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Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
04/24/2013
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Contributor: peachmarie peachmarie
I think so. I need more friends though, I was always the friend who would get too invested in the friendship. I would take care of that person (I always am attracted to people who don't have their shit together) I just at this point want a friend who has a job, money, enjoys doing simple stuff with me like crafting, going on walks, playing games. Basically a female version of my boyfriend who likes to talk more and do girly stuff like paint each others nails and go for coffee.
04/24/2013
Contributor: gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, I care about my friends and try to be someone they can enjoy hanging out and rely on
04/24/2013
Contributor: Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Yes - I'm there when needed, but don't hover or provide help when it's not desired.
04/25/2013
Contributor: mjtheprincess mjtheprincess
Sometimes I am too good of a friend to people who don't deserve it. But I suppose most people have that friend that they have been friends with forever who totally takes advantage of them but they're too nice to end the friendship. Oh well, such is life. I rather treat people with respect and kindness and help others than be a crappy friend even if I occasionally get taken advantage of.
04/25/2013
Contributor: tami tami
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
yes I think I am, I am kind, caring and can keep a secret if a friend confides in me I do not run an gossip what it is they tell me I listen and give my opinion and so on
04/25/2013
Contributor: KrissyNovacaine KrissyNovacaine
I am mostly who I want to be. I wish I could be more physically present for my friends, but I limited by health issues.
04/25/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by KrissyNovacaine
I am mostly who I want to be. I wish I could be more physically present for my friends, but I limited by health issues.
That is my issue, as well, my health preventing me from doing things with them.

@ peachmarie & mjtheprincess, I can definitely relate to being the friend people rely in on & can take advantage of! But, you have to decide if it's draining you, or if it can be tolerated for whatever benefits you get from it. Some of those people were sucking the life out of me, but when they never had time for me & my issues, I decided to stop being their free therapist. Now, my friendship litmus test is whether I'm getting back enough from the friendship to balance what I put into it.
04/27/2013
Contributor: PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Yes and no. I try to always be there when someone needs me, but I have no idea how to be a friend in the physical sense. I've only had online friends for so long that I feel really awkward around others. I wouldn't want to have a friend that feels awkward around me.
04/27/2013
Contributor: Gdom Gdom
Not to be egotistical, but yeah, I think so! I might get on my nerves on occasion, but overall, I think it'd be alright.
04/27/2013
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
No, I'm quiet, boring, and broke.
04/28/2013
Contributor: GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
Yes, I think so. I'm fiercely loyal and make being there for my friends a priority.
04/28/2013
Contributor: purpleflower1972 purpleflower1972
I really try to be. I think it's only fair.
04/28/2013
Contributor: Mr. John Mr. John
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
As I write this post, I’m doing a brief check list to try and figure this out. Well, I think of myself as a giving person. I suppose that’s a plus. My favorite beer is Arrogant Bastard Ale. Oops, maybe my beer choice is a Freudian clue. If indeed I consider myself as being arrogant, and others do as well, then psychoanalysis might indicate that my best friend is me.

Using my logic and self analysis, I must be the kind of friend that I would want to have as a friend.
04/28/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
Yeah. I'm awesome. I wish there were two of me!
04/29/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
I forgot I posted here but once a friend and I got into the logistics of having 2 identical people and it was really deep and turned out to be a potentially terrible idea. Like it would have to end in one of us murdering the other. Would it be suicide or murder?
05/29/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by sunflower
I forgot I posted here but once a friend and I got into the logistics of having 2 identical people and it was really deep and turned out to be a potentially terrible idea. Like it would have to end in one of us murdering the other. Would it be ... more
I don't think the world is ready to handle two of you, just saying. And I think legally, it would be murder, but you'd be too smart to get caught, I have no doubt. Oh, wait, you're the one karma slapped for lying to her mom about something recently, aren't you! Maybe you would get caught! Ha ha ha, I'm teasing you!
05/29/2013
Contributor: RonLee RonLee
I like to think so. Although some people had said that when they first met me, they really did not like me at all... LOL!
05/29/2013
Contributor: ViVix ViVix
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
Sometimes I am, but no one is perfect!
05/29/2013
Contributor: sunflower sunflower
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
I don't think the world is ready to handle two of you, just saying. And I think legally, it would be murder, but you'd be too smart to get caught, I have no doubt. Oh, wait, you're the one karma slapped for lying to her mom about ... more
One of me is not enough honey. OMG you are really mean with all that teasing! I have a bladder infection this is no joking matter. My kidneys are dying. I will pee on everything you love.

