Does anybody else still get pressured by their parents to attend church regularly?
Do you get pressured to attend church?
05/23/2012
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Not anymore. My mother made me go as a kid sometimes. She is still fairly religious but doesn't really go to church anymore.
05/23/2012
Not really anymore. I'm forced to go on Christmas but other than that I think I have won the battle.
05/23/2012
Not anymore. Sometimes on Easter, but I tend to get out of it.
05/23/2012
Not anymore. I told them if I had to go that I was gonna smoke some of the sweet leaf and bring some snacks.
They haven't bothered me since.
They haven't bothered me since.
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Not at all. My parents never pressured us, but we did go from the time I was a baby until around middle school age. I never had a problem with going, but if I didn't want to they never would've made me. Easy going parents. I wasn't pressured in the slightest about religion. My parents simply taught us about God, let us ask questions and seeing them pray and read the bible I guess made me curious too. I remember my dad coming in from work at 3AM my entire life until high school. Every single night, he'd come in and kneel down and pray for me and my twin. Sometimes we'd wake up and hear him. The fact that he done that, never missing a night still means everything to me. They weren't ever hardcore about Christianity because we don't believe it should be so "hardcore" ya know? We still discuss things, the bible and all. My dad and my partner and I have stayed up many nights on the porch discussing things. I think he has a really special way with God. Strange, but I really do. I mean, most people pray for things their entire lives and I've seen him pray and bam! Lol. He actually has saved my life once or twice with his persistant praying over me--no joke. Mostly it's just discussed. No pressure at all, but I can always go to my dad and mom and ask questions (happens often) about the bible/God and get answers. They don't go to church now and I haven't attended since our old pastor retired, but we're believers and we each continue to have a relationship with God.
Originally posted by
31 Flavors
Does anybody else still get pressured by their parents to attend church regularly?
I think since they didn't pressure or force God on us, that's why we're Christians today rather than rebelling just because our parents wanted us to be. However, my best girlfriend growing up was MADE to go to church by her grandparents and she never rebelled against Christianity. However, the first few times her granparents forced me to go to their church was enough for me to NEVER stay there on Sundays again. I guess you can't force something on someone and expect them to end up loving it. I don't think that's right.
05/23/2012
My mom used to pressure me when I was younger, but she got to the point where she realized I didn't want to go, and forcing me would be a huge embarrassment. I would've caused a scene to get out of going. I believe in God, just not going to church.
05/23/2012
My parents stopped going to church when I was around seven years old, so luckily they don't care.
05/23/2012
Yes, it's complicated.
05/23/2012
My mother used to give me a hard time about not going to church. She tried sending me when I was a kid, even when she and my dad weren't going. After a couple of weeks of this, I was like, "WTF? If you aren't going, why do I have to?"
Then she tried other means, telling me "the Church has changed." I let her know they still don't allow birth control, and that My Man and I would have over a dozen children and I would probably be dead from complications if we had never used it. She's just saying, "The individual priests don't care." Really? The Pope does. (As if it's his business.) I just feel I don't want to "belong" to a religion if I'm going to cheat. I can't accept the Church's ideas about homosexuality, sex in general (I mean, enjoying it) and things like that. Also, the whole giving them money or being given a hard time thing. I can't accept that.
My Man and I got married (not in the Catholic Church, because I refused to go to PreCana and LIE about using birth control, much to the chagrin of my mother and my Father in Law) and a few months later, my mother started asking if we were going to "get remarried in The Church, so it will count." What the FUCK? Our marriage does "count."
Then, when my best friend's husband showed up at Church one day, she called me with "Isn't it wonderful that J. is back at Church?" What could I say? I couldn't have cared less.
I considered going to a Unitarian Church and my mother blew a gasket. "It isn't religion if you can believe whatever you want." I asked her if wasn't that exactly what she was doing, by being a Cafeteria Catholic? Just picking and choosing what rules she wanted to follow, and only when it was convenient.
I know her Faith gives her comfort, but I can't get into it. I put Catholic on my health records, as if anything happens, at least the rituals will calm HER and there won't be problems with her arguing with my husband. But, I made it clear, NO PEG lines if anything horrible happens.
I could go on and on. But, I'm tired. This is giving me a headache.
