When did you feel that you were part of Eden's community or extended family?

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When did you feel that you were part of Eden's community or extended family?

js250 js250
I will admit, when I first joined EF I was ignorant of the close knit extended friends and family element of Eden. I was also very intimidated by the higher ranking, long term members and was shy about participating in the forum.

As a lot of you know, that has definitely changed!! Try to shut me up now, lol!! Seriously, though, my 'moment' was actually a few unrelated happenings - but they changed everything for me! The first one was my very first push assignment. I felt like my reviews mattered. Then it was when I actually helped another person on the forum and then was helped back by all the caring members when I was going through a bit of a rough time. And finally, the first time a picture was posted to my wall from another member!! Wow, that was incredible!!

Let us know about your moment. If you are new and feel a bit left out or not included, let us know why. This post is not about the cliques or groups, feeling shunned, etc. it is to encourage our new members to reach out and for us to welcome them.
05/24/2012
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Ryuson Ryuson
Quote:
Originally posted by js250
I will admit, when I first joined EF I was ignorant of the close knit extended friends and family element of Eden. I was also very intimidated by the higher ranking, long term members and was shy about participating in the forum.

As a lot of ...
I think that it was a fairly slow process. I know that it was really Alice who made me feel like there were people here that took a personal interest in me. A few of the moderators also really helped to give me some guidance.

Another thing that really comes to mind was joining the book club. It meant a lot to get together with a bunch of other people a few times a month and just talk about something. I am not real into erotica, but it was a blast and made me feel at home.

One of the reasons I like being a mentor so much is helping people to feel less lost and more welcomed on Eden. It can seem pretty scary, with all the people with 200+ reviews, seeing others getting assigned high priced toys, all the forum etiquette, etc but it's SUCH a great community.
05/24/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I would have to say it was during one of my first few threads, I asked a question about a good lube for shower/tub play time. I had a lot of response which was awesome, but then a few weeks later one of the original responders asked me how the suggestion worked out. I was like "Wow, folks do care around here". Another eye opener was when I was accepted into the DR program, I sent a message and had a DR review that afternoon! Honestly, I did not think my reviews were good enough at that point but figured it wouldn't hurt to ask.

Even today I am surprised when a member sends me a message and asks my opinion on a product. On top of all that I have made a bunch of good friends too.

Ya, I love Eden!
05/24/2012
ghent529 ghent529
Well as you know I am new. and js250 you are my mentor. I didn't feel part of anything until i wrote my first in class review and you commented on it. Helping me, and incourgaing(sp) me. I thank you for that
05/24/2012
Forum Moderator Forum Moderator
Just popping in to say that this is a fabulous thread. Carry on.
05/24/2012
Beck Beck
When I first joined, I didn't feel a part of the community until I go tmy second mentor Sexyintexas. (I miss you!) She helped me figure my way around and made me feel like a better part of the community. She befriended me and introduced me to many others here. Shortly after, I became a regular member, mentor, COTM, and now a top ranked member.

The thing I remember the most was my Fiji review was used as the product page review. It was my first one. I was so proud of myself.

I'm happy to be a part of such a wonderful community. Everyone here is wonderful. And I feel like this is the place where I belong. My voice makes a difference. Plus I have those who want to hear my voice. I've never had that before. This is my giant cyber family!

