How important is great sex when it comes to having a great relationship?

Martiniman Martiniman
Please rate on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being not important at all and 10 being you have to have great sex for your relationship to be fantastic.
Answers (public voting - your screen name will appear in the results):
I'm a virgin
eri86
1  (3%)
I've never had a meaningful relationship
1
2
3
4
5
Lioncub , bettyboom , Shadoria
3  (8%)
6
7
ViVix , Silverwinds , hhh , twelve13 , Lildrummrgurl7 , gsfanatic , bog , spiced
8  (22%)
8
AmethystQueen , KinkyKatieJames , js250 , Gunsmoke , TJtheMadHatter , MsDrProfKitty , Beautiful-Disaster , PeaceToTheMiddleEast , Britt&Rich , Lummox , Living Doll , TJax , Mrs.Hellzapoppin , Rokmai
14  (39%)
9
Sera26 , GirlOnGirl , lilacviolet , dv8 , babyrock
5  (14%)
10
married with children , LavenderSkies , MrWishyWashy , Bignuf
4  (11%)
Other...please explain.
VeganChick (is Gone)
1  (3%)
Total votes: 36
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03/30/2013
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Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Please rate on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being not important at all and 10 being you have to have great sex for your relationship to be fantastic.
Sex doesn't have to be great to start with...it just can't get worse. LOL
03/30/2013
AmethystQueen AmethystQueen
I think it's more important to the male, but I think it should be very important for the couple. It aids in intimacy, passion. You definitely need that in a relationship.
03/30/2013
bettyboom bettyboom
How is bad determined? Someone could have just done stuff that another person liked, it doesn't mean they are bad, it just means they haven't become accustomed to having sex that YOU like yet.
03/30/2013
KinkyKatieJames KinkyKatieJames
I said 8, but I think a solid relationship makes the sex even better.
03/30/2013
twelve13 twelve13
I'd say a 7.5. It's pretty important, but not a complete deal breaker.
03/30/2013
js250 js250
It is not a deal breaker--but can certainly help when the rest of it goes to hell. You at least have something to keep you working on the areas that need more help. Possibly even to the point of rebuilding the relationship--happened to us a few times.
03/30/2013
married with children married with children
it is important, but so is every other aspect of a relationship. You have to have all the different parts of a relationship going strong, to have a strong unbreakable relationship.
03/30/2013
eri86 eri86
I'm a virgin, but I think it is important. But all aspects of the relationship are. And sex certainly isn't the most important.
03/31/2013
TJtheMadHatter TJtheMadHatter
I think it's important. It's not a deal breaker, but it's up there. I put it at an 8.
03/31/2013
MsDrProfKitty MsDrProfKitty
I think that the longer the relationship is the more important it becomes. I mean, it might not be great to begin with but then you start getting more comfortable with each other and you learn what the other likes. I think that sex helps keep couples together. When times are tough and you both are busy sex can be that connecting link where you expose each other to each other. Finding that release together is important, especially when things can be a little routine.
03/31/2013
GirlOnGirl GirlOnGirl
I went with a 9. I think sex would be less important to me if I was looking for a more traditional relationship and things like financial stability, raising children, that kinda stuff.
03/31/2013
LavenderSkies LavenderSkies
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Please rate on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being not important at all and 10 being you have to have great sex for your relationship to be fantastic.
10. It is very important. The bonding that comes with sexual intimacy, the opnenness and the communication, desire to physically pleasure each other..is all very important to me!
03/31/2013
Beautiful-Disaster Beautiful-Disaster
I guess....an 8.
03/31/2013
Lildrummrgurl7 Lildrummrgurl7
It's pretty important but it's not the defining part of a relationship. I wouldn't end a relationship because the sex wasn't great. I'd just work hard to make the sex great
03/31/2013
PeaceToTheMiddleEast PeaceToTheMiddleEast
It is important. I don't want someone who knows what they are doing or that can at least try. I also said a 8. I don't like teaching people. I have had to do this before and it is no fun.
03/31/2013
ArchVixen ArchVixen
It's super-important to me, I would say it's a 8 or 9.
I think you can have a good relationship without a lot of sex, but good sex (and lots of it!) takes it to a whole different level.
04/01/2013
gsfanatic gsfanatic
It's pretty important for long term enjoyment of a relationship, at least to me
04/02/2013
bog bog
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Please rate on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being not important at all and 10 being you have to have great sex for your relationship to be fantastic.
7 or 8 ish.
04/02/2013
TJax TJax
Quote:
Originally posted by AmethystQueen
I think it's more important to the male, but I think it should be very important for the couple. It aids in intimacy, passion. You definitely need that in a relationship.
I can't speak for all guys, but it's not so important to for me that the sax is "good" but that it's there. Most of the guys I know (me included, sadly) have stayed in a relationship for way too long just because there was still a sex life (even if it does feel like it's on life-support).

For a relationship, I believe it is very important to have "good sex" as it seems to be an indicator to how well the relationship is going / if it might end.

Let me clarify though that my definition of "good sex" doesn't necessarily mean everyone has earth shaking orgasms (or even an orgasm at all), but that everyone enjoyed it, and each other's company such that in the end no one is left feeling unsatisfied or inadequate by any means.
04/03/2013
Bignuf Bignuf
Quote:
Originally posted by Martiniman
Please rate on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being not important at all and 10 being you have to have great sex for your relationship to be fantastic.
It is one critical part of what makes a good relationship into a "fantastic" one. Hubby is sitting next to me and nodding in agreement!!!
04/03/2013
babyrock babyrock
It's very important because bad sex in the long-term leads to other relationship problems.
04/29/2013
Rokmai Rokmai
It's not the only thing I want in a relationship, but it is a very critical part of it, along with many other things.
04/30/2013
VeganChick (is Gone) VeganChick (is Gone)
I don't really know. I've only had one sexual partner and our sex is great, as is our relationship and friendship. I can't even imagine a relationship with "bad sex".
04/30/2013
spiced spiced
It's important...but I think it's usually more of an indicator of the health of a relationship than it is a cause of that health (or lack thereof).

In every relationship I've had, if we were getting along, and healthy, the sex was great. If the sex stopped being great, it was because something was wrong in the relationship, usually either boredom with each other or a disagreement we couldn't resolve.
04/30/2013
Total posts: 25
Unique posters: 25