How many people here are childfree?

Contributor: Coralbell Coralbell
I don't think I want children, but I'm not 100% sure yet. I definitely won't be having them anytime soon.
12/19/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
I'm probably going to apply for medicaid, so if I get that, I'll have my sterilization done 30 days after I get it.
12/19/2011
Contributor: jessi2 jessi2
I am a 1st grade teacher and up until this year I have ALWAYS wanted children. Not anymore. I would be so terrified about raising my kid wrong that I decided to just be an aunt!
12/19/2011
Contributor: LAndJ LAndJ
None and we plan to remain child free for a few more years.
12/19/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by LAndJ
None and we plan to remain child free for a few more years.
You mean childless. Remember, childfree means NO children ever.
12/19/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
You mean childless. Remember, childfree means NO children ever.
Thanks for clarifying this for others. This thread is a good place to educate those who may not know what being childfree is.
12/19/2011
Contributor: HannahPanda HannahPanda
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
People, PLEASE read before posting. CHILDFREE= no children, and I really don't want to hear about your own spawn. I don't care if this offends people, just read the posts, there aren't that many.
People are allowed to share their opinions, even if it's "Hey, I have a child, I like children." It isn't argumentative. It isn't really polite to police what people reply with. If they aren't being argumentative, there's no issue.
12/19/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Thanks for clarifying this for others. This thread is a good place to educate those who may not know what being childfree is.
No problem, it's just a tad annoying when people mix the two terms up. Calling people like myself 'childless', indicating that we just haven't 'grown up' yet and people who are going to reproduce 'childfree'.

Less= not having it in your possession yet or it's been taken from you
Free= never wanting it in the first place and being free from it.
12/19/2011
Contributor: Ms. Spice Ms. Spice
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Originally posted by HannahPanda
People are allowed to share their opinions, even if it's "Hey, I have a child, I like children." It isn't argumentative. It isn't really polite to police what people reply with. If they aren't being argumentative, there's no issue.
yes, thank you. what i've read is that people state the number of kids they have and/ or they like kids. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

I'm childless for the time being, but I'm not sure if that will remain that way forever. I applaud those who are parents because it's a tough job.
12/19/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by HannahPanda
People are allowed to share their opinions, even if it's "Hey, I have a child, I like children." It isn't argumentative. It isn't really polite to police what people reply with. If they aren't being argumentative, there's no issue.
But, is this a thread about no children or about children? There are PLENTY of other places to post that sort of thing. I would greatly prefer that people refrain from talking about their spawn in a thread asking about childfree members.
12/19/2011
Contributor: AndroAngel AndroAngel
To be honest, it seems a bit passive aggressive when someone posts about being childfree, and others jump in saying what a blessing their kids are. For me, though, there's a difference between "I have kids" and "My kids are such a blessing."
12/19/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
No problem, it's just a tad annoying when people mix the two terms up. Calling people like myself 'childless', indicating that we just haven't 'grown up' yet and people who are going to reproduce 'childfree'. ... more
This site is dedicated to educating others and not being offensive to others. Let's all try to remember that those who are childfree don't necessarily want to hear about your children, and while you may think they're the best thing since vibrators, not everyone else does. But those who are childfree should remember that this isn't a site dedicated to those who are childfree and we should refrain from being offensive to others. I myself am not childless or childfree. It was a choice for me to get pregnant both times. I love my children dearly, though there are days where I wonder what the hell I was thinking!

I understand your frustration with the confusion of terms, let's focus on education rather than judgment since, obviously, some education is needed.

And for everyone, our decisions are our own and we should be respectful of the choices that others make for themselves. We don't need to call children brats or spawn or other derogatory names. We also don't need to tell those who choose not to have kids that they are missing out. Mutual respect will go farther in the pursuit of understanding!

Now enough with this and let's get back to our regularly scheduled poll!



oh, wait, this isn't roller derby:

12/19/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
This is normal talk though, I simply prefer to use other words to describe offspring. I did not indicate in the first post that parents should post here, I wanted to hear from others who do not wish to have children at all, and by a stretch, fencesitters that are unsure of their life choice.

This is just one thread and nothing more than that, I only added the poll option of 'not childfree' just to get a comparison of those with children that decided to pop in. They can post, just not about their kids, please. I'm sick of hearing about babies and whatnot from the baby-centric society we live in.
12/19/2011
Contributor: Avant-garde Avant-garde
Im childfree. I cant stand the little gargoyles. I would get a vasectomy tommorow if I could. However, it is super hard To find a eurologist that will do the procedure on someone as young as me. This society is way to child-centric. I am not the least bit impressed by most peoples ability or enthusiasm to have kids. I have far more admiration for those that choose not too.
12/20/2011
Contributor: GONE! GONE!
Childfree and definitely staying that way.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Chirple Chirple
I have a uterus. I never want to give birth to children.