It makes me warm and fuzzy when I get messages from members asking about things. I even get messages from new users because someone told them I was the person to ask. I love when I get a special mentor request that says something like "I've read many of your reviews and I'd really love to learn from you."
05/24/2012
ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
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Originally posted by Beck
When I first joined, I didn't feel a part of the community until I go tmy second mentor Sexyintexas. (I miss you!) She helped me figure my way around and made me feel like a better part of the community. She befriended me and introduced me to ...
Oh ya, the first time I seen my name/review on a product page was awesome! Even still today I puff up my head a little at seeing it. lol
05/24/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by Beck
When I first joined, I didn't feel a part of the community until I go tmy second mentor Sexyintexas. (I miss you!) She helped me figure my way around and made me feel like a better part of the community. She befriended me and introduced me to ...
Oh and it makes me warm and fuzzy too, when I see comments on the forum that say " Well, Beck reviewed those items, she would be happy to answer your questions." Thank you all, for showing me some love.
05/24/2012
Mamastoys Mamastoys
It took me awhile to start to feel comfortable too. It wasn't anything anyone said or did but I think it was more to do with my age (since i am older than most on here) and my raising- "You don't talk about things like that". I was here for a couple years and life got in the way so I had to leave for awhile. I just recently came back and all the changes were a bit overwhelming. I have to admit I still have trouble finding some things but I am getting better at it. Everyone has been so friendly and I really like the following element that was added since I was here last. I still worry about my reviews- will they sound stupid, how do I describe this or that, and in general-am I so old that I think everything is good?!?! LOL I still can't/don't tell anyone I know that I come here or that we have toys! We live in the Bible Belt and would probably be run out of town if people know..so you guys are my secret friends and I am thankful for each of you!!!
05/24/2012
Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
It took me awhile to start to feel comfortable too. It wasn't anything anyone said or did but I think it was more to do with my age (since i am older than most on here) and my raising- "You don't talk about things like that". I ...
Oh, I hear you on the bible belt stuff. I'm proud of my responsibilities on Eden and talk about a lot of you in really awesome ways when my hubby gets home - so and so did this and it was really awesome or whatever. But, man when it comes to family, I don't discuss anything with them. They just don't get it. At all. And that's okay, they don't have to as long as I'm comfortable dealing with it.

Should anyone stumble across what I do here at Eden and try to give me hell for it, my first response would be "and exactly why is it you were on a sex toy site in the first place?"
05/24/2012
js250 js250
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Originally posted by ghent529
Well as you know I am new. and js250 you are my mentor. I didn't feel part of anything until i wrote my first in class review and you commented on it. Helping me, and incourgaing(sp) me. I thank you for that
Thank you!! I am so glad to help be part of making you feel welcome. There are so many others here who will also welcome you after they get to know you a bit as well!! Keep up the good work!!
05/24/2012
Ansley Ansley
I think the first time I felt really included in the community was when people started dropping by my wall to say hi and then Sam and I got rolling on a convo about cars and stargazer lilies and she took the convo to my wall so that we would stop derailing the thread we were in.

And now? I get to meet our fabulous Sam in two weeks. I'm ridiculously excited.

You know, I started out at Eden as a reviewer and was brought up from the community, so it just really goes to show you that anything is possible around here.
05/24/2012
Annemarie Annemarie
I've been an Eden member for about 4 years with off and on contribution (depending on my life). I've been writing reviews for 2 years, I think, but they're quite rare due to financial issues.

Honestly? I still feel a little on the outside of the group. I've felt like this since I began writing basically. That said, I've not made a super major effort to try to get on "the inside."

Life goes on, and I've come to terms with it all. I don't have anyone here that I can confide in, nor anybody I'd call "friend."
05/24/2012
BG529 BG529
I am going to just say that Stormy really made me feel welcome. I was having a problem with something that will not be named But I didn't know I couldn't post it in the fourm I really just didn't think about it i was sooo up set. and she deleted my post and sent me a pm insead and we talked for a few days about my issue and she really helped me! it was awesome!
05/24/2012
Beck Beck
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Originally posted by BG529
I am going to just say that Stormy really made me feel welcome. I was having a problem with something that will not be named But I didn't know I couldn't post it in the fourm I really just didn't think about it i was sooo up set. and she ...
Awe, see...look at that love!
05/24/2012
TheCleansing TheCleansing
I think I'm a bit of an outsider on this really but it's just nice to see everyone happy and loved.
05/24/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I started doing my own and that is when I noticed how close this community was. I have had some disagreements on some forums but those times are over. I got some great advice from everyone. Also I felt great when one of my reviews was used on the product page. That made my day. Also when I got my first push assignment. I sure can say I have come a long way.

So here are my thank you's and if I leave anyone out you know who you are and I appreciate everyone's help.

Miss Nessa, Beck,js250, Stormy, Airen Wolf,Mpfm ,Wrmbreze, Gracie, Unfulfilled, Lauren, Sam, sktb0007, Kush, Kira, Carrie Ann, Ryuson, Badass, Aliceinthehole, CookieMonsterMike, MamaDivine.

