Ever had a stalker?

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Ever had a stalker?

Cherrylane Cherrylane
I'm dealing with a bit of a situation myself... Finally called the police for the first time tonight.

What about you?

What kind of stalking was going on?

Stalking is usually defined as repeatedly following, watching or harassing of another person.
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes I have had a stalker before
42  (51%)
No I've never had a stalker
29  (35%)
Unsure/Other
11  (13%)
Total votes: 82
Poll is closed
12/17/2011
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CoffeeCup CoffeeCup
an ex-boyfriend. I don't like talking about it.
12/17/2011
jedent jedent
unsure. because maybe they were just that good.
12/17/2011
AndroAngel AndroAngel
Yes, more than once. Because I apparently have a sign on my back that says "stalk me". The most memorable had a bad habit of tracking me down to tell me in unnerving detail how they masturbated to the thought of me/wanted to have sex with me, usually in written form, occasionally in poetry format. Never mind that I told them I wasn't interested. And referred to me as "My woman" to his friends.

He was once a friend... then he decided to be a creeper.
12/17/2011
voenne voenne
I had a stalker at the library before. Was waiting with a bunch of people before its opening time, and I knew he was watching me, but I tried to brush it off. When I came in, I went to the restroom first, and all of a sudden I realize he's following me. Followed me up the stairs, was in the same row as me for a while but then would go over to opposite side across from me. I noticed him following several times before I finally looked up to see him staring at me from through the shelving, so I got the heck out of there. I had anxiety the entire time he was following me.

I accept that maybe it's because he thought I was attractive, but this guy was completely creepy.
12/18/2011
Pink Jewel Pink Jewel
Never
12/18/2011
poetprincess poetprincess
Quote:
Originally posted by Cherrylane
I'm dealing with a bit of a situation myself... Finally called the police for the first time tonight.

What about you?

What kind of stalking was going on?

Stalking is usually defined as repeatedly following, watching or ...
I have had and still have a guy who has been with me for a while. he is kinda a stalked but more a friend . I just call him a stalker cause he seems to pop up wherever I am..
12/18/2011
Willow Wand Willow Wand
Yes. I'm creeped out just thinking about it. *shudders*
12/18/2011
K101 K101
Uh-oh! Be careful and I wish you the best! Do you have pepper spray, a gun, taser (tazer?) Anything? I had a stalker a couple of years ago. I know how crazy and scary it is. I did have to take it to the police because it went on for nearly a year! I didn't know him. I'd met him with a friend one time and suddenly... he knew my number, my sister, etc. He once showed up at the hopsital while my sister was there for some health problems. He had never met her before and she was in the ER. He came and told her he was sent by our parents to pick her up!? Then he started leaving creepy things like ice cream, brownies, gummy bears, etc. All kinds of candy outside. He would walk around outside. We saw him many, many times. Had to go through a lot of recording phone calls, text messages, threats, etc. and FINALLY a police officer friend of ours was willing to help. Sadly, most of the officers around here could not care less about stalking, rape, etc. The stalker happened to be EVERYWHERE my partner, family and I would be on the weekends. It was the creepiest thing! And we would see him and he'd walk off and soon be right next to us again. When the police weren't doing anything at first, I decided to confront him. I told him I felt like he was stalking me because he was everywhere I was and at my house, etc. He said "why do all girls say that?" Apparently there were 2 other girls who had police reports and TPOs against him!

Finally we were leaving a restaraunt one day and was walking to the car with our officer friend and guess who's sitting outside the restaraunt window? The stalker! I freaked and told him that's the guy who stalks me and him and my partner went to talk to him and I haven't ever seen or heard from him again!

Then last summer I had a female stalker. It was pretty bad, but I wasn't extremely terrified. She finally quit... I think! Lol. She'd even said she sent EF a message asking to "Get stuff for free because Kendra recommended me." She almost got in trouble for plagiarism as well. Some people are too obsessed.