I would be all for having it removed. I think my health insurance only covers it 50-50, I'd have to read the benefits again.


I've thought that maybe, some day many years in the future, I might adopt if I had a partner that wanted to. But it's not a desire to raise children, more of being older, more financially stable, and able to compromise.
12/20/2011
Contributor: jedent jedent
while i respect the decision to be childfree, i find it completely rude and offensive to refer to children as "sprogs, spawn, crotchfruit, gargoyles" etc. that's hatespeach that goes along the same lines as "faggot" to me.

i haven't seen a single post here say EEW CHILDFREE WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU WHY AREN'T YOU STUFFING YOUR UTERUS WITH SO MANY BABIES OMG WTF. all i've seen is people misunderstanding the concept and replying with simple "i have this many, they are neat."

after all, you were children once. regardless of whether or not you like children, hate children, or choose not to take them on for whatever reason, it's kinda jerky to be insulting when nobody here has insulted you.

name calling is childish.
12/20/2011
Contributor: The Mother of a SiNner The Mother of a SiNner
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
I'm childfree and I'm in the process of sterilization. I just signed my 30 day waiver (waiting time) for the procedure Essure.

I just wanted to know how many other people do not desire to reproduce or raise a child in any way.
ill neve rbe child free I have ahusband
12/20/2011
Contributor: zeebot zeebot
No desire for kids at all.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Breas Breas
*raises hand* for now, I am childfree. Eventually I will have children, just not right now.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Missmarc Missmarc
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
I'm childfree and I'm in the process of sterilization. I just signed my 30 day waiver (waiting time) for the procedure Essure.

I just wanted to know how many other people do not desire to reproduce or raise a child in any way.
I am childfree, and completely happy about it
12/20/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
I'm rugrat free and will remain that way. I want my tubes tied when I can.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Shellz31 Shellz31
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
I hope her wanting of children dies out soon or switches the 'want' thing to pets or a hobby. (My boyfriend's on the fence and he knows that if he ever wants crotchfruit I will leave him.)
Crotchfruit - I LOVE that .....
Cracked me up!
12/20/2011
Contributor: Bignuf Bignuf
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Originally posted by GonetoLovehoney
I'm childfree and I'm in the process of sterilization. I just signed my 30 day waiver (waiting time) for the procedure Essure.

I just wanted to know how many other people do not desire to reproduce or raise a child in any way.
We have a daughter. We wanted to have more. It was not to be, BUT, hey, we got it right the first time. As she is about to get married, we will be getting the son we wanted too, as part of the deal, so it is all good. However, I must say....there is nothing "FREE" about having a child (wink,nod). Expensive, OH YES.

We have friends and family that don't have, or want children. Maybe it is best that only people that want them, have them. Too often that is not the case.

Just make sure YOU really don't want them...not that you "haven't found the right partner yet" or "I like my money too much for myself" (that changes)....etc.

Just know your own REASON is valid to YOUR own intellect and heart also.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Hallmar82 Hallmar82
None right now, but we are planning on it in the future.
12/20/2011
Contributor: Alex R Alex R
Hey guys, what about if your parents decided to go childfree like a year before you were born?
then what?

I'm not childfree, just curious about the whole thing.
12/20/2011
Contributor: BBW Talks Toys BBW Talks Toys
Hey guys, let's remember what the OP wants to teach. There is a difference between childless and childfree. People who are childfree don't desire to have any children, at all, for any purpose. Childless is the choice to not have children at the current time.

We don't need to question their motives, they are their own. People who have children don't have to explain their motives for wanting to procreate, they shouldn't have to justify their reasons for not wanting to have any children.

If you have questions about what it means to be childfree, ask it in a respectful manner. I'm sure they're more than happy to answer any questions, so long as they're not put on the defensive.
12/20/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by Alex R
Hey guys, what about if your parents decided to go childfree like a year before you were born?
then what?

I'm not childfree, just curious about the whole thing.
Hmm, if my mother decided not to have me, I wouldn't care. I wouldn't be here.




*gasp* Also, stick another overly-used repeat of a Bingo on the sheet from another poster, not the one above, they just had a question.

By the way, the term 'Breeder' on the card below refers to people who have children just to have them and are convinced that EVERYONE should pop out a few in order to live a 'healthy, loving, and full life'. *checks off 'you were children once' Pfft, I hated children when I was one, moot point.

12/20/2011
Contributor: Liz2 Liz2
Right now I don't want a child but I do so in the future.
12/20/2011
Contributor: GonetoLovehoney GonetoLovehoney
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Originally posted by BBW Talks Toys
Hey guys, let's remember what the OP wants to teach. There is a difference between childless and childfree. People who are childfree don't desire to have any children, at all, for any purpose. Childless is the choice to not have children at ... more
Thank you for helping, it really is too bad that there are people out there that assume something's wrong with us for not wanting children or sending vitriol in the form of commonly-heard lines in the lifestyle.
12/20/2011