How do you get over mistakes/failure?

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How do you get over mistakes/failure?

ViVix ViVix
So, recently I screwed up pretty badly on something and have been beating myself up over it. How do you move on after you screw up or fail?
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- Kira - , js250 , OhMy! , ScarletFox , Master DarkWolf , DreamWolf , PropertyOfPotter , married with children , AshMegYo
9  (36%)
I don't have any advice, but I know the feeling.
Geogeo , Nora29714 , little miss kinky , soe , CRAZYSEXYONE , GONE! , ghalik , mistressg , ksparkles16 , Terri69 , unfulfilled , LoveBug721 , LadyDarknezz , Envy , dv8
15  (60%)
Penny, penny, penny!!
G&L
1  (4%)
Total votes: 25
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06/07/2012
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- Kira - - Kira -
Whenever I screw up I try to see why I screwed up and what I can do next time to do better. I try to look at screw ups as learning experiences. Each bad choice I've made has made me a better person in some way. Each experience we have (good or bad) makes us the people we become in the future. Without the bad experiences, we wouldn't be able to recognize the good ones. So don't beat yourself up (hard to do - I know!), but try to logically pinpoint where the screw up happened and why it happened. That way you can learn from it and be a better person going forward.
06/07/2012
js250 js250
Use the mistake as a learning tool. Why did you do it that way, how should you have done it, what are you going to do next time. There are no easy answers, but if you use your mistakes as a tool for learning to do better next time it is not as much of a mistake as not learning from it. Make sense?
06/07/2012
Geogeo Geogeo
I dwell on these things too, only time makes me forget.
06/07/2012
OhMy! OhMy!
We are all human, and none of us are perfect. The matter is not that we make mistakes, but what we learn from them and how we grow from them, that matters. Additionally, the intent also plays a large role. There is a huge difference between someone who is making malicious mistakes versus someone who makes a mistake based on (lack of) information, inexperience, or short timeline.
06/07/2012
ScarletFox ScarletFox
I try to learn from the screw up and see what I can do in the future to not do it again. I also have learned to not dwell on it because for me if I dwell it tends to stick with me and drag me down very hard. The way I do that is to focus on it long enough to learn from it and then move on as best I can.
06/07/2012
G&L G&L
Had to go with the Big bang reference. (At least I think it is)
06/07/2012
little miss kinky little miss kinky
Time makes you forget?
06/07/2012
Master DarkWolf Master DarkWolf
Everybody makes mistakes sometimes, that's how you learn. It's better to make them and learn than avoid everything and never learn, am I right?
06/07/2012
DreamWolf DreamWolf
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Originally posted by Master DarkWolf
Everybody makes mistakes sometimes, that's how you learn. It's better to make them and learn than avoid everything and never learn, am I right?
I can feel HORRIBLE about making mistakes too, so I just always try to remember what my OnlyMaster says, and it helps IMMENSELY to go on without worries... ~smiles shy ^^
06/07/2012
mistressg mistressg
It depends on the situation, but I have a hard time giving advice on this especially since I'm dealing with it myself right now.
06/08/2012
Bex1331 Bex1331
I suppress the feeling and try to pretend it never happened, not the best strategy but at least I'm honest, I'll work on addressing those feelings one day... or just develop an ulcer lol.
In all seriousness it is best to just remember that no one is perfect and get past it, learn from it.
06/08/2012
ksparkles16 ksparkles16
I hate that feeling when you screw up....but the reality is we all screw up and we just have to learn from it.
06/08/2012
PropertyOfPotter PropertyOfPotter
Learn from your mistake or failure. Beating yourself up over something won't change what's happened in the past, you can only control what happens from here. Forgive yourself and don't allow yourself to make the same mistake. Until you forgive yourself you won't be able to move forward and being stuck in something that happened in the past isn't going to change anything. Be the better person starting today....
06/08/2012
Errant Venture Errant Venture
What happens to me is: I fail (usually after feeling quite confident, sometimes over-confident), feel miserable about it, overthink things, and say I'm just not that good. But then I just switch off my brain, concentrate on the logic, on the method, of how to do something, of how to complete the task which I'd just screwed up. So, next time I have to do it, or something similar, I know that I'll be able to do it.
06/09/2012
unfulfilled unfulfilled
It depends on the screwup, but I usually use them as learning tools and never beat yourself up over it.
06/09/2012
LoveBug721 LoveBug721
Quote:
Originally posted by ViVix
So, recently I screwed up pretty badly on something and have been beating myself up over it. How do you move on after you screw up or fail?
know the feeling all to well
06/09/2012
married with children married with children
I learn where I messed up at and remember it for next time. It is all part of life. we all make mistakes. You just have to learn from your mistakes, that way you dont repeat them.
06/10/2012
AshMegYo AshMegYo
Don't beat yourself up over it!! Try it again if possible!
06/11/2012
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