Again everyone of these people have helped me in some way or the other and I appreciate every minute of it.
05/24/2012
Melan!e Melan!e
I'm still pretty new around here but I can't say that I've ever really felt like I was on the outside. Rather, the more I involve myself the more I feel included. I've had nothing but wonderful and accepting experiences on Eden so far.

I just started reviewing and it wasn't really until then that I realized just how great (welcoming) the people are here. I have never once been intimidated or too shy around here, which I usually am in my day to day life. When one of my reviews was nominated for the rumble I felt so special All the comments on my reviews and on my wall always make me feel warm and fuzzy. It's making me want to get even more involved around here.

I think the more you invest in Eden, the more you'll get back. This community is really incredible.
05/24/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
I felt welcomed as soon as I wrote my first review and applied to be an advanced reviewer. I didn't know the mentor program but I was voted in and people commented on my reviews telling me what I was missing and such. That then made me step back and look at older member's reviews to see exactly what people are looking for and what makes for a good review. I think I quickly became better.

I was SO shy about this stuff, you have no idea. Even though my face isn't on here I still felt shy coming here reviewing sex toys and asking questions about something so personal. I was afraid people would think I was stupid but that was not the case. People were so friendly and helpful and made me feel comfortable. With the comfort I was able to do better reviews because seeing how many people out here aren't judgmental I was able to relax. Enough so that I talk about things with my best friend and I never thought I'd be comfortable talking sex toys with friends. I've shown her the site though she has yet to join. Just a couple weeks ago I brought a small bag over to her of free toys I got with my orders here.

I have never used a forum before but I used to have a Live Journal back in the day and people were SO mean in the groups they had that you could join. That experience made me weary of coming here but I'm glad I did post and I'm glad that people were nice to me.

I felt like I mattered here when I noticed my review for the Cooling O Balm was put on the product page. Also Max shave It also makes me feel good to revisit a product page of something I reviewed and see my review showing as one of two helpful favorable or critical reviews.

Then I had the same experience that Tim had with the DR program. I was responded to that same day and offered a lubricant and massage oil and they are the one on the product page and I really hope Eden carries the stuff but that was in Feb. so I don't think it's going to happen .

I also like that I have a few people here that chat back and forth with me on my wall or in a message. I'd add them on facebook if they had it just to have more conversation lol. The few times I've had some really serious questions about products and messaged someone they were so nice to me and it really help me out.

I just had foot surgery and have been down for 2months and I was touched that some members have checked on me and asked me how I'm doing. I also like when they just talk about how their weekend was or something that made them happy/excited. I really like here. This is the most friendly place online I've been to.

Oh yeah, and when someone nominated one of my reviews for the rumble and when I was up for vote for COTM, though I didn't win either, it was nice knowing that people like me. Also being accepted as a mentor. And getting push reviews.
05/24/2012
VioletMoonstone VioletMoonstone
I've been around for a while but never really got buddy-buddy with anyone. I figured out the site on my own time by clicking around and reading everything. I try to stay completely anonymous because I don't want anyone to find out I'm here and it's fun that way. I'm a secret sex toy reviewer, oooo! I don't feel like I'm totally excluded but in a way I feel a little intimated. I only have about 50 reviews and I lurk in the forums late at night. I'm an active member but I'm kinda shy and I just do my own thing! Hanging out in the forums more often is making me feel more comfortable with everybody though.

