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I left for a babyshower at 9 am, after getting to where we were going I found out that I was helping set it up, and get everything ready for the guests. It actually started at 1 pm, but in the meantime we set it up and I got the grand tour of the
I left for a babyshower at 9 am, after getting to where we were going I found out that I was helping set it up, and get everything ready for the guests. It actually started at 1 pm, but in the meantime we set it up and I got the grand tour of the church and got ideas of photos (I'm the photographer for the wedding day also), so I was pretty busy all day. After the shower was over, we hauled everything into the truck and headed home. Keep in mind that I had no cell phone, I left it with him because he had the kids and I thought he needed it more, so I was relying on my friends cell phone, and out of respect for her I was assuming that if he needed to know anything he could get ahold of her phone and talk to me so I didn't have to keep using her phone.
Apparently sometime during the day he called and she didn't tell me, it was her shower and she was busier than me and it very well could have just slipped her mind. When I got home he threw a FIT. I got home at about 3:30 pm. I just got the kids and spent the rest of the day outside with another friend. I don't take kindly to being treated like I'm getting lectured or in trouble for acting like an adult. It just pissed me off more and honestly made me wonder why the hell we were even together. I have LOTS of doubts when it comes to us, but we have 2 kids and 10 years of time together.....I'd hate to waste it all now. Idk, I guess I have a lot of thinking to do.
I had a significant other that did this and it drove me up the wall. I would say that I'm going to spend some time with my father and he'd press me for details and constantly text, ask what we were doing, when I would be done and such. I couldn't spend time with my own father much less have any time to myself without his hassling. Eventually I just stopped caring. I got sick and fed up of his asking for updates every 5 seconds. I felt like he didn't trust me and it drove me away.
If you'd like to tell him what you're doing that second, go for it. It's nice to let you SO know what you are doing, I personally like to know what's up in my mans life. But you don't have to and I don't think it should be expected. I don't mean to plant doubt in your head but I think you're doing the right thing by refusing to check in all the time. I let my ex make me do it for sometime and soon enough he expected it and made a huge scene if I didn't. However you two have a lot more invested in it than we did (we only had 3 years, no kids.)
Luckily your SO doesn't sound as bad as mine was, I'm just warning you that it can quickly go from "When will you be home?" to "Where are you?","What are you doing?", "Who are you with?", "Why are you there?". Just be careful, I don't think it's break up worthy yet but you should really try talking to him and setting clear boundaries of what you are comfortable with. Good luck! I hope that was helpful and not too long..