Grandma told me karma isn't real and Jesus is the only thing that is real so I don't even care about all your sassy BS. #gurlswerve
me + u
05/31/2013
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
I would love to say yes, but the answer might actually be no. But then it might be yes because I would then already know all my little quirks so I would already know what to do/say and all those expectations.

I have pretty high expectations of the people around me adn especially high of the people I consider friends. If I feel that the people I consider friends are not making an effort to keep in touch, I try for a number of months but if I feel that it is a one way effort, I just stop trying. I just find it so frustrating to always be the person making the effort to arrange to do things, the one to always initiate a call or such. It becomes tiring, and I don't really feel that being friends with someone should be considered exhausting.

The worst part I find, is I actually make it known that this is how I feel long long before, which then yes, for a week or so they try to change, but then... same as before.

But it would be nice to be around someone who makes an effort to keep a friendship!!!! Not to mention I am wickedly funny with a huge ego... because honestly??? It really is all about me. Just my universe is in geosyncrial- however you spell that word- orbit with everyone elses universe. Ok. I lied. It is not all about me. It is all about Rossie.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
Honestly...probably not, no. I try to be a great friend and I love my friends more than anything. I'd give anything or do anything for them. But I have a lot of mental issues I'm dealing with right now and that comes with a big fear of abandonment. I can be a really clingy and needy friend. I don't want to be but I am. I'm working on it but right now, I wouldn't want to be friends with me.


My friends are amazing for sticking with me though.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by Lildrummrgurl7
Honestly...probably not, no. I try to be a great friend and I love my friends more than anything. I'd give anything or do anything for them. But I have a lot of mental issues I'm dealing with right now and that comes with a big fear of ... more
If they didn't see something worthwhile about you & got something positive out of it, they wouldn't stick around. I think, maybe, you are selling yourself short? As long as they know you're working on whatever problem(s) you think you have, they probably don't mind as much as you think. Now, I don't know you well enough to be sure, but I do know about people experiencing self-doubt and it can distort the way you see yourself in relationships. I doubt you are as bothersome as you think! It sounds like you have some worthwhile friends who stick with you through good & bad - I'm glad to hear that!
05/31/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
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Originally posted by sunflower
One of me is not enough honey. OMG you are really mean with all that teasing! I have a bladder infection this is no joking matter. My kidneys are dying. I will pee on everything you love.

Grandma told me karma isn't real and Jesus is the ... more
" I will pee on everything you love. " <That and the gif are hilarious, you brat!
05/31/2013
Contributor: SydneyScreams SydneyScreams
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Originally posted by Wicked Wahine
Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

Maybe I should have thought of a way to make this an anonymous poll!
I think I would like to be friends with me. I think I'm considerate and fun and all good friendship type things.
05/31/2013
Contributor: Wicked Wahine Wicked Wahine
I think I'm a good friend & I know I'd get along with myself just famously!

In the past, I think I have been a better friend than some ever deserved! Especially after finding out things I didn't know at the time. I had a friend drop me with do explanation before & was left to wonder what happened. No amount of asking got me any answers. Years later I found out from someone else about all the resentment that person had towards me for things I had no control over, such as how I looked, who wanted/did date me, (BIG one!), etc. I figure as long as I have remained the same all these years in how I treat friends, then I have no regrets about it, I have always done my best & I've never been mean or hurtful.
06/01/2013
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
Yes, although I don't have very many friends at all. I am extremely loyal to my friends though, and I am always there when I'm needed.

The trouble is, I'm very quiet and shy, so it's incredibly hard for me to make friends.
06/01/2013
Contributor: DolphinGirl DolphinGirl
Yup - I am honest, level-headed and give good advice! I guess working in psych helps
06/01/2013
Contributor: Trysexual Trysexual
Yes, definitely
06/01/2013