Have you ever had someone secretly photograph you and post online?

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Have you ever had someone secretly photograph you and post online?

K101 K101
I'm back with another kind of wild happening. I want to know, have any of ya'll ever had someone secretly photograph you? If so, did it ever end up online? And my last question, whether or not it has ever happened to you, what the hell do you do to get rid of it?! Have you ever had any experience like this?

I remember not long ago reading about this epidemic where guys were taking cell phone photos up women's skirts and were getting into trouble because of it. I read somewhere they were working on stricter laws now due to this type of sick behavior. The pictures are being taken SECRETLY! Without the person's permission and strangers are doing it. OK, so I make extra sure to include panties in my routine when I plan to wear dresses. No huge deal. It's not like we have sub ways or anything even close to that where I live, although I did have a creep follow me around and try to take photos up my dress a couple years ago, but I knew him and he pretended it was a joke. We took care of that problem. It wasn't like a dangerous stranger was trying to photograph me. However, what about when it's YOUR OWN FAMILY MEMBER DOING IT?! WHAT do you do?

As you've probably guessed by now, I have a family member who's doing this to me and my partner. It started with her doing it to my mom in the pool. My mom didn't want photos of her in the pool on Facebook, but they aren't anything revealing so she didn't totally flip. However, if you're uncomfortable being secretly photographed and put online, you shouldn't have to deal with it. In my opinion, it's total shi* for your own family member to do it just because she has her panties in a wad.

Over the past week, she's managed to photograph more of us. She does it by carrying around her cell phone and you easily think she's just looking at it and she sneaks a picture. She did it to me once before after I'd gotten in from a dental procedure and looked like total hell. It was embarrassing, but not life destroying so I took the laughs and let it go. I mean this was a really embarrassing picture too.

Now, she's done this to a lot of people. She gets angry with you and you can expect extreme punishment. We already know that. However, it's gone way, way too far now. We have family get togethers and all swim during the summer and all week, I've avoided getting into the pool at all because I've already seen her secretly photograph embarrassing pics of our other family members. Yesterday, it was so hot I couldn't stand it and I had my neice who has to be watched every second. I managed to keep out of the pool all day, but when the evening came and I was the only person that didn't get in and I was sweaty and miserable from the heat and chasing a two year old. Everyone, including the photo-taker, got out so I decided it was safe to get in and cool off with my neice for a minute. Wrong. She got in the pool instantly and had her phone out. All I could do was try to come up with a plan to get out of the pool without her snapping a pic. She had her phone in my direction the entire time so I noticed a towel and tried putting it around me IN the pool before getting out. I then hid behind the pool to put my shirt on. She laughed and said "Ha Ha. How ya gonna like that! This is soo going on Facebook!" While I walked away!

Yes, I know it's just a photo of me in a swimsuit, but I am TOTALLY uncomfortable with that being put out there. In my own home, I expect to be able to wear a bikini without the world seeing. So, I kept checking facebook to see if she put the photo online and didn't see it. That was yesterday.

I didn't say much, but kept my clothes on, made sure I was behind a door when changing, etc. Today, our 12 year old caught her snapping a photo of my partner. Bent over. Helping my mom carry something. Thankfully, it's just his backside probably, but I'm F'n furious that we can't do anything without being photographed secretly. His isn't a big deal because he wasn't in a swimsuit, but he's so furious about her taking it.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO!? I mean, I just don't want to have to worry about my everyday life being photographed and going online. I know it will get worse, the photos will get even more humiliating. She's the type who would take a photo of you in the shower or on the toilet and put it up online. I've seen her do A LOT worse to people with her whole Facebook photographing. This is a girl who's taken photos that's resulted in seriously hurting people. I've seen it. She's proud of it. Just earlier she was working on doing something really nasty to a few people.. again, with her cell phone and facebook.

