When did you feel that you were part of Eden's community or extended family?

Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Gracie
Here's a hug to let you know you are welcome! I know I have seen you around and your comments are a valuable contribution! I think the more you say the more comfortable you will feel! If you ever want to chat about anything just drop me a ... more
Thank you. =) I've found a few people that I talk to on a regular basis. I try to participate.
05/24/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
I know how you feel. I have a hard time talking to people when I first meet them. And to be honest, some of the topic on here I have no idea what they are talking about. Hope you feel more comfortable soon!!!
Same to you. =)
05/24/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I ... more
You are more than welcome. I love to help. And I'm willing to help anyone who messages me.
05/24/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
The people of Eden were extremely kind to me when I started back in Jan, 2010, and have been since. I've seen people come and go and stay, and it feels like a family in which you can just slip in and everyone is glad you came out of the woodwork to join them.

I was going through my separation and a FWB/affair when I first started, and I was able to rant about everything going on and not be told "get over it". The sensitivity of those who had either gone through or sympathized was amazing, to which I am grateful. Being able to help others through such hard patches of their relationships - having to end them for self-preservation or whatnot - has allowed me to give back and help those who need it in return.
05/24/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by Gracie
You are a sweet woman and a pleasure to interact with!!!

The first time I began to feel a part of the community was after I had placed 2 orders and I wasnt thrilled with my choices, they were kind of weak. I decided reading the reviews ... more
LOL!!! You know you made me think here Gracie;

It was just last month I think, Tuesday wrote on one of my reviews for an assignment. That is when I realised my reviews were actually not that bad when someone I respected as a toy reviewer so much made a comment saying I had a good review!!!

But as for fitting into the Forums... I don't really feel like I am a part of the Forums actually. But then again, I'm here and active in the Forums because I like reading other people's opinions so it really doesn't matter how I feel about it, I am here and enjoying reading people's opinions!!!

For the Community aspect of Eden, it boils down to you get what you give. I'm not very good with the small talk I find it awkward so I never really talk to people unless I have something of value to say. So sure! I feel comfy here in the Community!!!
05/24/2012
Contributor: Woman China Woman China
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and ... more
I'll tell you a secret, I tell it to my students when they get up to talk in front of people.

Pretend you are god/God.

Seriously!

Your opinion is your opinion and is valued just as much as everyone elses. Your opinions were formed by your experiences which are unique to you. If people do not listen to them, that is their problem not yours. Your opinions are never wrong no matter if others say they are. Your information might be wrong, sure, that happens to everyone, but your opinions never are because they are a part of you.

So Lil'Missy, I dare you. Stop thinking you are Thumbellina and start thinking you're the Green Giant!!!
05/24/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Woman China
I'll tell you a secret, I tell it to my students when they get up to talk in front of people.

Pretend you are god/God.

Seriously!

Your opinion is your opinion and is valued just as much as everyone elses. Your opinions ... more
Haha. That's funny cause in high school I was nicknamed sprout. A reason completely irrelevant to this discussion, but still funny. Joking aside, I shall try to take on that mind set. I really do want to become part of the community because everyone here is so nice and open. Challenge accepted!!
05/24/2012
Contributor: Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and ... more
No don't. I like you from just chatting back and forth for a little while. You should frequent the forums more. You won't be ignored
05/25/2012
Contributor: bayosgirl bayosgirl
I honestly have always felt welcomed here, but when I first felt really a part of the community was when I felt safe enough to share my miscarriage story, and was treated with such kindness and compassion from many of the ladies here, it was unreal. I still go back to that thread from time to time when I'm feeling down.
05/25/2012
Contributor: unfulfilled unfulfilled
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I ... more
You're welcome!

I first felt welcomed by Sexyintexas when I came here last year and she was my mentor. She had me become familiar with the way the community worked and was there to answer any question that I may have had. I was frustrated when my first few reviews didn't get EU votes (I know now they weren't) and she expalined how things worked around here and what I could do to make them better.

