If your loved one gained 30 or 40 pounds, would you still get aroused over them?
Would you still get aroused over the one you're with if they gained significant amount of weight?
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Absolutely! I am not just attracted to his physical appearance but also his personality and his mind. Not only that, but I love his face, and adding some weight on his face would just make it pudgier, the assets I like wouldnt change
09/05/2011
Actually, since my boyfriend and I started dating about a year and a half ago, we've each put on maybe...30 pounds? I know that's not exactly a huge amount, but it makes a difference in both our appearances. But the fact is, he's just as sexy to me as he was before. My main reason for wanting us to lose that weight is health. I, of course, am having some major self-confidence issues since putting on weight, and I feel like there's no way he could still find me sexy, but he constantly assures me that he does. Plus, my butt and boobs have gotten bigger from it, so he's really not complaining.
09/05/2011
For sure! I actually prefer boys with a bit more weight on them! Plus, it's his personality that I find most attractive!
09/05/2011
My husband has gained some weight over the years, and I adore him just same. I am more concerned about his health.
09/05/2011
As long as he was still eager and able to please me, yes.
I'd be more concerned about his health but I'd still love him.
I'd be more concerned about his health but I'd still love him.
09/05/2011
My husband has been 30 lbs heavier than he is now, but it didn't made any difference.
09/05/2011
I definitely think so, yes. He would still be the same person, and it's him that I love and get hot for.
09/05/2011
Most definitely. My guy has actually gained about 30+ lbs in less than a year and I am still weak when it comes to him Weight has nothing to do with my attraction to him
09/05/2011
My husband could stand to gain 30-40 lbs no problem.
09/05/2011
Yes it is not weight that attracted me to my husband. I did gain this much after having two kids, he still loves me way I am and gets a chubby for my chub. His words!
09/05/2011
Totally! My man actually used to weigh over 600lbs, but had gastric bypass and has lost 400lbs!!!
09/05/2011
My lover is a little underweight as it is, he could probably afford the weight. Of coarse, if he gained any more weight, chances are good it would be muscle-weight.
09/05/2011
Absolutely!
09/05/2011
I would still find them attractive, but I would worry for their health and try to support weight loss, as I would hope they would do for me if I were overweight.
09/05/2011
I feel a bit like a heel being the first to respond in the negative to this... but physique is something that's important to my arousal---both as a physical thing, and mentally because taking care of one's self is a trait I find to be attractive. (There's a history of heart failure in my family for most people who didn't watch their waistline, but not for a single person who maintained a healthy weight.)
If my long-term partner were to begin gaining weight, well, first we'd have a talk about it if it got to be 10 pounds or something --- I'd have a lot of responsibility, too, since I'm generally the meal-preparer in any living situation I'm in. So hopefully we'd be able to work together to get the weight lost, by reducing calories and exercising together, and both stay at a healthy weight together.
So, short answer---no, I would not still get autonomously aroused after 30lb of weight gain. If it were to happen, I'd still keep having sex with my partner, but we would have to be working together toward weight loss or I would quickly begin to lose faith. (I do discuss this with long-term partners before settling into a relationship.)
If my long-term partner were to begin gaining weight, well, first we'd have a talk about it if it got to be 10 pounds or something --- I'd have a lot of responsibility, too, since I'm generally the meal-preparer in any living situation I'm in. So hopefully we'd be able to work together to get the weight lost, by reducing calories and exercising together, and both stay at a healthy weight together.
So, short answer---no, I would not still get autonomously aroused after 30lb of weight gain. If it were to happen, I'd still keep having sex with my partner, but we would have to be working together toward weight loss or I would quickly begin to lose faith. (I do discuss this with long-term partners before settling into a relationship.)
09/05/2011
As long as they're still happy and reasonably healthy, sure. Personality not physicality, in my opinion.
09/05/2011
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I could add---for my current partner, gaining 40 pounds would be 130% of his current weight... so like adding 1/3 extra boyfriend on the same bone structure. Maybe 40 pounds is a smaller percentage on other people, but it would definitely be taking my partner from the skinny-end-of-healthy BMI to just-a-few-tenths-away -from-obese BMI.
Originally posted by
Antipova
I feel a bit like a heel being the first to respond in the negative to this... but physique is something that's important to my arousal---both as a physical thing, and mentally because taking care of one's self is a trait I find to be
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I feel a bit like a heel being the first to respond in the negative to this... but physique is something that's important to my arousal---both as a physical thing, and mentally because taking care of one's self is a trait I find to be attractive. (There's a history of heart failure in my family for most people who didn't watch their waistline, but not for a single person who maintained a healthy weight.)