You get my point here. Just now, I went on Facebook to see if the photos were up. Suddenly she's blocked me. Guess what that means? I am going to try logging in to a different FB account so I can see if she's uploaded these photos of my partner and I. If so, I know I can report them and say "Have the person take this photo down." But they don't actually MAKE them take it down, do they?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I want to know how to stop the problem for good before the photos get even worse. I've tried avoiding the person doing it, but like I said. It's a family member. Can't get away for the life of me!
Answers (private voting - your screen name will NOT appear in the results):
Yes, I have had someone photograph me without my permission!
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Yes I have had someone photograph me without my permission and they put it online!
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Never without my permission.
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I was able to get something done about the photos put online of me. (Please tell me!)
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You report the photo and they WILL be taken down if it is on Facebook.
1
No, I'm sorry, but Facebook will not force them to actually take photos of you (without your permission) down.
1
You're shit outta luck. You better hope you can get the password to the photographer's facebook and delete the photos yourself.
1
It has never happened to me, but I know something that you can do to have this stopped. I'll explain in the commments section. (I will be forever grateful!)
Never happened to me, but I have an idea of what you could do to remove and stop the picture taking.
9
Other.
3
I am not 100% sure, but suspect this has happened to me.
2
I have had a similar experience that I'll share about.
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PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
That's horrible!!! Has anyone spoken to her about it? You can report images on facebook and they'll remove the photos. Maybe she doesn't realize that she's bothering people? I've had my photo taken when I didn't realize it, but never anything secretive. That's just wrong!
07/03/2012
brevado brevado
That is awful!
07/03/2012
CindyH CindyH
crazy
07/03/2012
s3 s3
My mother in law posted a pic of me in a bathing suit on facebook. She did it to make fun of me. I wish I had done something about it. You should because it'll bother you until you do!
07/03/2012
darthkitt3n darthkitt3n
I think reporting it on Facebook might help, though if they aren't photos with nudity or anything the staff might not care.

If a member of my family was doing that to me, I'd sit down with other family members to discuss it. If everyone is uncomfortable with it, she should be told so. If she kept it up anyway, I'd probably either get mad and break her phone or boot her out of the house. Family or not, she's making someone very uncomfortable.
07/03/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
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Originally posted by darthkitt3n
I think reporting it on Facebook might help, though if they aren't photos with nudity or anything the staff might not care.

If a member of my family was doing that to me, I'd sit down with other family members to discuss it. If ...
Yes, report it. I had a friend that had her pictures stolen and someone put them on their page and she reported it and Facebook removed them from that person's page.
Back in high school I had some ass steal a picture of me and edit it to make me look fat and nasty and I reported it and it was removed.
I think it could be a form of harassment, at least in my case it was considered that.
It can't hurt to go through and find the photos, hover over them and click options and report photo or go to this link:
link
07/03/2012
Zombirella Zombirella
Maybe this one will help too:
link

OR get her phone from her somehow. I'd even wrestle her to the ground and take it myself or have someone else and then go into a room and lock the door. Most people stay logged into Facebook on their phones. I'd then go in and delete ALL of the photos myself. Seriously, I think that is a good idea. DO IT.
07/03/2012
ViVix ViVix
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
I'm back with another kind of wild happening. I want to know, have any of ya'll ever had someone secretly photograph you? If so, did it ever end up online? And my last question, whether or not it has ever happened to you, what the hell do you ...
I've never had this happen.
07/03/2012
Kitten has left the site Kitten has left the site
I would break the phone myself or make sure she doesn't have a way to get onto Facebook, if you can get her password and stuff and delete her account after changing the email.
That's what I would do anyways, if worse comes to worse.
07/03/2012
G&L G&L
If she did it to me, I'd probably have grabbed her phone and thrown it in the pool, but I realize that's not a good response. Definitely report it to facebook and have a family sit down. Technically you might have a cyber-bullying case, but that may be extreme.
07/03/2012
indiglo indiglo
I've had people post my picture without my permission, but the photo was taken with my permission. (And just group shots of me with my friends, standing and posing.)

If I were you I would definitely report the pictures. Beyond that I would talk to her because that is totally inappropriate. If she won't stop, I would stop allowing her in or near my home. Tell her flat out that she will be considered a trespasser if she comes over again and I'll call the cops.

This person sounds very immature, and will probably need EXTREME firmness when being dealt with. She would be sooo uninvited to any family function.
07/03/2012
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
I have not so far. That sucks you have to go through that and she should respect your privacy someone needs to have a talk with her. That or scare her with going to the cops or something.
07/03/2012
kawigrl kawigrl
I wouldn't take it
07/03/2012
lulz lulz
That's pretty messed up
07/03/2012
js250 js250
I would notify the legal department at Facebook and let them know this person has an account that is used for a cyber harassment. The pictures are unauthorized and that you will take legal action if they do not ban this person and take down the account. Give them specifics on times of harassment, etc.

I am so sorry you are going through this!! I had to just shut my brother out of my life after some of his issues made me stressed and miserable. It was the hardest thing I have had to do--but I need to take care of my own mental state and at the time-my dad's as well.

I wish you luck--hopefully someone will give you advice you are comfortable with and that will help!!

