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The other day I turned my back for maybe 5 mins to load the dishwasher only to then find my 3 yr old opening the infamous hidden stash drawer. I managed to deistract him ( as I was laughing at myself in my head and planning when to go buy a toy
The other day I turned my back for maybe 5 mins to load the dishwasher only to then find my 3 yr old opening the infamous hidden stash drawer. I managed to deistract him ( as I was laughing at myself in my head and planning when to go buy a toy storage box). Has anyone had their kid/s find their hidden stash?
YES! We have a 12 year old boy, a 14 year old boy part time and a 2 year old part time. The 12 year old stays with us and the others are with us for a couple weeks then with their dads. Since our 12 year old doesn't stay with his biological dad, he's with us full time and he's the worst about my toys.
He always digs through my things, which is disrespectful and we've had to have these talks about not going through other's personal things for the past year. It only works sometimes. He still does it and has found mine several times. I tell him they are back massagers. Different toys are different things. Envie has that thumb shaped tip so I managed to tell him it was for my migraines! Ha Ha. Deux passes as a foot massager and Freestyle has been labeled my "wand" for endometriosis pain. I just tell him I use it on my belly when it hurts from the endo. Up until a couple weeks ago, he knew no different.
My twin sister visits sometimes and while my partner and I were out of the house, she took our 12 year old in my bedroom and showed him one of my vibrators--Envie, to be exact-- and when I came inside I saw the box was pulled out and asked her why. She said our son had been going through it. I knew it was a lie because he does know better and while he will go through my things, he never would do it while I wasn't in the room. The rule is, he doesn't go into someone else's bedroom unless they are in there.
I knew something was up and I knew she had to have told him what the vibrator was, just to piss me off--she does things like that SOO often. When she left, me and A were alone and he told me she'd showed him something. I knew what it was. He said "she told me it was something dirty, but I don't wanna say what she said." I was furious! I get that it may have been funny to her, but you really don't go that route to embarrass someone, not by telling a kid that their mom's vibrator is not for migraines, but for sexual use. I didn't want him knowing that and I think that's understandable. Sure, they'll learn what these toys are one day, but I didn't need him learning what mine were through her.
When they come across my toys from going through my boxes, I get upset because it's rude, but I don't get angry. I prefer them not seeing them and ever since a couple of weeks ago, he keeps asking me if I have "dirty things." It kinda pisses me off. I've had to upgrade my stash boxes. I'm working on painting up a nice, largish chest and that way I can lock them away now.
Still, it happens, people come across your personal belongings. At least when they're young, you can lie. Lol. When they're older, you have to get more creative... and secretive! Lol. It seems kids are drawn to toys for some reason. I had a mini bullet in the bottom of my purse once and my 6 year old neice stuck her hand in and pulled it out right in front of the family! LOL. Out of the entire contents in my purse, that's what she found. I don't know what it is. Lol