I feel that everyone that's read some or all of my reviews has supported me on my orgasmic journey. I've been given several suggestions on toys or tricks to try from several people (Beck, Stainedclear, Gunsmoke, Gracie, Tuesday)and I have many that offer their support and encouragement when yet another toy fails me.

I came here unable to have an orgasm and was frustrated, feeling (unfulfilled) and not worthy as a woman. My husband wasn't interested in helping me on my journey and constantly made comments that I didn't need toys, we both start at the same time and there had to be something wrong with me because it wasn't his fault I couldn't orgasm, etc. so I made a forum post about how I was feeling and P'Gell and others helped me out with some wonderful advice.

I love this community, and I try to help those that I'm able to by writing my reviews and offering suggestions in the forums on products I have experience with.

I love being part of the mentor program and want to help others become comfortable with the community, feel welcomed, and open about things as well as help with their writing if they need it.
05/25/2012
Contributor: ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
I am sooo loving this thread! So many of us start out the same way; shy, not sure how folks will take our thoughts and timid to post about things. I love too that many of the same folks extended a hand in greeting and offered help.

Threads like this bring a tear of joy to my eyes and make me proud that I am part of this awesome community!

05/25/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by BG529
I am going to just say that Stormy really made me feel welcome. I was having a problem with something that will not be named But I didn't know I couldn't post it in the fourm I really just didn't think about it i was sooo up set. and she ... more
I'm so glad that I was able to help you out with that whole situation, I just hate that it worked out the way it did at the end. But, we've got you now!!!
05/25/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I am just going to say thank you too a bunch of people here that made me feel welcome and whenever I had a question would always give me a answer. I was scared at first to really say anything on the forums. Or to really comment on reviews. Then I ... more
Much love back!
05/25/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Mamastoys
LOL. I will have to remember that response if anyone should ever ask. It would be worth it to see their reactions. Hee Hee
I mean, you know...people in glass houses and all that jazz.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Melan!e
I'm still pretty new around here but I can't say that I've ever really felt like I was on the outside. Rather, the more I involve myself the more I feel included. I've had nothing but wonderful and accepting experiences on Eden so ... more
You're exactly right! The more you invest in us, the more we will invest in you. Ha, that sounds so weird and all hokey but it's totally true.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Ansley Ansley
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
I kinda still feel like an outsider. I'm really nervous around new people and tend to word things wrong when I get nervous. Even tho this is online and I'm not face to face with any of you (which would be WAY worse!) I still feel ignored and ... more
I promise you, there is nothing to be afraid of here. I can understand feeling shy, but everyone has an opinion and your insight is worth the risk. Just do what you're comfortable with and I hope that, in time, you'll blossom into the beautiful flower I know you are.
05/25/2012
Contributor: BG529 BG529
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Originally posted by Ansley
I'm so glad that I was able to help you out with that whole situation, I just hate that it worked out the way it did at the end. But, we've got you now!!!
That you do! and I'm so happy to be here! and again I thank you so much for listening to me rant
05/25/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Zombirella
No don't. I like you from just chatting back and forth for a little while. You should frequent the forums more. You won't be ignored
I'm going to try. WomanChina has a point. =) Thank you.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by Ansley
I promise you, there is nothing to be afraid of here. I can understand feeling shy, but everyone has an opinion and your insight is worth the risk. Just do what you're comfortable with and I hope that, in time, you'll blossom into the ... more
Thank you. It's not voicing my opinion I'm scared of. It's wording it wrong. I have to think, hard, about what I want to say and how to put it so it makes sense. A lot of the times I just go with as technical as possible and it comes across as rude.
05/25/2012
Contributor: mpfm mpfm
I had been an occasinal customer for a few years. I was vaguely aware there was some sort of community that offered some sort of discounts. I never had the time or inclination to look into it more. I joined last fall after discovering the goldmine in the forums and reviews. I don't talk about sexual things to anyone in real life, so this is quite a change for me.

I wandered around lost for a bit, but soon Beck came along and talked me into glass dildos. (Thanks Beck) She continued to make me feel at home and soon there were others. I have found this to be a wonderful and warm place full of information and conversation.

