My father was a University professor, so it was always assumed I would go to college. My parents got divorced right
before I started college and pleaded poverty (both of them, despite the fact my father was driving a very expensive sports car and had two houses) and as financial aid used to take both parents' income into account, I got ABSOLUTELY NO financial aid. They paid an absolute minimum and I had to borrow and absolute maximum. I was in debt for many years, but it was certainly better than not having a college education. (Despite when I was in college, a college education was a great deal less expensive than it is now.) My dad did make up for it for starting small college Trusts for our kids, though.
Our children are encouraged to go to college. One is finished with college, one is in Grad School and one is still a child. We did what we could for them, financially and our parents did help (my husband's parents never though college was important (despite paying for my husband's entire education. I suspect they thing college isn't necessary for girls
.) My husband's mother helped out the kids, once her husband was dead. He thought college was "a waste and made people book smart and every day dumb." (And he frequently aimed this barb at me, as he resented the fact that I had at least 7 or 8 more years of schooling than he did. Asshole.) But, as my parents were both helping, she kind of felt like she had to.
Our kids have still had to borrow some money. Again, they got absolutely not a PENNY of financial aid from anywhere, I honestly don't know how freakin' broke really you have to be to get Pell Grants or other financial aid! Neither my children nor myself nor my husband ever got a penny, and we certainly weren't rich. Although, I do suspect both my parents and my husbands parents HID a lot of money (from their own children) and pleaded poverty, but the government knew they had money they simply didn't want to spend, and thus denied either of us Aid. Even with two kids in college at one time, and virtually NO savings, (as I spent a lot of time at home with small children and had more kids than both our families together) though, with the Bush Era anti-funding-for-middl e-class families bullshit, my kids got no financial aid. ("Kids should just borrow money for school from their parents." said Romney. It never occurred to this man that MOST parents don't have
$50,000 to $300,000 just lying around
to lend to their kids. Again... Asshole. Shows you how out of touch people like him are.)
Our daughter who is now in Grad School is going to be in a lot of debt. My hope is she can get a good job as soon as she gets her MS. She did get a small scholarship last year and this year, but it's a drop in the bucket, as only two schools in our state offer her degree (Library Science) and both are expensive. But, seeing as an Master's Degree is the equivalent of a Bachelor's Degree 20 years ago, she really needed to get the degree. I would like if my oldest dd would go back to Grad School, but she never really liked school after 6th grade or so, and seems content with what she is doing.