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A month or so ago I had a woman come around a corner bitching on the phone about skinny people. I'm fairly small and when she saw me she gave me this look that made me feel terrible for being small. The day before that I had a woman give me a
A month or so ago I had a woman come around a corner bitching on the phone about skinny people. I'm fairly small and when she saw me she gave me this look that made me feel terrible for being small. The day before that I had a woman give me a strange look like I was nasty or something. I know it's not because of the way I looked or anything, I know I looked decent (I'm one of those people who have to match and look semi-good before going out). I try not to over think funny looks, I'm very sensitive.
I have felt this way before. I have been on both sides of the fence--both skinny and somewhat chubby. I cannot say I know how an overweight or obese person feels, but I don't believe in making fun of anybody's weight. It's something my mom was serious about teaching me as a kid and I still don't do it. However, why do people want to argue about which is worse--skinny or large? It really bugs me. I'm small now--93 pounds and for my size, it's pretty normal, especially since the females in my family are so tiny. Still, I have had people who don't just say "Goodness you're skinny!" But will go to great lengths to try and put me down over it and in public too. That's not neccessary at all. I always laugh it off, but it kind of hurts my feelings. I hate most when people say "you MUST be anorexic." No, actually I'm not. I've just worked my ass off just to have a bit of strength and I'm NORMAL! I still have to say, when I was larger and people made fun of me for it, it hurt a lot worse.
I try to understand both sides, but in reality, we are women, we are supposed to stick together not war against each other! When my friends complain about being "too big" I try and be sympathetic because I totally know how it feels to be unhapppy with your size.
For some reason society seems to think that super skinny isn't unhealthy, but super large is. UNTRUE. I'm 93 lbs--healthy for me and has been confirmed by my dr. However, a few years ago, due to being extremely ill, I lived NO life because I was sick for so long and weighed 70 pounds. That IS unhealthy. I thought I was dying and had some very serious medical problems from it. I didn't choose to be that weight just like some larger women do not choose to be unhealthily so.
I try to let things not bother me, but I have to admit, a few times I've seen other women here say "this lingerie would not fit a 'real woman.' WTH?! A size small won't fit a "real woman?" That is not nice because small or big is NOT what determines if youre a REAL woman.
I don't want anyone to feel bad about themselves. We do sometimes though and we should have each other's back, not belittle others when we're feeling low about ourselves. We all have struggles. Mine happens to be my love handles. Other people have their own, but raging against each other is not the fix. Sorry, I totally got carried away!