secondly, in the last two years I've started having fantasies about being with a shemale. As I said, I have no attraction for men, yet I'm highly attracted to the idea of having sex with a shemale, and in all honesty, if given the opportunity and approval from my wife, I know I'd do it in a heartbeat.

With all that said, I'm only familiar with four sexuality terms...straight, bisexual, gay and lesbian, yet I've learned from this website that there are many more terms used to identify someone and their sexuality.

My question...In your opinion, what label or term would you use to identify my sexuality?

Am I still straight, but with kinky fantasies and am willing to please my wife or am I something else?

And just curious...is there anyone else like me who would suck cock for their wife & has shemale fantasies, yet considers themselves to be straight?

Thank you so much if you decide to read this novel and give me your opinion.
02/06/2013
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minstrel69 minstrel69
No offense, but I think people are too hung up on terms for sexuality and everything else. What does it really matter as long as you know what you want and don't want and what you like or might like and what you wouldn't? I don't think that doing something for your wife or for your own fantasy would mean you are anything other than what you have always been. I'm very straight (I can't imagine even why women are attracted to men) but I will watch shemale and even gay videos sometimes. It's a turn on but I have no desire to do anything with a male or shemale in reality. But even if I did want it for real I don't think it changes what I am.
02/06/2013
K101 K101
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Originally posted by Martiniman
First off, please forgive me if I use a term improperly, I'm honestly not up to date with all the terms that are used to identify ones sexuality.

So this is a full disclosure statement, but I'd really like your ...
Honestly, it sounds to me like you are turned on by the idea of pleasing your wife, doing what she says turns her on and nothing more. I really think this is normal! I can actually relate in a minor-ish way. You said you actually didn't have a gay bone in your body (pretty much), but once your wife brought it up, you would gladly do it. She told you it'd turn her on, or you got the impression this would be hot to her, right?

There ya go. It's the fact that the act is a sexual turn on for the woman you love and therefore, now that you know this, the thought of it could very well even turn you on! Okay, I'm no Dr. Phil, but this is really what I think is happening.

Labels? Terms? Words. Just words. Just simply have your likes and dislikes and don't worry about identifying with some label.
02/06/2013
SecondStory SecondStory
I don't think you really need to label it, it sounds like you just like doing things for you wife.
02/06/2013
GONE! GONE!
Being interested in transgender women = Still straight. I would say you're bi-curious at most but it's up to you to label or not label yourself.
02/06/2013
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by K101
Honestly, it sounds to me like you are turned on by the idea of pleasing your wife, doing what she says turns her on and nothing more. I really think this is normal! I can actually relate in a minor-ish way. You said you actually didn't have a ...
I totally agree, Kendra. Well said.
02/06/2013
El-Jaro El-Jaro
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Originally posted by K101
Honestly, it sounds to me like you are turned on by the idea of pleasing your wife, doing what she says turns her on and nothing more. I really think this is normal! I can actually relate in a minor-ish way. You said you actually didn't have a ...
"You said you actually didn't have a gay bone in your body (pretty much),"

- HA! "gay bone"
02/06/2013
Ansley Ansley
I have toyed with this scenario many times, we also agree that the reality is better left alone for now but we still play with the idea a lot and it's a huge turn on for both of us. I think what he likes is it becomes a situation where I'm some what forced to be more vocal and vulgar than I usually am and that in itself is something he really likes. To us, it's pretty much no different than a guy begging his chick for a threesome with another girl because his ultimate fantasy is to see two chicks go down on each other. At the end of the day, it's like "well, it's just cock". *shrug* There aren't any romantic inclinations there so it's just hot. No different than when we fantasize about me taking the entire defensive line of a football team. Or whatever we choose to use as the object of our desire.

What I like about it is that a) the tables are reversed, now it's not me who has to experience the taboo situation, it's him and b) there's a certain amount of power involved with knowing that he would ONLY do it for me. It's hot.
02/06/2013
LoneOokami LoneOokami
No need to label anything, just enjoy yourself and others (with consent of course)
03/14/2013
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