I've been interested in sex ever since I was really young (I found an adult toy magazine for adam & eve in my parents bedroom and would always go look at it when they were gone!) and have always been really openminded and interested in kinky stuff. lol! I found Eden by winning a gift card from a blog. I've stayed ever since! I think it's been a few years but I forget.
05/24/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
One other thing I wanted to mention. I haven't been comfortable with my body since my freshmen year of college. I gained some weight, lost it, gained it. Right now I'm going through a rough time, no self-esteem, sad because of my foot surgery I haven't been able to go to the gym and do my cardio. After reading lingerie reviews from women my size or bigger with photos included and seeing other people comment on them and nothing negative is ever said, I just got my first lingerie piece for my free assignment. I don't have any sleeveless tops to wear this summer and I have two outdoor concerts I'm going to and I want to be comfortable and still look nice. I found two other tops and ordered those as well (and put more on my wishlist). EF has made me see that not everyone is skinny and plus size girls can still look good in sexy things. I just never thought I could wear these nice things because I don't have the body of a model and I felt like people would think "ew, is she serious?" but coming here and seeing comments made on these peoples reviews really helped me. Though I'm back on my diet, I still deserve to wear pretty things and FEEL pretty. I'm excited to do my review and post pictures and hoping the size is right so I don't have to wait for an exchange .
05/24/2012
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by Ansley
Oh, I hear you on the bible belt stuff. I'm proud of my responsibilities on Eden and talk about a lot of you in really awesome ways when my hubby gets home - so and so did this and it was really awesome or whatever. But, man when it comes to ...
LOL. I will have to remember that response if anyone should ever ask. It would be worth it to see their reactions. Hee Hee
05/24/2012
Gracie Gracie
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I ...
You are a sweet woman and a pleasure to interact with!!!

The first time I began to feel a part of the community was after I had placed 2 orders and I wasnt thrilled with my choices, they were kind of weak. I decided reading the reviews wasnt enough. I had read many reviews and I noticed that several were by Tuesday, so I wrote her a message and she wrote me back! I don't remember all we discussed, but I think she suggested Tango for me and the rest is history. Thank you Tuesday!!! Now I feel comfortable asking anybody just about anything. Most people here answer and I've made some friends that way. I have found this to be a very friendly and helpful site!

This was a great idea Steff!
05/24/2012
Gracie Gracie
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Originally posted by Zombirella
One other thing I wanted to mention. I haven't been comfortable with my body since my freshmen year of college. I gained some weight, lost it, gained it. Right now I'm going through a rough time, no self-esteem, sad because of my foot surgery ...
Good for you!!! You do deserve pretty things to wear and I'm glad to hear you say your feeling more confident these days!
05/24/2012
sktb0007 sktb0007
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I ...
I love you too girl!
05/24/2012
PolyLove PolyLove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and tiny. And that keeps me from posting and participating in a lot of discussions. I'm trying my best to get over being shy, but it's really hard for me.
05/24/2012
Ms. N Ms. N
I was an Eden customer for years before I became a contributor here. I didn't even realize there was an "Eden Community" for all of that time. Last fall, after being nudged by a friend to do it, I started writing reviews. A few things that made me feel connected to the community were getting my first nominations for rumbles, finally winning one (yay!), having the lovely Katelyn ask on my wall when I was going to write my next review (thank you, sweet girl), having people tell me they like my lingerie reviews, and in particular, the support of people like Tripod and Badass who encourage me to keep going! I am never going to be someone who writes 100 reviews in under a year, but because of the EF community, I have written more in the past nine months than I have in years
05/24/2012
Mamastoys Mamastoys
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Originally posted by PolyLove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and ...
I know how you feel. I have a hard time talking to people when I first meet them. And to be honest, some of the topic on here I have no idea what they are talking about. Hope you feel more comfortable soon!!!
05/24/2012
PassionateLover2 PassionateLover2
I felt welcomed as soon as I wrote my first review with the help of my Mentor, 'aliceinthehole'. Shortly after posting that review, I was nominated to my first Rumble and almost simultaneously being nominated to my first Contributor of the Month! It was so overwhelming and I was truly humbled.

My contribution to the Eden Fantasys community has not only been my two Reviews: "Fast Girls" and "Girls on Top" but also the many Polls and Discussions which have been very warmly received.

I have also contributed in other ways by writing two fantasies: one called, "Love at Snow Lake" and the second one called, Fantasy Times Two have been inspirational and appreciated by all your kind comments.
05/24/2012
Gracie Gracie
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Originally posted by PolyLove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and ...
Here's a hug to let you know you are welcome! I know I have seen you around and your comments are a valuable contribution! I think the more you say the more comfortable you will feel! If you ever want to chat about anything just drop me a line!

Mamastoys I dont think I've seen you before. Hi! I'm about your age and I'm glad to meet you!
05/24/2012
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