Disciplining Children

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Disciplining Children

Ash1141 Ash1141
How do you discipline your child and at what age do you enforce said discipline?
I will spank if necessary but only after my child is 4 years of age. I also use time-outs and taking away favorite items.
For children under 4, I just do time-outs.
09/21/2011
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Ace <3 Ace <3
Spanking really is not an effective means of discipline. If the child hit something or threw something, and you tell him that his action is wrong by hitting him in return, it is a confusing message.

Reward good behavior with a cereal (a few pieces of Trix and Froot Loops Cereal are good options)from the time he/she can eat whole foods. For bad behavior tell the child "no, we don't do that," have them apologize, and have them sit in a time out or isolated from a group for a period of time. If the same behavior persists then begin to take away things that have importance to the child until they behave appropriately. It's important to reward good behavior during this time as well so they can distinguish good from bad.

One of the most important lessons is public tantrums, like in a grocery store. Give the child 1 (and I mean ONE) warning that they need to act proper or you will leave immediately. If the behavior persists, drop whatever you are doing and go home IMMEDIATELY(or to the car, or a room. Somewhere away from the bad behavior display). After two episodes like this a child will take the warning seriously and do as you say.

It's extremely important to stay consistent with discipline and not make exceptions. And as a parent that's the hardest thing to do (oh, he hasn't had his nap today, he's just tired and crabby...etc) because even during that time you still need to be firm with your teaching. But always remember, kids are kids and they will always do their best to push the line. You just have to be the better defensive player.
09/21/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
Depends on what age you are discussing. My methods for discipling my toddler is was different now that they are almost teenagers. I've never been a fan of spanking, we do restriction. Around here from everything from bad grades to bad behavior. Punishment is based on the offense. Video games are always the first to go!
09/22/2011
Ryuson Ryuson
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Originally posted by Ace <3
Spanking really is not an effective means of discipline. If the child hit something or threw something, and you tell him that his action is wrong by hitting him in return, it is a confusing message.

Reward good behavior with a cereal (a few ...
I completely agree. Humans are social animals, and no one wants to be ostracized even at a young age! Great comment!
09/22/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
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Originally posted by AngelvMaynard
Depends on what age you are discussing. My methods for discipling my toddler is was different now that they are almost teenagers. I've never been a fan of spanking, we do restriction. Around here from everything from bad grades to bad behavior. ...
This, except instead of video games, we take away the cellphone, band practice, drums; I have threatened to take every single item out of his room, including the door , bed, pillows, clothing, everything. He knows I am, just a tad, on that side of crazy and that I will do it. We rarely have to take anything away anymore. His social life is too important to him.

We started taking things away as a form of punishment for unacceptable behavior at a very early age.
09/22/2011
Rossie Rossie
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
This, except instead of video games, we take away the cellphone, band practice, drums; I have threatened to take every single item out of his room, including the door , bed, pillows, clothing, everything. He knows I am, just a tad, on that side of ...
Oh yeah, we've done some of that when my son was younger! Thank goodness we don't have to deal with behavioral problems anymore, he's much more mature now.

We've never spank our son as a form of discipline. It really gets on my nerve seeing people spank their kids in the public.
09/22/2011
AngelvMaynard AngelvMaynard
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Originally posted by Redboxbaby
This, except instead of video games, we take away the cellphone, band practice, drums; I have threatened to take every single item out of his room, including the door , bed, pillows, clothing, everything. He knows I am, just a tad, on that side of ...
@Redboxbaby @Rossie We just got our two boys their first cell phones, after much resistance, I find it necessary now to keep up with them both. But that will also be taken away with the video games!
I love the door idea! That's fantastic. I too am the "crazy" parent in our house!
09/22/2011
Melissa Smith Melissa Smith
Discipline is something that is always changing in our house. One day something will work and the next day it has no effect on them.
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