Do you need alone time that your partner doesn't understand?

misterazor misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time?

this time can be nothing more than a half an hour of watching tv...but the other person cannot be in the room. i'm not suggesting that you need to be out of the house without the person, just perhaps in a different room.

any thoughts?
01/25/2013
  • Save 40% on Vibrators
  • Get 3 amazing toys for $60 only
  • Eye of Love Pheromone Kit - Save 25%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 60%
  • Better Price Sale - Save 70%
  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
All promotions
HarlequinBunnie HarlequinBunnie
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time? ... More
Sometimes but not often. We get along so well that we can spend 24/7 with each other without a problem which we do. When we need down time it's because of other issues we need to regroup over.
01/25/2013
Chelynn67 Chelynn67
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time? ... More
I can't get it from anywhere, working on getting me some time though
01/25/2013
kendra30752 kendra30752
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time? ... More
I'm pretty independant, but do cherish the time we spend together. We have a pretty close, fun bond so we spend quite a good deal of time together, but of course we need our alone time for focusing on a hobby or something just for us. For instance, he loves playing the X-box and cannot understand that it does not bother me. He's always like "sorry I play the X-box for so long" and I'm trying to tell him I really do not mind! But when we get home from work (usually I'm already home when he gets here) we stop whatever we needed to do or was already doing (I was in the middle of vaccuuming today) and spend some time together right off. Sometimes it's 45 minutes, sometimes an hour or two. Usually we spend that time talking about what's gone on that day & then he hauls off for the X-box and I use my little bit of time to catch up on work (usually my writing). If I have extra time and am not working, I'll work on my book I'm writing or even come here. Okay, usually I always pull up EF first! Lol. And then I'll finish my real work and then work on a hobby, which is usually crafting something.

But yes, alone time for your very own hobbies, likes & whatever is pretty necessary and I think most people need their little bit of alone time. I juggle quite a few different things like EF, students, my own reviews, my blog, my writing & real work, and my YouTube channel as well as another part-time job, and those are all pretty tough to do with someone in the same room being noisy or something, so we have a nice routine worked out. And after we've finished whatever we're doing (him & the Xbox or him playing football with the 13 yr old & me doing some kind of work) we'll spend the rest of the night together.

And also usually we reserve one random day for getting home early and taking off on a mini road trip. We had our first mini road trip in almost 3 weeks yesterday! We usually do it once a week though, to get away from everything and spend some fun alone time, so it works out.
01/25/2013
Chilipepper Chilipepper
Despite being an extrovert, he completely understands (he knows it's part of me being an introvert), and never has an issue. Besides, we leave the weekdays free from each other so we can work and do our home things and have our evenings for our own hobbies. We spend the weekends together, and it's worked out pretty well. Recently we've begun seeing each other mid-week for yoga, and we both enjoy having the mid-week connection.
01/25/2013
js250 js250
I did need that alone time and rarely got it. Even for an hour at home alone....
01/25/2013
Rossie Rossie
We give each other plenty of alone time.
01/25/2013
Ashleyxx Ashleyxx
Quote:
Originally posted by misterazor
do you get antsy if you don't get some time to decompress without your significant other around? does he/she not understand this need and take issue with it? do you understand this behavior yourself? can you explain why you need this time? ... More
I certainly need my alone time to de-stress. My partner rarely asks for it but on occasion we both do.
01/25/2013
XYCopperheadSly XYCopperheadSly
He may not "understand" all the free time that I need, but he gives me the time I need to myself.
01/25/2013
solitudinarian solitudinarian
I need alone time, but my boyfriend needs even more than me. He understands perfectly. He leaves it to me to decide when we should catch up next (we don't live together), because he can go about two weeks before he really starts to miss me. For me it's around 4-7 days. It's annoying sometimes, but I know he does love me. It's just that he feels that he doesn't absolutely HAVE to see me at any given time. That and he sucks at organizing things... heh.

I'm an introvert. Just because I'm in a relationship with someone, does not mean that I want to be around them ALL the time.
01/25/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
Yep, fortunately my girlfriend's starting to realize that it really just means I like having some time to myself.
01/28/2013
Girly Juice Girly Juice
I'm a big introvert, so I need ample time on my own or I start to feel a bit crazy. My partner frequently tells me he misses me and I feel bad that I don't really seem to miss him in the same way... but it doesn't mean I love him any less, it's just the way I am.
01/29/2013
Total posts: 12
Unique posters: 12