07/03/2012
Missmarc Missmarc
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
I'm back with another kind of wild happening. I want to know, have any of ya'll ever had someone secretly photograph you? If so, did it ever end up online? And my last question, whether or not it has ever happened to you, what the hell do you ...
Never without my permission.
07/03/2012
sexxxkitten sexxxkitten
That is awful!
07/03/2012
Petite Valentine Petite Valentine
That phone would be in pieces if it were me.

Family member or not, you can file harassment charges against her. It may sound extreme, but if she's not respecting boundaries then it may be necessary.
07/03/2012
MissCandyland MissCandyland
Wow! I'm sorry this is happening to you. If someone in my family was doing this to me, I would never be around them...ever. I would discuss with everyone in my family what she was doing to me and that is why I avoid her like the plague. I can avoid anyone in my family if I have to, as I have done it in the past. I'm not sure if pressure on her from other family members would help, but at least they would know you aren't the bad guy in this situation. It is just disrespectful on her part and she sounds very immature.

Because I know, for example, if my sister was doing this to me, my mom would straight up tell her she couldn't come around if she was trying to start drama and wasn't going to respect me and other family members.
07/03/2012
Bethy Cassatt Bethy Cassatt
My boyfriend was fooling around and took a picture of me, but it went nowhere. It was just a sweet little thing. But I have been a situation where someone tried to post photos before. I put my foot down.
07/03/2012
butts butts
If talking to her doesn't help, you can report the photos and claim harassment.
07/03/2012
Gone (LD29) Gone (LD29)
Family member or not, why are you still going to social gatherings with this person? Personally, I'd stop going anywhere she is unless I absolutely had to. If other people in your family are just as bothered by this behavior as you are, maybe you could as a group ask this person not to come to any more family gatherings unless their behavior changes.
07/03/2012
Peggi Peggi
If you report it to facebook, they will take the photos down if they are of you. In addition, you can report her account, and she may end up being deleted completely if it is for repeat offenses.

If it were me, I would've grabbed the phone and thrown it in the pool and said "want to take any more pictures of me?", although I'm also not afraid of altercations even with family. I had to do something similar when my ex-husband's friend did something very much like that to all of us, and it didn't stop. She would constantly take pictures and even after we warned her, it didn't stop. I made sure all of the pictures were off of facebook, and I reported her account, and I messed up her camera. She never took another picture of me again. But I also wasn't afraid of severing ties with her.
07/03/2012
Ms. N Ms. N
Not that I know of...but I wouldn't be totally surprised if it had happened. I do know that certain people *have* taken pictures of me on their cell phones without my knowledge. I know of one instance where a guy saw a picture of me somewhere, and he took a picture of the PICTURE on his cell phone. That weirded me out a bit. I have also seen where guys have seen pictures of me online and have made them into their computer backgrounds...also a bit stalkerish

Personally, I would tell my family members that I would not be attending any events where this person would be. Period.
07/03/2012
deltalima deltalima
Quote:
Originally posted by K101
I'm back with another kind of wild happening. I want to know, have any of ya'll ever had someone secretly photograph you? If so, did it ever end up online? And my last question, whether or not it has ever happened to you, what the hell do you ...
This person seems to be very weird. It's one thing to just do it, even after people have said they don't like it. But then she makes an effort to get back in and take a picture? Ugh. Similar situations have happened to me and Facebook doesn't do anything when you report it. I would suggest telling her straight if she doesn't cut it out, you'll report her to the police. I know it sounds harsh, but if she's doing this to family members that don't agree to it, it can get worse. Good luck
07/03/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
My goodness, dare I say what a BITC*! That's terrible, I hope this is just some random cosin and not a sibling or something. I hate it when people take photos of me without my permission, but I haven't had an issue that extreme. I'd probably take to her about it, maybe have some of your family members help you talk some sense to her. Also, what would be good payback is if you caught a bad picture of her! lol. Anyway hope it gets better!
07/04/2012
Katelyn Katelyn
What an annoying person! I hope you find a way to get this to stop. You shouldn't have to be self conscious around family, that's so rude grrrr
07/04/2012
K101 K101
Quote:
Originally posted by PropertyOfPotter
That's horrible!!! Has anyone spoken to her about it? You can report images on facebook and they'll remove the photos. Maybe she doesn't realize that she's bothering people? I've had my photo taken when I didn't realize ...
Oh she realizes it. She does it when she gets angry with us. She has done far, far, far worse, but this is still not good.