Then she tried other means, telling me "the Church has changed." I let her know they still don't allow birth control, and that My Man and I would have over a dozen children and I would probably be dead from complications if we had never used it. She's just saying, "The individual priests don't care." Really? The Pope does. (As if it's his business.) I just feel I don't want to "belong" to a religion if I'm going to cheat. I can't accept the Church's ideas about homosexuality, sex in general (I mean, enjoying it) and things like that. Also, the whole giving them money or being given a hard time thing. I can't accept that.
My Man and I got married (not in the Catholic Church, because I refused to go to PreCana and LIE about using birth control, much to the chagrin of my mother and my Father in Law) and a few months later, my mother started asking if we were going to "get remarried in The Church, so it will count." What the FUCK? Our marriage does "count."
Then, when my best friend's husband showed up at Church one day, she called me with "Isn't it wonderful that J. is back at Church?" What could I say? I couldn't have cared less.
I considered going to a Unitarian Church and my mother blew a gasket. "It isn't religion if you can believe whatever you want." I asked her if wasn't that exactly what she was doing, by being a Cafeteria Catholic? Just picking and choosing what rules she wanted to follow, and only when it was convenient.
I know her Faith gives her comfort, but I can't get into it. I put Catholic on my health records, as if anything happens, at least the rituals will calm HER and there won't be problems with her arguing with my husband. But, I made it clear, NO PEG lines if anything horrible happens.
I could go on and on. But, I'm tired. This is giving me a headache.
05/23/2012
Not by our parents, at all. However, we do here comments regularly from society about baptizing our children, going to church, how all you need is Jesus, and so on.
When we tell people that we don't believe, we are told..."Well, you shouldn't raise your children like that." Or things like..."But you HAVE to have Faith!" And even more. It's really annoying to us. I don't understand what gives religious people the right to try to tell me what is right? I know what is right for me and MY children. Don't try to tell me.
When we tell people that we don't believe, we are told..."Well, you shouldn't raise your children like that." Or things like..."But you HAVE to have Faith!" And even more. It's really annoying to us. I don't understand what gives religious people the right to try to tell me what is right? I know what is right for me and MY children. Don't try to tell me.
05/23/2012
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Originally posted by
TheSinDoll
Not anymore. I told them if I had to go that I was gonna smoke some of the sweet leaf and bring some snacks.
They haven't bothered me since.
They haven't bothered me since.
05/23/2012
Nope, my mother doesn't attend and neither do I. Neither of us are particularly social creatures so we tend to prefer small groups.
I will say one thing though, if I still lived back down in Vernon, CT I would probably be attending the Church of the Living God over in Tolland still.
I loved that church...the priest stood up and gave a ten minute intro speech (more like twenty minutes if a holiday was coming up or a fellow church member had passed on) then he'd put song lyrics up on a projector and we'd all sort of hold hands and sing. I think they call that a 'gospel' church or something but it was the best one I ever attended.
I never could follow the sort of church where you're supposed to recite bible passages from the little books they put in the pews, we went to those when I was little and it frustrated me that I couldn't figure out what I was supposed to be saying or doing.
I will say one thing though, if I still lived back down in Vernon, CT I would probably be attending the Church of the Living God over in Tolland still.
I loved that church...the priest stood up and gave a ten minute intro speech (more like twenty minutes if a holiday was coming up or a fellow church member had passed on) then he'd put song lyrics up on a projector and we'd all sort of hold hands and sing. I think they call that a 'gospel' church or something but it was the best one I ever attended.
I never could follow the sort of church where you're supposed to recite bible passages from the little books they put in the pews, we went to those when I was little and it frustrated me that I couldn't figure out what I was supposed to be saying or doing.
05/23/2012
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"Cafeteria Catholic" — ooooo, I'm going to steal that. I have more than a few finger wagging Catholics in my life who take that approach, picking and choosing what they'll follow, but then acting like attending anything other than a Catholic church is the equivalent of worshipping Satan.
Originally posted by
P'Gell
My mother used to give me a hard time about not going to church. She tried sending me when I was a kid, even when she and my dad weren't going. After a couple of weeks of this, I was like, "WTF? If you aren't going, why do I have
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My mother used to give me a hard time about not going to church. She tried sending me when I was a kid, even when she and my dad weren't going. After a couple of weeks of this, I was like, "WTF? If you aren't going, why do I have to?"
