Originally posted by
have you ever been with a woman whose trash-talking or combative behavior got you into a fight with the person she was talking trash to? are you a woman who has been the cause of men getting into a fight...not by two-timing, but by talking trash?
Umm... What? No. But I am a female & I don't really know other women who do this. I mean, besides back in high school, I don't remember seeing this happen often. I'm very, very, very against fighting. Strictly. I've been in fights myself when necessary, but I almost always think there's another solution & cannot stand to see two grown men fight.
Do you mean a female talking trash to another male & "causing" her partner to get into a fight? Well, if so, my response to that would be "I'm going to stand up for myself if need be, even if it is a male & that doesn't give my partner the right to think he has to 'take care of my business." I mean, if I'm being totally put down by a male what should I DO? Shut up, and be quiet so not to cause a big ol' manly fight? Oh hell no. Not me. And there's a big difference in trash talking and a woman simply standing up for herself. If I trash talked every guy that disrespected me, there'd be a lot of fights.
Anyways, I wouldn't just go out and trash talk anybody male or female for no reason, but if I'm being treated like shit, I'm the first to say something & I like to be able to stand up for myself without it having to be some situation where my partner has to jump in and fight for me. That is ridiculous. I'm not saying he's never fought for me, but never OVER me. He has fought FOR me, but not because I'd trash talked a guy, but because a guy, ahem excuse me, a fucking grown man, raped me. And at the time I was 15, so that is one fight I did not have a huge problem with, just a minor one. He's also stood up for me when I was not there to defend myself and some drunk idiot thought it'd be cute to say he'd had a threesome with me & my twin sister (yuck!) and well, I think you can see where that would go. I do not like fighting, but those are two instances when I feel it was slightly necessary.
I don't understand women who "trash talk" just for guys to fight. I could see this happening in a bar or where there are a lot of drunk people, but normal adults don't just go around doing that. Okay, they do. LOL. One just came to mind. I know one who does this often actually, but NORMAL adults do not. I don't understand the purpose of getting two men into a fight. It's SCARY, not good. I don't think I'll ever understand why a girl would want that to happen.
But no, my partner has not ever gotten into a fight because of me trash talking someone.