My advice is go to the police, make sure you are able to defend yourself someway and don't let up until something is done about it. Don't give up if the police don't take you seriously. Start recording calls, you can even get a cheap surveillance camera (we almost did!). Do whatever you need for proof. Take pics of the car if it's following you or near your house, get the license number. Those are some things that you may need to get something done and stop the person for good.
12/18/2011
Shellz31 Shellz31
Not in person - I'm not worth stalking...lol.
But have had a couple online.
12/18/2011
Dirminxia Dirminxia
I had a stalker in high school. Some middle aged old creep. It turns out he lived a couple blocks down the street, and the police caught him watching me change with a pair of binoculars. They had me file charges and I've never heard of him since.
12/18/2011
Envy Envy
Yep, but it's mostly been online and such.
12/18/2011
Silverdrop Silverdrop
An ex-boyfriend who never stopped calling, often at wild hours. He was addicted to cocaine and trying to get clean, and he had it in his head that if we just got back together, everything would work out for him. It was never at the criminal level though, and eventually, I moved and he couldn't find me again. He still called my parents for a while after that, trying to get my new number (dumbass- I had a listed number then!), and my dad finally told him I'd gotten married.
12/18/2011
jaybaybay79 jaybaybay79
I guess we can safely say that there are a lot of weirdos out there. Or we're just that hot.
12/18/2011
CAKES CAKES
I broke up with my fiance, and he followed me for several months. I didn't know about it until much later. It still creeps me out to think about it.
12/18/2011
Squeaky Squeaky
I've never had a stalker but a few of my friends have. They were mainly ex-girlfriends. She would call at weird times. One time she showed up outside a window where my buddy worked! He wasn't afraid of her, mainly annoyed. Eventually it stopped and never heard from again. Spooky.
12/18/2011
Eucaly Eucaly
Good for you, for calling the police!
12/18/2011
Airen Wolf Airen Wolf
Quote:
Originally posted by Cherrylane
I'm dealing with a bit of a situation myself... Finally called the police for the first time tonight.

What about you?

What kind of stalking was going on?

Stalking is usually defined as repeatedly following, watching or ...
My Aunt stalked me for a few years until I finally made it clear to her that I would invoke the stalking law in our state. She would call upwards of 150 times a day filling my answering machine with horrible insults and threats all in an attempt to get me to answer the phone so she could ask me things like "Why did I always need to wash my dog when she wanted to go somewhere?" Crazy crap like that. I was always "offending her" or hurting her feelings and then she would come over and pound on my door and windows until my neighbors threatened to call the police. It escalated beyond into actual police involvement because she was following me and waiting around at my job to corner me. Finally my boss saw her and filed a police report but it didn't stop she just got better at it.
It ended because I threatened to tell my Mother (her sister) that she had asked me to go to bed with her and told me she believed we could have a sexual relationship. She has always mixed up love and sex...and she's a frustrated lesbian (not meaning to offend anyone but it's the truth, in my family she would have been disowned for admitting her attraction to women) so I didn't take it personally BUT she scared me. She was not beyond grabbing me and showing me that she could hold me so that I couldn't move. She wasn't at all afraid of my husband and I admit it was a terrifying handful of years. She threatened to kill me while driving me back to my home and then threatened that I could "get hurt" crossing the road if I didn't stop telling her no about getting into the car with her.
FINALLY my Mom stepped in and got her parents involved and it stopped....well it went to a dull roar because her retaliation was to accuse my husband of rape. SO ya not a real big question of why I don't have anything to do with my Mom's family, they all know she's clinically insane but my husband is a rapist in their minds.
Took me years afterward to be able to sleep at night fully and more years than that to be alone without hiding in a room and drawing all the curtains.
12/18/2011
js250 js250
About 23 years ago. I was a bartender and a particular customer that I was polite to (DUH!) decided he was totally in love with me. Followed me everywhere, etc. I moved to a friend's house and about three months later, he had killed another girl he was obsessed with. He is in prison for life now.
12/18/2011
Siekarr Siekarr
Quote:
Originally posted by Cherrylane
I'm dealing with a bit of a situation myself... Finally called the police for the first time tonight.