If my long-term partner were to begin gaining weight, well, first we'd have a talk about it if it got to be 10 pounds or something --- I'd have a lot of responsibility, too, since I'm generally the meal-preparer in any living situation I'm in. So hopefully we'd be able to work together to get the weight lost, by reducing calories and exercising together, and both stay at a healthy weight together.
So, short answer---no, I would not still get autonomously aroused after 30lb of weight gain. If it were to happen, I'd still keep having sex with my partner, but we would have to be working together toward weight loss or I would quickly begin to lose faith. (I do discuss this with long-term partners before settling into a relationship.) less
If my long-term partner were to begin gaining weight, well, first we'd have a talk about it if it got to be 10 pounds or something --- I'd have a lot of responsibility, too, since I'm generally the meal-preparer in any living situation I'm in. So hopefully we'd be able to work together to get the weight lost, by reducing calories and exercising together, and both stay at a healthy weight together.
So, short answer---no, I would not still get autonomously aroused after 30lb of weight gain. If it were to happen, I'd still keep having sex with my partner, but we would have to be working together toward weight loss or I would quickly begin to lose faith. (I do discuss this with long-term partners before settling into a relationship.) less
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Agreed. I feel the same way.
Originally posted by
That Man from Mars
I would still find them attractive, but I would worry for their health and try to support weight loss, as I would hope they would do for me if I were overweight.
09/05/2011
I would worry about health problems, but I would still be attracted to them. I have found in the past that when a partner gains weight I tend not to notice that much (however I don't think I have been with someone who gained a lot of weight in a short period of time).
09/05/2011
Yes!!! because I love him for who he is one the inside and how he makes me feel when Im with him, not just his looks (although my husband is drop-dead sexy) However, If it was like ALOT of weight overnight type thing, I'd probably be really worried about his health and probably encourage him to be careful about it. And I'd probably start being more careful myself with exercising and eating healthier, But I would still make love to him just as much.. cuz Like I said.. Its HIMSELF that Im inlove with, not just his looks.
09/06/2011
My boyfriend is slim, so if he gained 30 pounds he would just be barely overweight. I prefer guys who are a little bit bigger, so I would probably be more attracted to his body at that point.
He's actually trying to gain about 10 pounds of muscle right now. He was more muscular when we met, but he stopped working out for a few months and lost some weight.
Even if he gained a bunch of fat I would still be attracted to him. I'm not very big on appearances. My first partner wasn't very good looking in my eyes but I still got really aroused by him anyways because he was sexy in other ways.
He's actually trying to gain about 10 pounds of muscle right now. He was more muscular when we met, but he stopped working out for a few months and lost some weight.
Even if he gained a bunch of fat I would still be attracted to him. I'm not very big on appearances. My first partner wasn't very good looking in my eyes but I still got really aroused by him anyways because he was sexy in other ways.
09/06/2011
I love him no matter what
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I love him and that amount isn't enough to really show. He is very tall and muscular.
Originally posted by
ToyGurl
If your loved one gained 30 or 40 pounds, would you still get aroused over them?
09/06/2011
My girl's a little overweight in the first place, so I doubt I'd worry over a little more.
09/06/2011
Because bf and I have been together for so long we have seen each other literally through thick and thin (tho I have never been really thin in my life lol)but we have always had the same attraction to each other whether or not one of us has gained some weight or lost some
09/06/2011
Yes definitely. I prefer larger guys anyway.
09/06/2011
it doesn't make her sexy-er and she would feel less confident no matter what I said to praise her. So the answer is no, I would still find her sexy. The problem is that the sex life would still be impacted.
09/06/2011
Definitely but i don't foresee this happening. Work out freaks we are. I would still love him and be very attracted. He would be easier to cuddle with and there would be more of him to love anyway so it wouldn't be a big deal.
09/06/2011
I think over the time the hubby and I have been together, I've gained 20 lbs and he's lost 10. It's been years, so it only seems like a slight difference. I sometimes feel like I'm not sexy enough so I've been dieting and working out. I was curious to see how others felt. He still tells me I'm sexy and our sex is just as good as it's always been in spite of our daily stressors, so I guess I'm still sexy ;P
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