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How do you feel about abortion being used as birth controle?
I'm totally supportive of a woman's choice. I don't judge them & I cannot possibly know each and every female's personal situation, so I basically have very little opinion, I guess. I don't know that I'd say I have very little opinion really, but when it comes to a woman's reasoning behind her choices or anything like that, it's none of my business and I will never make it my business, because I feel like to do that (make her choices my business so that I can decide whether I
think what she chose was right or wrong) would be to judge. So I just support them. I support other females & would expect (but know it isn't often given) the same support myself, if ever needed.
However, when abortion is continually used as a means of birth control, when someone who absolutely does not want to have a child, I can say I don't think it's the healthiest or safest alternative to birth control. I just wish more people knew more about how to prevent unwanted pregnancies. There is a lot more to know than most people think & it can be done in more ways than most people think, surprisngly.
I have more of an opinion on what someone chooses to do with their children when it directly affects me -- say they are not caring for the child and I am picking up the slack all by myself. I have an opinion on that right now. I have an opinion when I am seeing children suffer and hurt and go through struggles they shouldn't have to because their parents' multiple bad choices. If I'm seeing a child hurt and deal with things all because of multiple bad choices from a parent (and I happen to be extremely understanding in every case, so it has to go real far for me to get to that point) then I start feeling like I'm being put in a situation where I'm forced to be less... hmm.. Less supportive maybe is the word. Or I get a little bit upset for the kid, and sometimes a bit angry at the parent because I cannot always be what a kid can only get from their actual mother & it sucks to not be able to do something about the kids' struggles and pain. That is what I have an opinion on.
Otherwise, I'm not judging. The last thing a woman needs who has had an abortion is more guilt put on her, more condemnation because I can guarantee most of them feel it already, and plenty. Plus I'm not God. The only thing I think fellow females should do in this ordeal is to support these women because as easy as it is to see them as viscious monsters, the sad truth is that they are most likely hurting and in need of someone. This is what I have experienced, in seeing girls I know who have had abortions. I know a couple who have had multiple. I don't know why they didn't just take the pill -- perhaps they had a reason? I don't really question it.
No, I don't think abortion is the best or healthiest solution to unwanted pregnancies. It's not the easiest or the cheapest either. But it still happens. I don't know why. I happen to think that it is not a matter of how any of us feel about women who choose to abort, but more about why
they choose to do it multiple times and how
they can be helped. How they can be offered a different, less harmful & damaging solution.
And it also wouldn't hurt if we started putting rapists behind bars for once. Holding them accountable, for once.