What about you?

What kind of stalking was going on?

Stalking is usually defined as repeatedly following, watching or ...
My wife....before we actually started dating, she came to me with a piece of paper with my name, phone number and address on it and asked if it was me. I was creeped out, but intrigued at the same time.
12/18/2011
Love Perpetua Love Perpetua
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
About 23 years ago. I was a bartender and a particular customer that I was polite to (DUH!) decided he was totally in love with me. Followed me everywhere, etc. I moved to a friend's house and about three months later, he had killed another girl ...
That is really scary! Glad you are okay.
12/18/2011
Inker Inker
Quote:
Originally posted by Cherrylane
I'm dealing with a bit of a situation myself... Finally called the police for the first time tonight.

What about you?

What kind of stalking was going on?

Stalking is usually defined as repeatedly following, watching or ...
nope, no stalkers for me!
12/18/2011
MrWishyWashy MrWishyWashy
No, thank God!
12/18/2011
Rod Martini Rod Martini
She wasn't a full blown "steal my hair" stalker, but she did follow me around, and just happen to be a lot of the same places I was, like way too often. We got married in early November.
12/18/2011
(k)InkyIvy (k)InkyIvy
When I was in high school, I was hospitalized a couple times for my depression. One of the other patients in the ward was a guy in his mid-twenties who apparently took interest in me. I was released, and went back to school and work. I worked at the gas station directly across the road from the hospital.
A few weeks later, he was released as well, and happened to see me at work. He started coming in several times a day, asking my co-workers for my work schedule. When they refused to give it to him, he lied and said he was my fiance, hoping that would change their minds. He also went around to lots of other local businesses- where a few of my friends worked- and told them that we were engaged as well.
His father was a regular customer who often came in during my shifts. One day, he (the guy's father) called the store and asked to speak to me. During that conversation, he told me that the reason his son had been hospitalized was because he'd sexually assaulted 3 women. He then warned me to avoid his son, and call the police if he showed up again, and have someone walk me to my car after work each day.
Later that week, the son came back in. Luckily, I was in the back, so he didn't see me. My manager told him that I'd gone out to run some errands and would be gone for two hours, hoping he'd be discouraged and leave. Instead, he said he would wait. She then told him that he needed to leave or she would call the police.
I eventually quit that job and stopped going down to that part of the county because I felt so uncomfortable there, not sure if he was nearby. I haven't heard from him or his father since, but I hope he's in jail where he can't stalk/scare/hurt anyone else.
12/18/2011
Nazaress Nazaress
Sort of. There was a guy I knew on the Internet who was OBSESSED with me for a while. I finally stopped talking to him, though, so it was okay.
12/18/2011
GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
There was a friend of a friend that just got obsessed with me. It started out with little things: constant instant messages, talking to me when I'm with a mutual friend and not getting the constant hints that I didn't want to talk to him, and then it escalated to him being in my house.

My grandmother let him in,assuming it'd be okay and left the house. I came home to the guy sitting in the kitchen. He attempted to force himself on me but thankfully didn't try too much more than kissing and groping and that stopped in seconds as I screamed at him to get the fuck out or I'll call the cops while holding the old-fashioned knife sharpener in my hand.

He did leave right after that and I told my grandparents and friends never to let him near me again. I haven't had any issues yet and it's been over 3 years. I believe he's in a different city and/or state by now.
12/19/2011
WhoopieDoo WhoopieDoo
I don't THINK I've ever had a stalker, but I know someone who could potentially be one.
12/19/2011
Mike Honcho Mike Honcho
Back in high school. Shame as she was such a sweet girl too.
12/19/2011
Katelyn Katelyn
Good job calling the police! I had an ex stalk me for a long time and it was extremely frightening. Don't wait till it's to late, get a restraining order and then you can feel a little bit more validated and unafraid.
12/19/2011
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