Do you always send a gift for a wedding invitation?

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Do you always send a gift for a wedding invitation?

Bignuf Bignuf
If you get a wedding invitation from the child of a good friend from way back (but now moved away...we see them very seldom), but you don't even really know the couple getting married and the family knows good and well, you are NOT traveling 8 hours away to this wedding, is the invitation a courtesy or really just a "gift hunt", and is it rude to just send a card, or are we obliged to give a gift? We are trying to do the right thing, socially, but still torn on this one...

Anyone venture an opinion..and advice? Thanks
08/14/2011
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Ryuson Ryuson
Quote:
Originally posted by Bignuf
If you get a wedding invitation from the child of a good friend from way back (but now moved away...we see them very seldom), but you don't even really know the couple getting married and the family knows good and well, you are NOT traveling 8 ...
Personally, I'd just send a card!
08/14/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
the way i see it, if you don't go, you don't have to send a gift.
08/15/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
If they're close friends or family of yours and you can't attend, you should send a gift. But if you're not really close with them, then just a card should do it. If you still want to send a gift, send a small gift card or a small amount of cash or a small thing off their registry.
08/15/2011
SexyStuff SexyStuff
I wouldn't assume they are fishing for a gift, and you aren't obligated to send one.

With stuff like that, I usually do something small if I feel inclined- like a magazine subscription or $10 gift card.
02/29/2012
Chilipepper Chilipepper
It depends on the family. In my family, they either get ignored or a card is sent if they don't attend. My best friend didn't extend an invite to me to her son's wedding (even though I call him 'little brother') because she knew I couldn't afford a visit and/or anything on their registry, so her family (and the bride's family) expect gifts for invites. (Not that they were hurting for money [like my first marriage], mind you - they still got a $50K wedding and a downpour of cash during the Money Dance from the Bride's family.)

I send cards no matter what - I'm happy they're getting married and congratulating them on their big life decision. I consider ignoring to be rude. *glares at extended family*
02/29/2012
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