Then she tried other means, telling me "the Church has changed." I let her know they still don't allow birth control, and that My Man and I would have over a dozen children and I would probably be dead from complications if we had never used it. She's just saying, "The individual priests don't care." Really? The Pope does. (As if it's his business.) I just feel I don't want to "belong" to a religion if I'm going to cheat. I can't accept the Church's ideas about homosexuality, sex in general (I mean, enjoying it) and things like that. Also, the whole giving them money or being given a hard time thing. I can't accept that.
My Man and I got married (not in the Catholic Church, because I refused to go to PreCana and LIE about using birth control, much to the chagrin of my mother and my Father in Law) and a few months later, my mother started asking if we were going to "get remarried in The Church, so it will count." What the FUCK? Our marriage does "count."
Then, when my best friend's husband showed up at Church one day, she called me with "Isn't it wonderful that J. is back at Church?" What could I say? I couldn't have cared less.
I considered going to a Unitarian Church and my mother blew a gasket. "It isn't religion if you can believe whatever you want." I asked her if wasn't that exactly what she was doing, by being a Cafeteria Catholic? Just picking and choosing what rules she wanted to follow, and only when it was convenient.
I know her Faith gives her comfort, but I can't get into it. I put Catholic on my health records, as if anything happens, at least the rituals will calm HER and there won't be problems with her arguing with my husband. But, I made it clear, NO PEG lines if anything horrible happens.
I could go on and on. But, I'm tired. This is giving me a headache. less
Then she tried other means, telling me "the Church has changed." I let her know they still don't allow birth control, and that My Man and I would have over a dozen children and I would probably be dead from complications if we had never used it. She's just saying, "The individual priests don't care." Really? The Pope does. (As if it's his business.) I just feel I don't want to "belong" to a religion if I'm going to cheat. I can't accept the Church's ideas about homosexuality, sex in general (I mean, enjoying it) and things like that. Also, the whole giving them money or being given a hard time thing. I can't accept that.
My Man and I got married (not in the Catholic Church, because I refused to go to PreCana and LIE about using birth control, much to the chagrin of my mother and my Father in Law) and a few months later, my mother started asking if we were going to "get remarried in The Church, so it will count." What the FUCK? Our marriage does "count."
Then, when my best friend's husband showed up at Church one day, she called me with "Isn't it wonderful that J. is back at Church?" What could I say? I couldn't have cared less.
I considered going to a Unitarian Church and my mother blew a gasket. "It isn't religion if you can believe whatever you want." I asked her if wasn't that exactly what she was doing, by being a Cafeteria Catholic? Just picking and choosing what rules she wanted to follow, and only when it was convenient.
I know her Faith gives her comfort, but I can't get into it. I put Catholic on my health records, as if anything happens, at least the rituals will calm HER and there won't be problems with her arguing with my husband. But, I made it clear, NO PEG lines if anything horrible happens.
I could go on and on. But, I'm tired. This is giving me a headache. less
05/23/2012
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Yeah. I'm glad you liked it.
Originally posted by
Petite Valentine
"Cafeteria Catholic" — ooooo, I'm going to steal that. I have more than a few finger wagging Catholics in my life who take that approach, picking and choosing what they'll follow, but then acting like attending anything other than a
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"Cafeteria Catholic" — ooooo, I'm going to steal that. I have more than a few finger wagging Catholics in my life who take that approach, picking and choosing what they'll follow, but then acting like attending anything other than a Catholic church is the equivalent of worshipping Satan.
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My mother goes on and on about how you can "do what you like in the Catholic Church, now." And I keep asking her, "Then why bother with an Organized Religion? I can "do what I like" now?"
05/23/2012
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Dad mentions it once in awhile but does not push it. Mom on the other hand still pushes every chance she gets, sad part is that she does not go. Drives me crazy when people do not practice what the preach.
Originally posted by
31 Flavors
Does anybody else still get pressured by their parents to attend church regularly?
05/23/2012
No. My parents aren't religious at all, so it's never been an issue.
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no. and even if i did i wouldn't go.
Originally posted by
31 Flavors
Does anybody else still get pressured by their parents to attend church regularly?
05/23/2012
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