The two moments when I really felt like maybe I belonged were my first push assignment and being accepted into the Description Review program. They sent me 3 DRs all at once. That was quite a rush.

I love it here.
05/25/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by Lilith Bealove
Thank you. It's not voicing my opinion I'm scared of. It's wording it wrong. I have to think, hard, about what I want to say and how to put it so it makes sense. A lot of the times I just go with as technical as possible and it comes across as rude.
I have brain damage from a car accident and there are words for simple items that are just......gone. I completely understand how you feel, however, you are here!! That is already a step in the right direction!! Go ahead and word them how you talk. Act like you are talking to someone when you write, it does help. There is no reason to be self-concious, we are not going to bite if you make a mistake. We all make mistakes and write things wrong!! You can also always message me if you want me to just look over something for you as well--I do this for a lot of people. Glad you are here, we all welcome you and your input is valuable!!
05/25/2012
Contributor: Lilith Bealove Lilith Bealove
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Originally posted by js250
I have brain damage from a car accident and there are words for simple items that are just......gone. I completely understand how you feel, however, you are here!! That is already a step in the right direction!! Go ahead and word them how you talk. ... more
Thank you. The more I participate in this one post the more I feel accepted and not so tiny. =)
05/25/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Just wanted to say to the ones who feel like a outsider. You are not outsiders. The more you speak up the more people will notice you. If you have any questions as well feel free to ask. Or even if you want to talk I am here. We don't bite lol.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Chilipepper Chilipepper
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Just wanted to say to the ones who feel like a outsider. You are not outsiders. The more you speak up the more people will notice you. If you have any questions as well feel free to ask. Or even if you want to talk I am here. We don't bite lol.
"We don't bite lol."

Unless asked.
05/25/2012
Contributor: Beck Beck
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Originally posted by mpfm
I had been an occasinal customer for a few years. I was vaguely aware there was some sort of community that offered some sort of discounts. I never had the time or inclination to look into it more. I joined last fall after discovering the goldmine in ... more
Love right back at you!
05/25/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by PeaceToTheMiddleEast
Just wanted to say to the ones who feel like a outsider. You are not outsiders. The more you speak up the more people will notice you. If you have any questions as well feel free to ask. Or even if you want to talk I am here. We don't bite lol.
AGREE!!!

There are so many people that come and go it can be tricky to notice newer members. Let us know you are here--communicate with us--ask questions--and for goodness sakes, do NOT take it personally if you feel ignored or not included. We just haven't figured out who the newest asset to Eden is yet...but give us time and let us know you are around!!!


AND--JustLikeHeaven: Thank you for the acknowledgement above, that is so sweet of you to mention us!! We are always here to help anyone that asks, and will volunteer our help if we notice it is wanted. I love being your helper and friend.
05/25/2012
Contributor: PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
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Originally posted by js250
AGREE!!!

There are so many people that come and go it can be tricky to notice newer members. Let us know you are here--communicate with us--ask questions--and for goodness sakes, do NOT take it personally if you feel ignored or not included. ... more
Your welcome Steff and I love having you around when I need you.
05/25/2012
Contributor: SMichelle SMichelle
I love the community here at Eden, but if I'm being honest... I feel like a bit of an outsider. I get nice comments on my reviews, great ratings, and a few comments on my forum posts, which is nice. I just haven't formed any close friendships in all the months that I've been here.
05/25/2012
Contributor: js250 js250
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Originally posted by SMichelle
I love the community here at Eden, but if I'm being honest... I feel like a bit of an outsider. I get nice comments on my reviews, great ratings, and a few comments on my forum posts, which is nice. I just haven't formed any close friendships ... more
Sorry you feel that way, I am positive no one is ignoring you or your friendship purposefully. Try reaching out to a few people. There are no many members here on EF, that it really makes it difficult to keep track of the newer members.

I do have a new member in May AND a new member in June posts here on the forums--new members should think of posting in those threads!!!
06/04/2012