Good news! I got desperate and finally managed to find the sneaky person in me. I managed, somehow thank the heavens, to randomly see her memory card. Seriously, this was like a miracle because I don't even see how I was able to see the card. It was INSIDE her computer and I was walking past and suddenly it occured to me, I had just saw the memory card that held photos of me. I yanked it out and put it in my camera. Nothing. So I stuck it in my computer. WHOA! Hundreds and hundreds of horribly humiliating photos! I don't know if it's possible to delete photos from a memory card via your computer (of course while the card is in your computer) but I did the only thing I knew. I hit "import to computer and delete photos from memory card!"

I'M SO BAD! HAHAHAHA

Bad news.

I don't think I got ALL of the photos of us. I managed to get a good handful of them though and she came in. Stupid. Stupid. Stupid! Why didn't I think to go try and sneak her card sooner?! If I had done it sooner, I'd have had plenty of time before she came back.

So I was discussing this little ordeal with someone else today. My heart was pounding so hard I could see it. I had just snuck the card back into her computer and was shaking like a leaf on a tree while telling another family member what I'd just done. My other fam member said "are you seriously excited over deleting A FEW of the photos?" Well of course I was! Then she said "That's bad. You should've broken the damn thing instead of returning it. If there's still photos on there why the hell didn't you at least keep it?" Then I felt stupid.

Seriously. I was worried about returning it because I'd never steal from someone. Jesus Christ someone needs to knock some f'n sense into me. SHE took my photos and there I was trying to sneak and return her card. I should've done what was suggested to me. I should've been like 'well, bitch shouldn't have took photos of me. I'm not giving it back or sneaking. Now that I have the card I should say screw you to her, delete the photos for good, not hide about it."

Yea. Too bad she's gone now. Well, that's a good thing, but there's STILL photos with her of ME! Guess I better be extra good at sneaking next time she's back huh. Once I had the card, I should not have given it up just because she came inside and was about to find out. I shouldn't have given the thing up until my darn photos were off of it, even if it did mean her realizing I had taken her card. Stupid.
07/04/2012
K101 K101
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Originally posted by s3
My mother in law posted a pic of me in a bathing suit on facebook. She did it to make fun of me. I wish I had done something about it. You should because it'll bother you until you do!
Oh my. Bless your heart. That's a nasty thing to do to someone and I'm very sorry she did that to you. That makes me really sad that women of all people want to hurt other women. Same here with my family member. She's abnormally hurtful. Seriously. It's sad and I love her, but nobody has ever put me so far down and hurt me as deeply as she has by publicly hurting me. She's done this my entire life. I'm sensitive though so I tend to feel down on myself when others might would brush something off.

Thank you. You're right. I HAVE to do something, even if it means confronting her and not "sneaking" around to get rid of the photos.
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Thanks Darkitten. I know there's an option to put "this is a photo of me that I didn't give permission for the person to post and so on." I just don't know that FB will actually enforce that it be taken off.

Also, Darkitten, I did try discussing this with the other family members. I even had a talk with the others who were photographed in their swimsuits and put online and nobody has the courage to confront her. We have all hidden from her "wrath" for too many years. No more cowarding down. If everyone else wants to allow her to disrespect and humiliate them, fine, but I can't let it go on. Breaking her phone actually crossed my mind today when I did get to see SOME of the photos. Dear heavens they are horrid. She must've been taking them far longer than I had even suspected. I wanted to sneak her phone and delete whatever may be on there, but she never puts it down. Even in the pool, hence the reason she's able to photograph us in the pool. My lovie was so mad he threatened to break her darn phone if we couldn't get her to stop doing it.
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Zombirella: Wow! Bless your heart. Oh my. I couldn't imagine that. I thought that type of thing only happened in movies, but goodness! That is such a nasty thing to do! I'm so sorry Thank you so much for the help. I'm glad to hear something can be done. Thank you for the link too. It is very much appreciated. All of ya'll's help is.
Oh and if I do get my hands on her phone or the memory card again, she will absolutely not have a single photo left. I can't chance it. I'm going to just hit "delete all" that way I can be sure there's nothing left. She has thousands so it's not likely I'll ever be able to go through and delete only the ones of me one by one so deleting them all will certainly do the trick. I can't believe it, but the thought of deleting every single one is making me kind of happy! Lol


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Indiglo and JustLikeHeaven. I agree. This situation, not to mention the horrible others we've dealt with with her requires something firm. I hate it, but it does seem the only option will be to ban her from the house. If anything else, that would SURELY be enough to make her stop... I hope.
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