how old were you when you got married?

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how old were you when you got married?

GravyCakes GravyCakes
so, how old were you when you got married? i'm just curious, really. i'm not planning on getting married any time soon & refuse to do so before i'm 25. this is just what i want to do w/ my life, though, & have absolutely nothing against people who get married earlier than that. also, did you live together before you got married? i won't live w/ my bf before i'm married, but again, just what i want to do w/ my life. just curious. if you did live together before hand, do you think it helped you prepare for married life together?
09/22/2011
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ToyTimeTim ToyTimeTim
We have been together since Dec of '89, married in July of 2000. We were both 28. Lived with each other after three months of dating. I always recommend that couple live together first, things can change in a relationship when you live together. Better to know before you tie the knot.
09/22/2011
Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
so, how old were you when you got married? i'm just curious, really. i'm not planning on getting married any time soon & refuse to do so before i'm 25. this is just what i want to do w/ my life, though, & have absolutely ...
I married my first husband at 22 and we didn't live together, so as soon as we did live together he did a total 360 on me, and he was the opposite. 90% of the time if you don't live with the person first you won't know what they are like on a day-to-day basis, won't know if you can handle their bad habits or if they can handle yours, won't know what it's like to face them every moment you are both home, every day. I would never recommend to anyone that they not live with someone before getting married, but it's a personal choice, so of course I think that if you have personal reasons for not wanting to live with someone before marriage that is each individual's choice.

But it's a safer bet to do so, if you want more of a guarantee for the marriage to work out, or be what you want it to be.
09/22/2011
- Kira - - Kira -
My husband and I got married when I was 22 and he was 23. We lived together about 10 months before we got married but had been best friends for about four years before that.

I think living together helped prepare us for marriage. I'm really messy, so he got to see if he could deal with the hurricane I leave everywhere I go. He has a short fuse and leaves clothes everywhere, so I got to see if I could tolerate that. If everything had been thrown on me right after getting married I probably would have felt like I got duped.

Even with living together, we were both on better behavior for the first two years together than we are now (at five years). I joke with him that I still got duped because I dated this nice guy who brought me presents for no reason and was super sweet and ended up married to someone I have to basically buy my own presents with and remind to play nice. That's an exaggeration of course, but you get the point.

I'm glad we got married when we did and I'm glad we lived together before we got married. Wouldn't change a thing if I could do it over.
09/22/2011
KrazyKandy KrazyKandy
20 and yes we lived together for 2 years and the second year it was almost 24/7 since we both work at home and go out together.
09/22/2011
Gunsmoke Gunsmoke
Well - some of us have done this more than once. I was 22 at the time of my first ill fated marriage - which lasted 2 years.

The second is a much happier story, we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary. At this happier beginning I was 35 and my bride 24. It took me 10+ years of living life to the fullest for me to discover my soul mate. The ages and circumstances are so divergent that it hardly seems like it could have been 'happenstance' - for us, we believe it was meant to be.
09/22/2011
Ghost Ghost
I got married at 24, and I wish we had lived together first, but it did not work out that way because I suddenly lost where I was living and had to move in with him quickly.
09/23/2011
Peggi Peggi
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Well - some of us have done this more than once. I was 22 at the time of my first ill fated marriage - which lasted 2 years.

The second is a much happier story, we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary. At this happier beginning I was 35 and my ...
Congratulations. Love like that is hard to find and sometimes takes a while, I am glad that you found her and she found you!
09/23/2011
slynch slynch
I was 22 when I got married the first time.

I was 41 for my second marriage. We've been together a total of 11 years.
09/23/2011
WierdAl WierdAl
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
so, how old were you when you got married? i'm just curious, really. i'm not planning on getting married any time soon & refuse to do so before i'm 25. this is just what i want to do w/ my life, though, & have absolutely ...
We got married when I was 18 she was 19. We didn't live together b4 getting married. However we did move in together the day b4 we got married. The sad part is we got married the same day we graduated high school. And no we weren't pregnant.
09/23/2011
Tori Rebel Tori Rebel
I got married to the wrong man at 22. I left when I was 26. We were friends beforehand and lived together for almost a year in advance.
09/23/2011
padmeamidala padmeamidala
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Originally posted by GravyCakes
so, how old were you when you got married? i'm just curious, really. i'm not planning on getting married any time soon & refuse to do so before i'm 25. this is just what i want to do w/ my life, though, & have absolutely ...
I had my first marriage at 23 years old. We were both way too young and it didn't work out very well. We divorced. I am with my Master and we lived together for many years before we got married. I was 31 when I got married to him. Much older and wiser and was ready to settle down.
09/23/2011
Jul!a Jul!a
My husband and I were good friends before we got back together a few years ago. Lived together for 2 years before getting married, been married almost 9 months. The wedding happened 2 weeks before I turned 23 and a few months after he turned 24.
09/23/2011
JessCee JessCee
I haven't been married yet thank goodness. I was engaged to a man when I was 18 years old... I'm so thankful we didn't get married because he turned out to be a real loser.

I am glad I went through that relationship though, because from now on I'll take things slow and make sure I really know the guy.
09/23/2011
Beck Beck
I got married at 21. We had already had a one year old son and had been living together for awhile. Been together for 5 year total next month, married for year and half. We were friends before we dated, I was only 15 when we met. Did not start dating until I was few weeks away from 18. No intercourse until my b-day!
09/23/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
I was younger than 25 by a number of years. My husband was older than 25, by some years. I started dating him when I was 16. Still together.
09/23/2011
P'Gell P'Gell
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Originally posted by Gunsmoke
Well - some of us have done this more than once. I was 22 at the time of my first ill fated marriage - which lasted 2 years.

The second is a much happier story, we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary. At this happier beginning I was 35 and my ...
Sweet. It's good to find the One.

You and you're wife's story is oddly similar to mine and My Man's. He was never married before, but has has a serious thing with someone. She tried to warn me away from him. Like that was going to work. Made me want to see him more!

(She said he was a "horny bastard with hands like an octopus." Pfft. She was right.)
09/23/2011
Kkay Kkay
19. We lived together for six months, and we've been married for four years now. No regrets.
09/23/2011
GravyCakes GravyCakes
wow, a lot of people got married at 22.
09/23/2011
Pink Jewel Pink Jewel
I was married at 18. We have been married for 14 years now.
09/23/2011
hjtee hjtee
I got married at 20. Both of us were 20 actually.
09/24/2011
married with children married with children
23 I believe.
09/25/2011
Redboxbaby Redboxbaby
I had just turned 20, he was 22. We've been together for more than 18 years.
09/25/2011
Chilipepper Chilipepper
I was 23, he was 32 ... lasted for nine whole years, divorce at 33 for me and 42 for him. Did live together in my parents' house for nine months so save for the wedding, but I still had no clue how bad it was living with him until nine years later when I finally snapped and realized what was going on (celibacy, codependency, single-income [me], passive-agression, etc).

Going slow with Master now - since we're in different countries, I'm in life transition (college), and we've known each other for only six months. My mother is quite certain we'll be married, but we're not going to rush it (he was also previously married to the wrong person).
09/25/2011
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